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June 2013; Toddling into our second year!

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BeanCalledPickle · 15/08/2014 08:36

New thread ladies:-) I think we filled about ten threads when pregnant and this is only our fourth post natally!

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Sunbeam18 · 18/02/2015 14:10

Love the idea of a lid on your cot, Sunny! Not sure it would encourage calm sleeping, more a sense of being buried alive!
Well, I am happy nay delighted to announce we have had TWO nights in a ROW of sleeping through (7.45pm-7am). So that's three nights in the past week since we started the sleep training. The first night was hell (as you know) but no other night since has been like that and great progress has been made. YippeeGrin

cuphat · 18/02/2015 15:54

Yay sunbeam!

Grin at the lid!

SunnyL · 19/02/2015 07:01

Sunbeam thats brilliant.

Random question - do your little ones say their own name? Munchkin is obsessed with knowing people's names and practices saying them over and over but refuses to say her own name. Is she a little weirdo?

cuphat · 19/02/2015 08:34

DD does but then there's nothing she doesn't say nowadays! She only says it if we ask her to though. If she hears me calling DH by his name she starts saying his name rather than daddy which is quite funny to hear!

Learning update: we now have counting to fourteen and now she's learnt her colours she's moved onto shapes; she knows the basic shapes and keeps telling me when she sees circles.

She's now started using words to describe things too, so food she likes is 'nice' and flowers are 'pretty'.

And she keeps asking to know what different letters on her books are too! That makes me panic a bit though as I learnt to read at a young age (before nursery), but just knowing the alphabet normally. Phonics weren't taught at school either but seem to be taught in every school now and so I have no idea where to start with them. I know it's early to worry but I've heard that telling them the normal alphabet letters is bad and I automatically tell her the names of the letters.

I haven't purposefully tried to teach her anything but she keeps asking what everything is.

Mrs81 · 19/02/2015 09:07

Nah, not a weirdo Sunny Grin Admittedly ds doesn't do this but a- his name is quite tricky and b- he's taking his time with the whole vocab thing. His keyworker at nursery is trying teach him her name though!

Sunbeam18 · 19/02/2015 15:21

Nope, haven't heard him say his name yet. Just mummy, daddy, Ziggy (the cat) and Peppa Smile namewise!

Thank you for the learning update, cup!

SunnyL · 19/02/2015 17:38

Smashing. Good to know my little weirdo is not alone Wink

We've got Mummy, Daddy, Ta Ta (the dog), 'Ma (grandma), 'Pa (Grandpa) and 'Da (Grandad) and Gace (cousin Grace).

My mum who does the most childcare after DH and I is hoping that one day she will be added to the list of names. I'm trying to train Lil to say Granny but its just not sticking!

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BeanCalledPickle · 19/02/2015 19:12

Polly is funny with her words. She's like a foreigner who doesn't have confidence with speech but understands. I catch her whispering words but she won't say them out loud. I've never heard her say anyone's name to me but apparently she knows the key workers at nursery as Dee - Sandie and nana - Hannah. Wonder why she won't say them to us?!

Currently 29 weeks pregnant with a rotten cold and massive work load still. 7 more weeks at work all being well. Not sure how! I was bored last time when I finished at 35 and had her at 39. This time though I think I would actually appreciate the leave and peace more as we get such little time to ourselves now. And there is not a chance in hell I'm ever doing this again! Bet most of you have forgotten the misery. I did. Now I'm reliving it and cannot wait for it to be over!

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Sunbeam18 · 19/02/2015 19:39

Bean, Keir does that too! I caught him whispering 'baby' at a picture of a baby in his book but he won't say it when we read it together!
Sorry you are feeling rotten. You're right, I have no recollection of that stage. I would vote for finishing early if you can and having a bit of down time now we appreciate it for the gold dust that it is

cuphat · 19/02/2015 19:52

Ah at baby whisperers!

Being pregnant with a cold is horrid. Spent most of the first months suffering. I love pregnancy other than that though. We definitely don't want any more children but I like being pregnant and would happily have more babies (then give them away?!).

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BeanCalledPickle · 19/02/2015 20:40

There's a market for that Cuphat:-)

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cuphat · 19/02/2015 20:52

I'd love to but I don't think DH would be impressed!

cuphat · 19/02/2015 20:54

Plus I'm probably past it in terms of age.

Mrs81 · 21/02/2015 09:07

I'm permanently in awe of women pregnant who already have young children. I slept through most of 1st trimester with ds and had spd from 20-something wks.
To be honest we still sit on the fence re baby no. 2. I think that means not now, regardless of what we decide!

HungryHorace · 21/02/2015 14:01

DD wasn't even sleeping through when I got pregnant with DS. It was very hard!

