March 2013 - 6 months down, 210 to go!

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Keep on rambling, ladies, we have a whole new thread to fill!

Stormy Eight? By which point you won't care

Oh I've remembered what I was going to say, before the Plonk distracted me with her wedding plans.... SoYo love your dress. You look beautiful. As did Eco in hers. Such a good looking bunch, the Marchers, and I'm not just talking babies. Did anyone else one here not do the traditional white look on their big day? Plonky are you going to on yours? One of my school friends got married in scarlet and black and looked frankly fantastic, whereas I after a brief flirtation with bright purple (veto-ed by everyone especially my mum) ended up with something my DH pulled randomly from a rack in the first shop he dragged me into. I got lucky with his randomness as it was lovely, if not particularly wedding-y.

Eco the running thing. I just sort of went. Given you've been walking up mountains from the get go I'd say just go too. You should be fine. Only caveat I had to wait until I'd stopped bf-ing as until the hormone drop off my ligaments were too soft and I had residual SPD in my hips.

Homeopathy. No clue, although I can confirm that the homeopathic powders the GP prescribed me for a chest infection did FA good, and I had to go back to his colleague for antibiotics.... which did the job.

Wonders weeks and other funnies aside my mum radar is telling me the worselet is not herself, so she's going to see nice Mr doctor tomorrow. Nappies arrive at most once every 5 days, and only if I feed her copious amounts of prune juice and dose her with lactulose. She is straining and crying every day, before giving up. She won't eat solids, struggles with her milk, thrashes about in her sleep and alternates between completely manic and a bit lethargic. Yesterday started at 5am, involved very few naps and had me in tears by 9pm. My diagnosis is a blockage, and my concern is why it has happened. Constipation has been a regular problem since she was born, and I've had a niggling worry that there might be a problem with her bowel. Fingers crossed there isn't.

Mooncups ahh i bought one 7 years ago tried it but just couldn't get to grips with it , its been sat in its wee bag ever since .

well Mini Farmer is all mixed up due to clocks changing he's now asleep approx 5.30 - 5.45 pm poor wee soul almost fell sleep with his head on his highchair last night having his dinner ....He is still asleep just now bless him .

who do I'm pm my FB name to ?

Hope everyone is well
Remember we are All doing a Fantastic job x

La Plonkarino is the mistress of all things facebook. Probably a good idea to give her a description of your profile picture too, unless you have an incredibly unusual name.

Clock change here means Fartypants waking me up at five in the morning instead of six. So very not impressed with this!

Why has the boy lost the ability to nap!

Oh worse I hope there's nothing serious wrong and just some severe blockaging that needs shifting. The doc'll give you a suppository hopefully, which'll sort it fairly straight away. Poor worselet. DD was same for two days with constipation and i've no idea what caused it

Like Any, I hope you're worrying about nothing Worse.

Worse hope dd gets better soon! that sounds incredibly uncomfortable.

Christi pm me your name and a description of your profile picture (so I know it's definitely you), I'll add you as a friend then invite you to our group.

I am beyond knackered. Ds is still under the weather so had a somewhat disturbed night, though nothing too dramatic. DP had a mega coughing fit so I was awake from 2-3.30 am, thinking 'if I fall asleep now I have to get up in x hours...' Then went to work and moved ALL THE CHAMPAGNE EVER each box weighs roughly the same as DS, and I was at it non stop for nearly six hours. Thankfully I came home to a slow cooker full of casserole.

If ds is the same tomorrow I doubt well both make it into work. It's got to be teething but he's clearly fighting something off.

And in wedding news, I have bought our white wine! Big promotion was utterly irresistible thanks to my hefty discount. Very pleased.

Plonky .... how do i PM ?

Have a look at one of my posts. On the blue bar with my name and timestamp on it...look to the right side of that and click message poster.

Wors let us know how the Dr goes, hope it's just the vicious circle of constipation and can be easily remedied.

Plonky which wine did you go for?

worse hope the trip to the docs will get DD sorted

plonk eeeeek! I love wedding talk! And yey! for setting a date. So exciting. And double yey!! for the wine also, I hope DS manages to fight whatever it is off and just concentrates on those teeth!

