Is there a September 2013 group yet?

[Gingerandlemon]

Just that really! I gave birth two weeks ago on 1st September and am so ready to start asking everyone if they're going through the same stuff as me!!

Can someone add me please? I only have internet accessing my phone and can't copy and paste -sorry! My girl was born

Dang sorry - girl was born on 23rd September

hmm I don't think ds has colic as he doesn't cry. He actually rarely cries. I think he's getting frustrated as I'm still struggling with our latch on the right boob so he's on and off, therefore sucking in bits of air. Been youtubing some BF vids so going to have another go when he wakes up. Is anyone else having trouble BFing on one side? midwife says it can happen and baby might just prefer one side which is ok but I'll need to express the other side but I'm scared to ruin it all by giving him a bottle before I've given it a chance to get established.

There ya go rollermum
pinkapple My right isn't great also (and all my righthanded friends who have BF have said the same.....- so may be linked to using righthand more confidently to feed at left breast?
Have you tried feeding lying down?

My right boob is deffo leakier and faster flowing- so baby guzzles lots of air in and tends to be more sick and need more burping. But left breast is his favourite- he latches perfectly!

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Astroming: boy
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Joskar: girl

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Thanks Fl0b0t!

Mooster - just coming back to you on the maternity nurse agency, not sure where you're based but the place my friend used was Silent night Nannies, in London - silentnightnannies.co.uk, but she found them just by googling so I guess you could do that for your local area...

Thanks everyone for being lovely. And thanks for bothering to checkout the nanny stuff something. Good job I didn't read the thread last night or you would have made me cry...

Interesting on the sleeping on side idea - I'd heard about this but have been too paranoid. Might ask the HV about it this week.

Tonight has been so much better - DH took DD from 8-12, then she slept until 1.30, and again until 4.30, in her basket. I'm letting her go to sleep on men ow and will try transferring again in a bit. But even if it doesn't work, I've had a lot more sleep than usual...

pink, I gave a bottle of expressed milk very early - week 2 or 3 I think (already can't remember) - and did it every day. It hasn't caused any probs with BF, and I think I did it because I read some research saying that it actually doesn't.

Livvy could you put a dvd on and barricade the three of you in a room, and at least doze during nap time?

Do you go to bed as soon as ds does? I am only surviving because as soon as Casper has finished his evening feed-a-thon, I go to bed. Not really seen dh for four weeks, but sleep is top priority atm.

Those of you with much older kids, how are they? DD is still sad that C isn't a girl, and she said yesterday there are times she wishes things were back how they used to be. I suppose it's good she can express these things, but it made me really sad. DD is 9.

I had a much better evening yesterday and will try the same tonight to see if it wasn't a fluke... Went to bed straight after dinner, about 8pm. Fed baby on and off for three hours while reading a book - the plan was to see if it was the stimulation of TV screens that was causing the evening fussiness. Sometimes I couldn't read the book because baby was wriggly and wanted to play, and the feeding was on off on off but not in the screaming fussy way of some evenings. Think we settled down to sleep about 11.30 and got a four hour stretch, but again I didn't turn on any lights to actually see the time. The last wake up that I couldn't get back to sleep from was 5.20 so I'll definitely need an afternoon nap today!

But when am I going to fit in watching Strictly, Montalbano, Grand Designs...?

Holy cow my baby is hungry! I'm starving but baby has been on the Boob for 45 mins! I'm in bed still...

Hi all! Finally checking in - little girl born 18th sept.
am bf and its going ok, apart from trying a bottle -have been expressing some milk when I can and tried it in a bottle at 3 weeks exactly and again yesterday (3.5 weeks)
Total and complete refusal by dd! Crying and pulling away and not a solitary suck. I was surprised as when she was 2or 3 days old I had to give her a couple ounces of formula in a bottle which at that point she took no probs - and seemed to know how to suck the teat. I guess that now it's a few weeks later she's fully in the bf sucking technique so now the bottle is alien. She also won't have a dummy.
Any tips?

Hi All, if anyone is on a computer can you add me on to the birth list at some point, boy, 21st Sept. Finding it hard to move off the sofa as DS only seems to like to sleep on me during the day! As soon as i try to put him in his Moses basket, he wakes up and cries. It's forcing me to relax (and watch lots of daytime TV) but it's frustrating at times when i need to go and put some washing in or sterilise bottles or just eat!

At night, he sleeps in his cot on a Cocoonababy mattress, was expensive but we have found he sleeps really well on it and rarely cries/screams. Got ours from Jojo when they were doing a discount day and dont regret it as DS will settle himself to sleep in it, sleep for 4 hours, wake up for a feed and then sleep for another 3 hours, feed again and then sleep a bit longer. However, he seems to know that's for night and wants to sleep on me in the day!

I have moved pretty much just to formula now as was struggling to find the time to express enough and DS just getting too stressed trying to latch. Appreciated all the support on this thread though and fl0 read your thread about feeding as well which helped me realise bf is definitely not straightforward for many of us! Just using the ready made formula cartons for now for ease and read they are better for baby when under a month old (i guess less risk as already sterile), costing us a fortune but just doing what we can to make our lives easier.

We have also given in and bought DS a dummy at the weekend. I always said i hated them but he was constantly wanting to suck and i kept offering him the bottle which i think meant he was overfeeding and just sicking it back up. He doesnt use the dummy for long but just sucking it for a couple of minutes seems to help soothe him when he's distressed.

