November 2012 - Bring on the summer fun

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2096331-November-2012-All-our-babies-are-18-months-where-has-the-time-gone

Nursery v nanny is our current debate yellowwellies as when DD is one she'll need to start somewhere and 3 children at our nursery (which is absolutely fab) at approx £65 per child per day is v expensive!

Also when our eldest starts school in sept 15 we'll need to work out what to do after school on the 3 days I work. As I work for myself I am, flexible about what hours I do but I do need at least 3 full days worth of child free time to get things done.

DS1 still sometimes cries when I drop him off - especially in the run up to the birth and now she had been born. I expect he was sensing all the changes to come and it unsettled him. DS2 is usually fine being dropped off but I don't know, they are so young to be at nursery all day and maybe a nanny at home would be nicer for them. On the other hand they would lose much of the social side and I really do love the nursery and their staff.

Anyway, back to your actual question, I'd speak to the childminder as I suppose the timing will really depend on whether she has space. If she is amazing then I guess she will also be v popular and spaces snapped up quickly. If you can reserve a space for the future that's great otherwise you may just have to take a space as soon as it arises.

I'd try and avoid making the change near to due date / soon after birth as I think the extra change at that time when J will already experiencing so much change could be upsetting for him. Our nursery is making an extra fuss of A at the moment to help compensate for him not getting as much attention from me at home.

Wow that was a long post!

Oh and paisley and donna, L doesn't speak yet either. I called health visitor about it yesterday as nursery have also commented on it. The HV really doesn't think I should worry but offered to put me on the list to see a speech and language therapist as it can take 12 - 16 weeks to get an appointment. She thinks it will be likely he'll be saying some words by then but won't hurt to see someone. If there is an issue I'd rather find out earlier than later.

Having said all that A didn't really start saying many words until 2 and now he is 3 he where he should be for his age so I'm not particularly worried yet.

See we're in a weird one. L speaks in whole sentences, sings songs and has a huge vocab. However he won't speak at nursery. Only if he is one on one or asks ' get down please' etc

YW does the Nursery offer funded preschool? If so, leave him there, and let LO either go to a CM or Nursery. Both my younger ones have been at Nursery from a year, and they both had an older sibling there, but not in the same room. I personally think letting them have time with children their own age is a better option than being at a CM together, but you know I am a firm supporter of Nurseries as I was badly let down by CMs.

7.30! A record in this house. He was in bed with us from 1am though as his skin is mega sore (dip with dairy in it at Nursery and lots of water play) He did settle quickly though with me holding his hands so he couldn't scratch.

VQ if the nursery did funded preschool I'd definitely consider leaving him there but sadly they don't. Financially I can't afford to ignore that from 3 he could go to the nursery 'preschool' at what will be his primary with his future school pals every morning - for free. It would reduce our childcare costs by a quarter. But he'd need to be with a CM to do the pick up and drop off. I think a smaller group of kids would be fine, given from 3 half the day will be at preschool I would like him to spend the rest of the day with a sibling. Hmmm a lot to think about - thanks for your help loves. Rowing £65 a day - eek I'm not complaining about costs again!

I know, it's gutting how much we spend. Infact just checked with dh and for L it is £72 per day and for A it is £63 per day. We spend more on childcare than we do on our mortgage!

(And our mortgage is huge!)

Morning!

Hit the pub last night so feeling slightly more jaded than yesterday.

Anyway. With DH getting a job we now have to plan for p to be in full time child care. Our wonderful CM has offered to to one more day a week which is fantastic. We are off to view a private nursery next week for the one remaining day. It is all such a big consideration so no advice yw but there have been lots of useful thoughts given on here.

That cost is eye watering rowing!

DH messaged this morning saying that after a very late night last night p was up at 4:45 this morning! She never, ever does that. I suspect it was the lack of a black out blind. They were at the beach by 7am!

Wow your nurseries are expensive. Mine are in 40 hours a week and we pay €380 a month each and that is at top rate (it's means tested). Some people only pay €100 a month for 10 hours a day.

I think therefore that could be a good solution yw as J will be in pre school part time. I was a little wary of you taking him out of such a social setting. As I said I can't imagineeither of mine with a CM now they'd go nuts. And drive a CM nuts. Your CMs seem better than the ones we have over here.

I feel hanging. 4th night in a row where I have finished work at 1 and F has woken at 5. Dh declared he was "tired" twat - don't talk to me about tired man

Anyway. Glad people had fab evenings put, hope the hangovers are subsiding.

Another day of sunshine.

Shame F is on one.

Hiya
Posted here aaaaages ago under Roopoo.
Took a break from mumsnet for a while and am back with a diff name now :-)
My DS has had his surgery now and is doing well.
He only sat at 11 months and only walked two months ago. He has no words yet but babbles. Not sure if we have babied him because if surgery or if he just takes a little longer to reach milestones than other babies.

I've tried to read updates on your threads and you make me laugh and nod in agreement with the trials of parenthood :-)

Rowing just think how rich you'll feel when they're all in school!

Butch hiya! For what its worth, J was only walking at 17 months - and that's without a need for an op, and lots on here are babbling but not speaking - so your wee one really isn't behind! What was the op for?

Pikz sounds like L might be a bit shy to chat at nursery, I was like that when wee - he'll come round

Pass I highly recommend our Nursery and they do funded pre-school places. It is on your way to work and near where you are thinking of living. Drop me a line if you want to know more.

That is excellent PR. If it were like that here more people would be able to work.

Welcome back to those who have been away a while. I will try to remember the name changes

YW that makes sense. Most child minders I have asked charge the full day even if kid is at school nursery. Hope yours is a bit more accommodating.

yw if it were me I would move him asap so he doesn't have too much change when baby arrives. Obviously that depends on availability. Have you spoken to the cm about it yet?

Nursery here is £44 per day or £215 per week full time. C is doing a morning a week to start with then we will increase probably after Christmas then again when we get funding at 3. I have all his registration forms to fill in this weekend. Great. Four whole frigging booklets.

We had an awful night's sleep. It seems C has passed on his horrendous cold to both of us. Beautiful day though.

Butch welcome back.
h didn't start walking until late either.

Aibu to have burst out laughing when LO burped a full sentence out (gimme dolly)? She's a little at my laughing at her. It's amused my inner child no end.

I asked her if she had a sore tummy and DD1 bent down, sniffed her nappy and said "no, she's not done caca".

That was not a stealth boast. It was a two word sentence.

Burping words out isn't a recognised milestone unfortunately

It isn't? Oh bugger

I knew someone would agree it should be.

And I knew it would be Pass

Haha pr

Nursery here is affordable if state. O will go 20 hours a week and it will cost me about £50 a month. It's very difficult to get into a state nursery , she only got in because Leo is dead. Private nurseries cost way too much, I wouldn't be able to afford it.

So I've been taking driving lessons, 7 so far. I have a licence but haven't driven in 11 years. At all. And today I took my father' scar out and went really well. Next step is buying one that I actually like and afford. Feels very grown up.

Butch my little only started walking just before he turned 18 months and doesn't talk yet either so you are definitely not alone.

Nurseries round my way in south London are on average about £65 to £70 a day

Good tip re the nursery vq- I may well take you up on that offer. We are now considering staying in this town rather than moving but nothing will happen anytime soon. Weird how as soon as it became possible it took the urgency out the situation.

Oh. And being at the uni conference has thrown me into yet another "I have an academic point to prove and would love to do another degree". I would absolutely love to do something like psychology but alas it is not to be.