November 2012 - We're ready for Spring... any time now please!

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pennie, no, I wouldn't. I am taking a year off but will do something after. I want to spend as much time with O as possible but for my own sake I will need to work part time.

pennie I am going back to work full time and DH will take on the main carer role. We will have nursery hopefully 3 days and DH on 2. I have a full time, well paid job which is my vocation. DH, well, doesn't. He is better suited to a flexible working environment. It actually suits us better for him not to be employed initially as he is worth more to us at home than in a job he doesn't want. Should he find a job he likes then we will be able to afford full time childcare. I love being a mum more than I could ever imagine but I have been defined by my job for 13 years. I can't just stop.

Each to their own. I have such massive respect for anyone who has ever made a baby because from what I can tell thus far every single other aspect of your life becomes emotional and complex

Oh, and I will be going back in August.

Ok......
House prices are crazy. It took us forever to get a mortgage, and we really had to fight.

Nursey fees are crazy. Basically I would spend all my money on childcare, when I'm back to work. I got the numbers somewhere, but as a band 2 HCA. I'm fucked! ( thank you goverment)

Washing machine... Errrr..... Not a sausage. Bucket?

Evil

Ooh, don?t get me started on morrtgages. Couldn?t find a single mortgage company who?d accept a 3 year, guaranteed phd bursary as income.

l would love to be a sahm if l had the money. Though l think l?d always do some sort of study or volunteer work or something just for me. Have a friend whose daughters are 13 and 10. She is a sahm. Her house is immaculate, she spends loads of time seeking out bargains in. shops/online and actually empties her ironing pile each wreek. l always feel a bit jealous, but on the other hand l think l would get a bit bored after a couple of weeks.

Bit worried l seem to have developed an infected cyst now drs are closed til Tuesday...

For reference for those with poorly little ones, have a squizz at p16 of this - so long as your LO has mostly green symptoms, with the odd amber one, you can be reasonably confident that they are not seriously ill. We used this tool a lot in general practice.

Not sure what went wrong tonight - F has only just gone to sleep, 2 hours later than usual. Would love for that to mean she sleeps through, but suspect she will have other ideas.

I will be going back to work full time, would prefer part time but it's not an option. I love work but will miss F more than I can even imagine at the moment. It breaks my heart to know that I will see her so little.

Sorry - massively off topic but I have just watched the last episode of series 4 Dexter. WTAF?!?!!

daisy NHS Direct/24. That is what they are there for do not wait until Tuesday.

I would be a SAHM if I could, but pick up the odd nursing shift, or study. No chance of that ever happening. I would love to go part time. I will be going back full time in September.

Well, that was a fun evening. DH working late, DD2 home from nursery early as unwell, threatening to vomit at any moment. My tummy is a bit funky, so I have had to go to the loo about a dozen times, J had his poo, and was very grumpy leading up to it. DD1 also feeling sick. Trying to settle J in his cot whilst running downstairs to attend to sick girls, running back up to settle screaming baby, and repeat several times. I had to bring J down as I could not do it. DH comes home, and says 'ooh, a slumber party'. I was less than charitable.

pass he he he! Good eh? I loved that episode! Really got me as did not see that coming.

bp when the time comes to leave her, you will get used to it. The time you do have together becomes really precious quality time. The time you have apart will help you as an individual. It becomes quite easy to put your professional head on once you have done the daycare drop off. The hard but is when they are unwell and you need to decide whether to go to work or stay with them. I hate being torn between my babies and my clients, but my babies will always win.

Thanks vq but do they just give advice or can they do perscriptions? Hope the VQ household recovers quickly.

Free to a good home. 42 year old male. Good with children, so long as they are not ill, hungry, in need of dressing or changing or indeed watching. Driving licence, but it is my fucking car, house trained unless pissed, can cook and wash up but chooses not to. Can be grumpy between the hours of 00.00 and 23.59. Good in bed, but cannot make or change the fucking thing. Particularly gifted in burping and farting. Makes beautiful fat babies.

Dont envy you vq. I'm struggling with one whist feeling crap. Doing dream feed trying not to throw up on him. Wondering how it'll work if I do have to be sick and he needs me urgently at that exact time worrier much

Have been reading but feeling crappy so haven't posted/followed everything very well. Hope you all have good nights :)

Thank you daisy they assess you over the phone and if necessary get you seen by OOH GP. You would likely need to go to a clinic. They can give a prescription and tell you duty pharmacy etc.