So i am now ff and using a dummy which was not my plan at all but like the birth (which ended up as an EMCS), i am realising with babies there's not much point having a plan, it's better just to go with the flow and react to whatever seems to be best for you and your baby.

Hope everyone ok today and getting some sleep.

redbird you're right about plans! I think the most you can have is an idea of ideals and open mind to the options! We've not gone down dummy route as he doesn't Seem too bothered by sucking!

Redbird I was really tempted by the Cocoonababy mattress, but was a bit put off by the price, but now I'm not sure - I'd pay that much for a few good nights sleep! Do you find its ok in a cot & baby's safe from falling off it?! DD isn't good at settling in her crib despite having fleecy sheets & rolled up towels to wedge her in...

Weird question - does anyone else get a weird pinching sensation on the back of their upper arm when breastfeeding? It's very odd and I don't know if its normal or not! Dr google reveals nothing :)

weareboats I have a similar thing but in my armpit - one side only. I was thinking it must be far back breast tissue but it is really far back so could be similar. I've been massaging it which seems to help.

Glad it's not just me roller. I was starting to worry about it as its such a strange feeling but like you, only on one side (my right). I'm surprised noone else has mentioned it?

Tales of a Wannabe Breastfeeder

Sunday Worst day ever. Complete breast refusal. So much as a sniff of me and she was going mental. A wee crimson octopus with flailing fists. I have never cried so much. Emotionally at the end of my tether. My mind harking back to the HV's parting words to me on Friday: "I never had a problem breastfeeding my children. I'm trying to imagine what it must feel like. It's a massive rejection of you, isn't it?"

Quite.

By Monday morning I was so upset DH and I were seriously considering throwing in the towel and just going with the formula. After all it has to be better than the rage my daughter displays at the very notion of feeding at the breast. It won't give her three heads. It'll be fine.

Monday 11 am DD accepts the breast and feeds as though she has always done this and doesn't stop until 11 at night. Genuinely. As cluster feeding goes I'd say 12 hours is not half bad. I think there was maybe three or four 20 min periods when she didn't feed at the breast. Utterly shattered but can't stop grinning.

Tuesday Feeds all day from 4 am no bother. A few hours of sleep (together) this time. Am exhausted but totally delighted.

Who has stolen my daughter and replaced her with this other calm, boob loving bairn?

Yay Joskar! That's great I wonder what changed? Either way it sounds likeshe clicked with it.

That's amazing Joskar, such good news!! 12 hours is a proper marathon.., But at the HV's comment... Really not v helpful!

Just catching up after an odd weekend. DS1 was poorly and spectacularly vomited on the floor. So far he's kept it to himself for which I am v grateful!

Please can I be added to the birth list too?! DS2 born 5 Sept.

Colicky symptoms seem to be worse in the evening here so we've started gripe water a few times a day to help with getting some air up. Think his slightly odd feeding style from his tongue tie is the cause. Despite it being cut he doesn't latch quite like he should.

Re sleeping positions DS1 was a horrible sleeper. Hated being on his back and would wake after 20 mins. In the end I put him on his tummy for a daytime nap - and watched him - he slept for hours! I then had him sleeping on his sides with a rolled up towel behind him - all worked a treat. As he was in a non smoking house I decided this was best for him. He still sleeps on his tummy at 3 YO.

Joskar - your efforts have been amazing -
So pleased for you!

I feel for you livvy - don't know how people manage two! I second the going to bed early - could you express for a 9/10 pm feed and run away to bed at 7or 8? It's the only thing keeping me going.

So pleased for you joskar - I hope she keeps it up!

So lex do you think the tv was a factor? Have been wondering the same about DD but feel a bit bad handing her over to DH for the evening and banning the telly as well.

That cocoonababy mattress looks great - might be the answer for my Moses basket refuser but bloody hell it's expensive, especially since LO is already six weeks and it seems to only be recommended for the first few months... Anyone else got one?

And YY to the pointlessness of plans... And to ever thinking anything is a pattern, or that any cause-effect relationship can be found!

something lovely and mooster re: cocoonababy mattress, yes price seems to have gone up even more since i bought mine plus you will need a spare sheet unless you keep washing the same one. I managed to get mine under £100 with a Jojo Maman Bebe discount but only justified that by looking at resale value on ebay which was close to £80!
They now seem to be £130 everywhere but also out of stock when i looked at John lewis, Amazon and Jojo so that doesnt help (Jojo will take orders but with 5 week leadtime).

It has worked well for us, we have it in the cot but to make sure it wasnt too high, we dont have the normal cot mattress in there at the moment, we just placed a blanket underneath it so it's not on bare slats. DH had alread built the cot with the base at the highest level and couldnt face redoing it but would also be fine to place straight on to cot mattress if you had the base lower. You cant use it in a Moses basket as it's too high but you could just use the Cocoonababy mattress by itself as well as the baby is strapped in. Defintely feels safe. It will also ne good for nights away from home. So i would recommend it despite the price, however if your baby is already a few weeks old and you're going to have to wait a few weeks for it to arrive, not sure it will be worth it as can only be used for approx 4 months.

Lastly just to add to joskar, well done, really impressed with you keeping going with bf (we have switched to formula but admire anyone with more patience than me when faced with a screaming baby to keep going). Not very helpful comments from HV though!!

Hurrah joksar. No rhyme or reason, just perseverance! Well done!