I had SPD the second time. Don't fancy that again if we ever decide on a third.

cuphat · 21/02/2015 18:14

If I'd had a choice I'd have done what you did, Hungry. I imagine it was/is very hard but I'd rather get the hardest part over and done with as soon as possible. I'm not one who gets gooey over babies. DH wasn't sure if he even wanted a second up until just before I got pregnant this time around. In fact one of the conditions of ttc DD was that he only wanted one (and he didn't even want one for years)!

I was diagnosed with PGP/SPD before Christmas (brought on by weeks of coughing and then lifting DD set it off) but very luckily for me DH had time off over Christmas and fully relaxing so early on made it go away and it hasn't come back. I feel very lucky as I was told that it was very rare that it would get better and that it usually just gets worse. I have no idea how I'd have coped if that happened as I was in agony just walking a few steps when I had it, there's no way I'd have managed crutches and DD.

Sunbeam18 · 21/02/2015 18:50

Yeah, respect! Can't imagine being pregnant with a toddler.

Quick question: what time in the morning do your toddlers wake up? We had a 540am start this morning and hoping this isn't the start of a habit. We are not morning people...

cuphat · 21/02/2015 19:05

What time does he normally get up - was this the first time? Hopefully it was just a one-off. DD normally wakes between 7-7.30am but a year ago it was more like a 5am start! Luckily for us as we started putting her to bed earlier (7pm) she started to sleep in till later.

We had night terrors last night! Normally DD only wakes if she's ill or teething badly but she was shouting out no, no, no in her sleep and then woke asking for the things that were at a party she went to last week! Strangely she ate some cheese not long before bedtime (a one-off as DH was cooking meals for her while she was there); I thought the link was a myth but now I'm sure there's something in it.

Mrs81 · 21/02/2015 19:22

Anything after 6.30am is considered a lie in here (sob). We are morning people but there's morning and there's morning... It's quite unusual to be much before 6am though.

We all need to be out the house for work and nursery at 7.15am 3x week which means we've sort of had to get used to early starts. But it makes a big difference to my energy if I wake before DS...even if just by 5-10 mins.

Mrs81 · 21/02/2015 19:23

ps- eeeeek, night terrors Cup Sad Not nice for any of you. Hope it was a one-off!

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BeanCalledPickle · 21/02/2015 19:56

I've nearly picked myself off the floor at th suggestion HH would have a third....!

I've found it hard second time round. The juggle of work, nursery, pregnancy and toddler. I wouldn't have been able to do it sooner as I got promoted on my last maternity leave and it would have felt really off to go back for less than a year! Also physically impossible as breastfeeding stopped my periods until ten months. I read somewhere that if we left it entirely to nature, no formula, no contraceptives etc then we would even out at around a three year gap between children which is apparently natures ideal. On the basis the older one is more able to cope and you are physically ready for the second. This would have suited me but for my increasing age and DHs geriatric status. I had really felt like I'd begun to get my life back though and am entirely unready to give it all back up! But then I'm quite focused on work and not very good at being at home with small children. I really think I will enjoy it when they are older but for now it's such a bloody slog at times! Saying that had lunch with friends and their seventeen year old dd and wanted to keep polly forever Young!!

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Sunbeam18 · 21/02/2015 20:01

Well, our normal is in flux at the moment due to the sleep training, cup. In the old days he'd wake between 7 and 8; since we started sleep training it's been more like 7 or earlier. This morning was the first pre 6. I really don't want to get up earlier than 7.

Sunbeam18 · 21/02/2015 20:02

Sorry about the night terrors - that must have been horrible

HungryHorace · 21/02/2015 20:05

It's only a vague idea...I think I don't feel 'done' because I'd really like a VB rather than an EMCS / ELCS. But by the time we review it I'll be 40, so we shall see. I detest pregnancy, so I'd have to really want a third!

I've gone back onto the pill instead of the injection today though, just in case, as I don't want the injection to bugger my chances up if we decide to go for it.

I imagine we won't have another to be honest.

DD has bad dreams too, though it's teething screwing things up this week. Tooth 11 finally appeared overnight.

As for waking, any time after 7 really, though sometimes around 6, but I rarely see her before I go to work at 6.30am. Occasionally 8, but that's seriously rare.

cuphat · 21/02/2015 21:01

I was surprised at the suggestion too! But only because I thought you only wanted two. I can understand you wanting to experience that. Well, I say that but personally I'm quite happy to never have that experience myself!

The only thing that makes me definite that I don't want more is the middle child thing. I had a great childhood as one of two, so did DH, and the siblings I know where there are three or more often seem to have various issues (later on). Probably a very silly reason, and I know that two siblings can have issues and there are plenty of large families where there are none but it's something that's always stuck with me.

My periods returned at 8 months and that was with constant breastfeeding still. But during the day only; I guess I'm lucky they didn't come back earlier due to DD sleeping through from an early age.

That probably explains it then sunbeam. I'm sure it'll sort itself out as he gets used to it. Fingers crossed sooner rather than later.

Re teeth, DD had none till 12 months, then 12 came through really quickly but we've been stuck on 12 for months!