I dragged DS all the way to work for a meeting today (which my manager and HR had forgotten about), then had to wait in town all day for an evening audition for a show next year. I've been out of the house ten hours! Gah. Luckily, DP came to pick DS up so my friend took me out for a meal. Paid and everything. I was sitting in the restaurant, looked around and said "that highchair is so cool"...this is what motherhood has done to me!

worse, glad mr doctor is nice. hope he has answers and reassurance (and no homeopathy!). as soyo says, let us know. poor worselet. lets hope it's all part of getting familiar with food.

Eco the baby dr is lovely, has a clue, and prefers the scientific approach, so I have some hope he'll sort it. Thanks all. I'm probably being a bit pfb, but persistent constipation??? Not good...

Plonky, wow, you're organised! Wine already? I'm impressed

Something I just snorted tea! A 'cool' highchair . Love it. I'm also secretly envious. The tiddler's highchair is not cool. It is not even practical. It is a monstrosity in plastic of a size so huge a baby elephant could use it quite comfortably. Should a baby elephants have use for highchairs that is. This is why gifts are not always a good thing.

Not much else to report from here, other than the worselet did actually sleep. Eventually. Anyone else finding the 7 month+ phase 100 times tougher than before? I look back with fuzzy nostalgia at the days when I could set her down for 5 minutes and turn my back without fear of the unknown. Now everything requires split second precision planning and a strong arm. Leave her for a second and she rolls off the carpet and bashes her head on the wood floor or the furniture.... and the rolling and wriggling when trying to bath, dress, or change her is a nightmare in a cotton onsie. The thought of her walking is actually starting to scare me!!!

Have good days all.

Something ooh I get excited over high chairs too. Was very impressed that Jamie Oliver's has the stokke right-up-to-the-table jobber. If anything it goes a long way to making up for his benefits bashing.

DS seems a bit better but both cheeks are bright red and he's grumpy. Come oooonnnnnnn teeth!

I'm probably not going to last much longer at work. Hence sorting the booze now!

worse have to agree with you that the current age is a bugger. Maybe it's teeth, maybe it's impending wonder week, maybe it's clocks changing combined with dropping a nap, but DD is being a right little sod at the moment. And she's determined to break her head today.

So, last night we had a nice, normal bedtime, then twenty minutes later the screaming started. Neither of us could settle her. Eventually, the man ended up holding her and wandering about upstairs because then she was quiet. So we did a test. Take baby towards cot: screaming. Take baby away from cot: no screaming. Take baby into other room and let her see the cats: massive grin. She's just dicking about because she doesn't want to go to bed, isn't she? Argh! And then at half four this morning I needed the loo and heard her whimpering, so I stuck my head in to check she had a dummy and flip her if needed. No flip required, but she was wedged in a corner on her side - when she's on her tummy there isn't the space to roll onto her back, it seems. Anyway, as soon as I went in she started screaming. About two minutes after I left, she stopped and went back to sleep. So our revised plan for dealing with screaming during sleep times is: leave her to it.

plonky congrats on the wedding news. Cant believe you have a date already. This time last week it was years away now its a few months away eeekkk. Does your ds have any teeth yet? We have had weeks of being miserable but no teeth yet. I was hoping ds would be like something's LO and had lots of teeth with little effort.

worse hope the dr will sort the constipation issue with dd.

Happy halloween everyone. We have our pumpkin and an outfit to mark the occassion. i know im being pfb

Got to go ds has woken will catch up with

stormy we are at that phase too. The sight of the cot makes ds scream but starts smiling when back in the living room. I thought he was crying from teething pain but surely he would continue crying being in any room. Oh and he is incredibly clingy. I know i was stupidly wishing this but by god I cannot do anything. He keeps tugging at my leg wanting me to pick him up. I think im ready to go back to work. I feel bad for thinking this.

Sorry ignore last sentence in first post. Kt was just a whimper in his sleep.

Yeah, the man thought DD was in pain too. "Look at the way she's writhing in pain!" he said. "Look at the way she stops as soon as you pick her up," I said, "She's having us on."

You're allowed to want to go back to work for a break though. I doubt there are many parents out there who could stand being with their child 24/7 without going mad. Even when they're going through easier phases, you still need some headspace for yourself. It's just not one of those things it's really considered acceptable to admit to, for some reason.

Well the good news is the dr isn't worried, as given she did her first meconium nappy within 24hrs of birth the problem is unlikely to be physical. The bad, the poor little mite is on senna and lactulose for the foreseeable, so I predict an explosive few days ahead. Apparently small people like large people are all different, and some find digestion easier than others. I am one of the others. My digestion is shot. Looks like I may have passed on this particular trait to my offspring. Reason number one to hate me when she is 13 and compiling a list.

