Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Post-natal clubs

Join our Postnatal Clubs forum to find parenting advice for newborns.

November 2012 - We're ready for Spring... any time now please!

999 replies

StuntNun · 26/03/2013 13:40

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1714057-November-2012-The-lurker-amnesty-fred-for-our-quiche

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Passmethecrisps · 28/03/2013 09:50

Lol @ smirkwiggle! Also lol@ silly bugger barbie!

That seems sensible chunky. I did say to DH that from about 6 months I felt we should avoid too much swearing or nonsense. Having said that during the day I have long extended chats to her in a perfectly normal manner so she is hearing much more normal stuff.

She is still a bundle of snot. So today I am so grateful for snuffle babes, snot suckers (known as a snucker) and the dummy which helps her breathe.

Catbag · 28/03/2013 09:56

pennie Your DH is a hero.

pass On your chest?! I actually quite like rats, but....

Titsalinabumsquash · 28/03/2013 10:11

Sorry for my brief, dramatic post earlier. I've been fine for days but today it's just floored me again.
I think DP is getting towards the end if his tether with me, we argued this morning, he's upset that nothing he does makes me happy. It's hard to tell him what will solve the problem when I don't know myself!!!
There isn't anything that I can say is the issue, it's not him, it's not J it's me. No family that can help, DP says to ask MIL for support but she has more than enough to be dealing with.

PetiteRaleuse · 28/03/2013 10:13

I am bad but improving at minding my language in front of the children. Obviously I don't sit on my sofa shouting fuck and cunt as liberally as I do on here, but swearwords do slip in here and there, especially when the bloody dog barks. DD1 has sworn once, at the dog, and I chose to ignore it. It hasn't happened since in several weeks. I have to admit I inwardly laughed, which i know is askingnfor a flaming, but it wasn't a very bad word and was slightly mispronounced and just sounded so cute.

I am honestly making an effort, particularly in French, which is hard, as French swearwords are wonderfully expressive. It's more important that she doesn't swear in French as she will be at school here.

I find it hard to get worked up about swearing as it just doesn't bother me unless used with real aggression, (and then it is the aggression which bothers me) but I am aware that she will be judged if she does swear, so will teach her not to. We have had to rename one of our cats as he was named before we thought about having children and is called Little Bugger in French. It suits him. He is now called Big Cat. Very original.

To be honest what worries me more is her repeating things she has heard us say about people. I reckon that my ILs some people's ears must burn fairly frequently and I'm starting to give them code names for when I start ranting about them, or spelling words out on occasion. To avoid the mummy said you were a .... type conversations later on...

ChasingDaisy · 28/03/2013 10:14

Tits did you see the GP in the end?

Passmethecrisps · 28/03/2013 10:17

Yup cat. Sitting there panting and staring at me. It had scraped the carpet up next to the door trying to escape.

ChasingDaisy · 28/03/2013 10:17

So today I am very thankful for my beautiful baby. He has been incredibly happy and chatty this morning and laughing away which is the best thing ever. He had developed so much over the past few weeks - so alert and responsive. Very active too, he shuffles on his tummy as he tries to crawl.

He has been napping for over an hour now which I am also thankful for as he has an exciting day ahead and I want to avoid any overtired meltdowns.

I am currently not thankful for antidepressants making me feel like death.

StuntNun · 28/03/2013 10:18

Pass DH and I are terrible for swearing in front of the kids I blame my mum who swears like a Sergeant Major. We tell them swear words are for grown ups and they can use them when they're 18! It has worked with DS1 (10) who makes up his own swear words such as What the beep! DS2 (6) has occasionally said a swear word and been told that only grown ups are allowed to swear, rather than telling him off about it. They think it's a law now - no swearing for under 18s!

I remember when DS1 was small I got carved up by an arsehole going all the way round the roundabout in the outside lane and I said "Stupid cow", cue DS1 in the back seat going "Stupid cow.. mooooo"! Completely cracked me up.

Tits I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling. Is there anything the quiche can do to help other than offering hugs?

OP posts:
PetiteRaleuse · 28/03/2013 10:23

Oh good point stunt

My attempt at not swearing officially ends the minute I get in the car until the minute I get out. Swearing at or about other drivers or my poor car keeps me calm. I am a bad nervous driver, and keeping myself calm is important for the safety of me, my passengers, and other road users.

