FEB 2010 Proper threenagers now!!

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Come on in, Chicas!

Dive into the bubbly and home-baking and take advantage of our deluxe creche....

those they are definitely more expensive but because your DD2 mind she might accept more easily a product design for bigger girls.

Last word promise! Show them to her because they go up to 15 yo so she shouldn't feel bad about it...

CP, there is a school of thought that taking nappies off at night speeds up night dryness because otherwise the night nappies wick away the moisture and the child can't feel the wetness. However, I think this is bobbins, and that ADH levels have to be adequately high before night dryness can happen. I have been very lucky with my two that they have more or less done night and day dryness at the same time, but dd1 (aged seven) has several friends who aren' there yet. One of my mum chums persists in putting her ds1 in pyjamas only, mainly because his younger brother is dry at night, but she ends up washing sheets and drying mattresses almost every day. Each to their own, but I'm not sure I would be as calm with all that as she is!

So this is a very roundabout way of saying that I think that you are doing exactly the right thing. Reassure her that it will come in time, and carry on as you are while her nappy is soaked in the morning.

SR that is weird because DD2 is waking up in the morning when she pees, she is just already peeing instead of waking up before she needs to go. I could wake up before her and get her to go, I suppose ... [where is the tired emoticon?]

Do you lift her when you go to bed, mous? Sometimes that is enough to make them wake up before they need to go in the morning (when they are sleeping less deeply anyway), otherwise their bladder is so full first thing that they don't quite make it.

Or it might just take a little more time, but it sounds as though she is on her way.

I should say that my two were probably helped by the fact that they weren't great drinkers, so they probably didn't have much to pass anyway!

Do any of you have a simple book about friendship (changes..) DD2 is very sad (her very sad face is a story by itself) because her only friend doesn't want to play with her. She talks about her a lot and bring her gifts, flowers tree branches, I think it is because of the difference of speech, she can't play properly unless it is hide and seek type of games or babies. She has never mind with anybody before.
I tried to explain that she might have prefer to play with a boy today but she is not not her friend anymore. DD2 doesn't seem to get it.

:( had a search round and found this list of free ebooks, some of which look suitable from their descriptions. There's a worst best friend title, who wanted to play with someone else. Maybe if you have some time, play even more with her leading the play? Then she has an alternative to her friend.

On the night dryness side, a couple of times when I had travelled DD started wetting again when I came back, we took her to wee in the middle of the night for a couple of days and talked about what happened when the bed got wet, and that seemed to solve it. I think it's a decision they make. It may be more convenient to wee in bed in the morning when you wake up, esp if wearing a nappy rather than having to wake up. (I had a feeling that was a factor a couple of times with DD). May not be the case all the time though...

cp a couple of times when I had too much to do I just prioritied what I would focus on and told my boss that I would do X, and do Y on best effort, and ignore Z. so that he had the chance to comment / change. This mean you've already thought of the solution and just want to agree priorities with her/him....

Accidentally pressed the register button on mumsnet and found out they're not accepting new registrations!

Link to the books thetrove.org/readinglists/beingfriends.shtml

cp Just saw you have 2 managers, so speak to the direct line manager first and tell her/him that you also intend to speak to the other one. Also best you speak to both yourself....

jf DD also didn't want to wear nappies so we talked to her and agreed that she will not wear nappies to bed if she was dry in the morning 30 days in a row. (In reality we didn't reach 30 days in a row) once we were comfortable she would be dry she was out of nappies. We did tell her that as soon as she wet again (in the beginning) that she would be back in nappies. No threats though, just logical discussion and reasons. It seems to work so far!

Having a bizarre beef craving....

hello

now on day 7 of sickness/diarrhoea bug…. urgh… it goes away and I have a day of feeling worn out but not being ill, then it comes back again… i thought i'd got through it as not ill since tuesday, but i've been up for hours through the night again….

hoping i manage not to pass it on to the rest of them (touch wood all ok so far)

enough

more soon

stoof how awful! Have you been to the GP? If it doesn't go on its own there is a chance it is not viral, and would explain why you are not spreading it too. It can be bacterial or parasitic and you might need some medicine. Take care. Hope it passes soon.

rainbow I had beef cravings with DD2 too, probably iron deficiency.
thanks for the link.