KFF you wouldn't be the first to say that, and you won't be the last. I think it is a generally accepted truth that 24/7 baby care can break anyone. The only time I thought it weird was when a colleague took the minimum 2 weeks maternity leave before rushing back to the office and booking a full time nanny. It wasn't like she had the world's most important job or anything, she just didn't much like children. I almost gave myself a wedgie hoiking up the judgy pants. I appreciate this was sexist and wrong, but I'm afraid I couldn't help myself.

Right, time to go and put some mush into a dish, lightly warm it, offer it to the worselet, before throwing it away and offering milk. It's a little ritual we have. It amuses us both.

AIBU to be pissed off? DH does a busy job and always has so I knew this when I married him and so obviously can't moan too much. Officially he works 8-5 on normal days but in reality it's 7.30-6.30ish and some of that is that he's choosing to be there rather than it's expected. Obviously there's his on calls and shift work on top of that. At the moment he's at work more, but he's just started back at the hospital he wants to eventually be a consultant in and working for the guy who might well give him that job so he wants to make a good impression. He's just text me to say his boss has asked him if he wants to come and assist him at the private hospital on Saturday and he wants to. He'll be payed for this and it looks good doing it but he gets very little time with DD (and me) anyway so I'm annoyed that he's giving up one of the days he gets to be with us for yet more work plus it's the only day I get a lie in

Oh SoYo, it's tough, I've been there, but I'm afraid I have to say you AB(a tiny)BU. Try and look at it this way, he's doing this not just for himself but for you and dd too. A successful career, and a consultant role at a hospital near to home will long term pay off for your family. The trouble is, to get there it will require a level of commitment to the job which will take an adverse toll on family life.

My only advice: 1. don't put your own career on the back burner just to support him. I did this, it was a mistake and I regret it, and 2. make the most of every minute you have together, don't waste in on pointless domesticity. Get a cleaner, order your groceries on-line, take all your holiday (no storing it up and getting it paid off at year-end), put things in the diary so you always have something to look forward to - even if it is only a meal out, or a trip to the zoo. Tell him you'll miss him, rather than you're pi55ed off. Everyone reacts better when they feel they are wanted rather than being nagged.

There ends another lesson in how not to mess up your marriage like Worse did [disclaimer: fell free to ignore everything I say. It's not like I've agreat track record to follow....]

soyo that's really tough - especially when equality shifts away even more no matter what the expectation. It's one of the reasons DH and I work very hard to both have an equal balance in work and home. If it were me in the same situation I would have a very frank discussion with DH about his priorities and what you are giving up and presumably the fact that it will be his turn to take a step back once you are back at work in the future and progressing your career.

worse I see nothing wrong with a mum going back to work after two weeks if that what suits her - no different from the millions of men who do exactly the same thing.

kff work is the thing that keeps me sane. I am definitely not cut out to stay at home all day with children as much as I adore DD. I love playing with her but I hate the drudgery of the practical side childcare and the relentless of it all. I think it's normal and it's just the societal expectations that we are supposed to want to do it that makes it feel harder to admit. men have it great in that respect!

worse glad the news was quite positive from the doctor and hope your little one feels more comfy soon!

soyo you have my sympathys. I totally get what you mean. I think its about finding the right work/life balance. The new business has meant dh is preoccupied a lot of the time. Our one day we get together over the past 2-3wks has been spent not talking to one another over stupid things. He always says the business doesnt look after itself, we dont want to lose business blah blah etc. I then say if you dont look after your relationship/family that will break and i flounce .

worse you are a woman of wise words. Not nagging is easier said than done. Probably more so when being a sahm clock watching when dh comes home to rescue you.

Oh and about the 2 weeks mat leave. I couldnt even sit down never mind going back to work.

Anyone missing the newborn day naps? When it was more than twice a day and went to sleep after rocking and a lullaby.

Rainbow you are of course absolutely right, but it was her attitude that got me. She was so cold towards her kids, and claimed she only had them because her and her husband were of such superior intellect they owed it to the future of society to pass on their genes. I sincerely hope she was joking when she said this, but I fear she wasn't.

DH went back to work after two weeks so, yup double standards. I guess what I'm trying to say is it is nice if one parent is there for at least a little while at the start. To be raised by a nanny from 2 weeks old is sad don't you think?