Just got out of bed and rummaged around my eyeball for ages trying to take out my contact lense.

I wasn't wearing my contact lenses today.

I keep thinking I've caught up and then I hit refresh and a million more posts appear.

tits hope you have been ok today.

pass

VQ hope everyone is better soon.

I am going back part time in May. For me it's the best of both worlds - as much as I love my girls I do not have what it takes to be a SAHM. I do know I'm lucky to have the choice of part time though.

Going to attempt a transfer. Another night like last night would be great, but I'll not get my hopes up!

Night all.

Oh dear pass ouch!

J is asleep. I'm away to bed. I'm hoping for a good night but don't hold out much hope. At least DH is off for 4 days now

I am home! It has taken me 2 fucking hours to catch up on here!

Lovely day meeting Chasing and the super little Oscar! Long journey ignores fact it was my own fucking fault for going the wrong fucking way. For 25 miles. but worth the trek! O slept the majority of the way there, I woke him for a feed mid way, but he went back to sleep after!

O was a star - both were! We had no meltdowns ignores the one on the way home for 30 miles of screaming til I got to some services to stop in and take him out the seat, only for him to poo then sit back in his seat cuddling a coke bottle?!. There were plenty of smiles and chattering from both!

I'm not sure I actually shut up for more than, oooh, 3 seconds. Who'd have thunked it eh?!

I love your place chasing, tis beautiful. But where the fuck were those wipes? Good job I took some! 2 poos today. How privledged!

I came home to a very clingy DP, and a fairly pristine house! He even washed the bedding, ironed it, put it back on, and put the lights around the bed so the bed looks rather inviting. I wonder what he could want....hmmmm?!

I did the dream feed chasing. Actually, it was less dreamy than I imagined, given he woke the fuck up on arrival home! Still, he took it, and went in the cot happily! I am hoping. Hoping, praying, and performing charms over the cot!

PR Sometimes I suspect we are one. That is how I feel about swearing. I have no problem using it in day to day language, but swearing aggressively at someone unless it is at another driver safely behind locked car doors! is not something I would do. But asking where the fuck the remote is. That's fine.

Speaking of other drivers. I saw about 8 near misses today. Idiot drivers, doing idiot things. Saw a few cars doing the lane change, both in to middle lane, and almost hitting each other. I hate that. Also, I was in the outside lane, overtaking a line of 4 cars, I was doing 70mph. When I started the manoeuvre, there were no cars behind me. As I passed the second car, a van changed from the middle lane and came right up my arse, and flashed his fucking lights. And signaled at me to move over. There were lots of sweary words and hand gestures from me . I'm not sure he had ever encountered such verociousness from a woman . I excelled myself thanks to sweary wednesday!.

Where the fuck he thought I could move over to, I have no idea. But just because he wanted to travel at 100mph, does not give him the fucking right to drive so close to my bumper that I see the inside of his fucking nose, and smell his fucking farts. And flashing was like a red rag to a bull.

I have serious road rage all the time occasionally.

First feed. After his 3 hour cluster feed/sleep refusal this afternoon I'd hoped for more than 4 hours

L isn't well. She won't sleep anywhere except on me, day or night, at the moment. Which is lovely and I will look back on these times with fondness.

Detective they were on the floor under a cushion - d'oh! Told you you should have taken the whole packet

Glad you are home safe, I have everything crossed that O sleeps well for you tonight. Thank you SO much for making the trek to see me

O is awake for his first feed - a 5 hour first stretch I'm not sure if this is due to lack of nappage and an exciting day today, or we are finally starting to get somewhere, as this is the second night in a row he has done 5 hours

He is 4 months old now though, so we are due regression

Hello everyone. My dad is already back to being a pain in the arse and should be home in a couple of days. I've also got over myself with the formula milk thing, Tommy had it but then had a massive feed off me when I got home. Hubby said he'd been brilliant the whole time, no problem at all; the eldest told me he had been uncharacteristically grumpy and only cheered up when I came in. Seems like I am appreciated after all.

Glad the meeting went well.

Good, Shelly. Was Tommy uncharacteristically grumpy or dh?

Three hours.

Three hours here too.