You're right. Pretty certain it is iron deficiency. Taking iron tablets, when I remember....

Hope you are doing alright rainbow . Must admit that the thought (never mind the real thing) of the first trimester tiredness nearly finishes me off... . I keep that in mind when I see my colleague with bump and two other colleagues with newborns.

Stoof Hope you are fully recovered and haven't had any setbacks.

I went to work for the first time in ten days and coped okay. Still easily exhausted and can't wait for a lie down...

Glad you're over the worst JF. It definitely sounds like proper flu. You must be very unlucky to keep catching non-vaccination strains

I have got the girls to bed after one of the worst bedtimes ever: spilt water, spilt liquid vitamins everywhere, DD2 bitten tongue and blood everywhere, DD1 fell and hurt her back. Chaos and screaming. First solo bedtime in a while as DH is working late, I'm shaking from the stress now. Is it just that we're all really knackered? ! I should be downstairs getting dinner and washing on but feel unable to move from my bed.

Rainbow do try to rest whenever you can. Second pgsare sooooo exhausting . And the 1st tritrimester is definitely the worst (imo).

stoof seen on FB you're feeling better, thank goodness, sounds truly appalling.

Mous sorry about friend ,

Gotts go

CP really sorry to hear that your asthma is so bad

We had the new HV check, DD2 couldn't do everything which I thought was fine. But the (very lovely) HV seemed insistent that she could and kept trying to make her thread beads or line up blocks. Also she was concerned that DD2 has dropped to 25th for height. Wants to check up on her in 3 months. Fine, I have no problem with that, but do wonder if it's a good use of their time and resources. I was very short til a teenager.

At DD2's check I mentioned at some length my concerns about/problems with DD1. The HV thinks I am depressed. DD1 iz having a developmental check at home tomorrow. I think any problems are mainly mine, actually, and if DD1 had a more chilled out mother her behaviour would improve. I am trying, but by God I find it so hard sometimes. Being at work is so, so so much easier. Just the mornings and evenings are now majorly stressful.

I make resolutions to be a better mother, then something happens, and I lose it. It's like my fuse is so short, it's not even a fuse at all. I hate being so shouty, so why can't I stop it? I have told myself to count to 5 before shouting but in the heat of the moment I don't remember. I don't want DD1 to remember her childhood as scary But often, she totally IGNORES me until I lose it and shout. Not blaming her, she is 3 and I am the adult. But it is really infuriating.

Scones, I hear you on the shouty mummy thing. I have been reading " how to calm a challenging child" and "happy, easier, calmer parenting" (or something along those lines, I can never remember the order the adjectives go in). I get it while reading, and vow to put it into practice, but then it doesn't quite go to plan and I end up shouting and then feeling even worse than I would do usually because I have failed

Still, better to read and try, than carry on. Dd1's behaviour has definitely improved overall as a result of my (mostly failed) efforts.

The developmental check for your dd1 sounds a good idea, and it seems as thought they are keen to keep an eye on dd2, which is also good. Glad you saw a good HV.

What are you going to do about the possible depression? I know ADs are scary, but they can make a huge difference. It's an illness, you know, and you wouldn't think twice about taking antibiotics for a chest infection...

Anyway, have some and for talking to someone about it all. That is something to be very proud of.

Scones , if the HV think you are depressed it would be wise to get it checked. It might explain why you are a bit shouty with DD1 too. I am sure your not a bad mum.

Scones I just wanted to say a huge congratulations on being honest with the HV.

Grrrr. Everyone is having a lie in and I've been awake since stupid o'clock, unable to get back to sleep. Ahh, dd2 has just emerged from her room so I'll declare it officially breakfast time .

IC all okay with you?

Snowing! I seem to be talking to myself a lot on this thread. Time to lay it to rest?

sunny!

nah, I have been meaning to post more on here.

just been busy and stressed and feeling guilty as so many people on our thread are really struggling.