Titsalinabumsquash · 28/03/2013 10:25

No I didn't see the GP, I've have a history of depression and have found GPs never to be that helpful tbh, plus I was doing fine, really well for over a week, it's just some days come along where it batters me again.
I don't want to be on anti depressants and I've had CBT and all the rest before.

itsnotyouitsMeals · 28/03/2013 10:27

See, that's what I mean chunky. We have willy and balls but nowt for vagina/vulva etc. I want my DDs to understand register- so we'll use vagina, penis etc formally ( doctor, anatomical discussion etc) but also have less formal words too. So am thinking willy, balls and the mn fanjo?

Sorry to those who had bad nights cat stunt and others and yay for vq.

Titsalinabumsquash · 28/03/2013 10:27

I don't think there is Stunt, thanks though, until I can know what will make me feel better I guess no one can really help. It's good to know you're all here though cheering me of from cyberspace.

Passmethecrisps · 28/03/2013 10:35

PR we have a similar attitude to language I think. There are worse things than swearing. However, I would like her to be able to monitor her own language which she will need to be much older to manage. Probably we swear much less in front of P than we think.

Passmethecrisps · 28/03/2013 10:40

Absolutely stunt - appropriate usage!

I remember dealing with a very upset girl. She was about 17 and was having major problems. There had been an issue in a class and she an a teacher had a massive blow out so I was called to mediate. The girl said something like "you made me feel like shit" to the teacher. The complete baw bag have her a telling off for swearing. It is to my eternal shame that I didn't pull him up for his stinking rotten attitude to the mediation process and to the girl's emotional stare

Passmethecrisps · 28/03/2013 10:40

Doh! State. Not stare

BigPigLittlePig · 28/03/2013 10:47

Operation Nap is failing today.
Put her in her cot asleep, and she instantly woke - all the shh patting in the world wasn't going to work, eventually she had a meltdown so now is nuzzling my neck and wide awake.

itsnotyouitsMeals · 28/03/2013 10:51

Took me ages to post and missed stuff. Tits am thinking of you.

I love swearing and think much the same as you pr I do avoid swearing in front of the DCs if poss but willexpect them to swear when older. Though last night we were discussing pronunciation as DH is a mancunian and says bath etc with a short a sound whereas I don't. DH said something about someone being an arse and Dd1 changed it to ass!

Oops.

itsnotyouitsMeals · 28/03/2013 10:53

MM can you talk to your sil or do you think she needs to see it for herself?

PetiteRaleuse · 28/03/2013 10:55

This is it. I couldn't give a shit if children swear as long as they do it in the proper context not, i.e., 'can we have some motherfucking lasagne for dinner' . That would be wrong. But 'I've had a really shitty day' would be acceptable to me.

But not to society so they have to learn either not to do it or not to do it in front of the wrong people. I managed - the more I got bollocked for swearing at home the more I did it. Bt other than one occasion at primary school no teachers ever heard me swear. And I promise that calling that teacher a bastard was thoroughly justified. He really was an absolute bastard. If I had known the word cunt back then that would have been even more appropriate. And if was still teaching today you can guarantee that half the shit he got away with would no longer be acceptable. He used to throw stuff at us. Bastard.

ChunkyEasterChick · 28/03/2013 10:57

My DD says "Slow down mate!!" loudly to any vehicle as a result of my in-car vocalising. I just thank fuck its relatively tame!!

pass at our school we have a policy of reminding students about appropriate language for the audie

ChunkyEasterChick · 28/03/2013 11:01

Stupid phone!!! Grrrrrr.

audience rather than a blanket ban on swearing per se. Lots of parents in the area using swearing instead of punctuation... We only go to town if they're swearing at someone^ esp a teacher - lack of respect/the aggression aspect more than the language. In the above circumstance, if it had been my student, I might have said "I'd rather you didn't swear but..."

DD is currently being a Giraffe Confused

Catbag · 28/03/2013 11:02

Ok, so Ikea killed my car again. Got to the bottom of the drive, revs dropped, car stalled and refused to start. DH pushed it about 500 yards along the road (fucking hero!) to the start of the hill and I managed to bump-start it. Got to bottom of hill, put foot on accelerator, car promptly died again. Had to carry babies back up said nasty hill in bitterly cold wind. They were fine; we were frozened :(

Now sat at home, waiting for mechanics to come and pick it up. Ffs.

Catbag · 28/03/2013 11:16

I made a point of not telling the quiche that I was going in case it killed the car. Seriously, this is three times. Detective is right, Ikea Gateshead DOES eat cars. Maybe should plan for the one in Leeds instead? Maybe that one does not reave the souls of innocent cars...

PennieLane · 28/03/2013 11:22

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PennieLane · 28/03/2013 11:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.