Baby is nearly 8 weeks old now and i just wondered if anyone feels like this or is it just me?

[nananaps]

I am reluctant to go out anywhere because of the palarva of setting the pram up (which wont fit in my boot) and between feeds, which are every 1.5-2 hours.

I struggle to get a shower every day and none of my clothes fit me, still in mat clothes with 3 stone to lose. Feel like shit, look like shit.

I just want to stay home, cuddle and feed my baby and clean my house. (couldnt nest at latter end of my pregnancy die to SPD, hip, back & pelvic pain)
Still have high BP from pre eclampsia so have to go to the Drs to get that checked every couple of weeks, but instead of walking, i get in the car to be ensure i am back home ASAP.

Also, the major thing is absolute terror at the thought of cot death, it absolutely scares me to death. Cant shake it.

Have to go out to take my DS to school every day and pick him up, so do go out briefly.

Freak, or normal?

Hello nananaps, I remember your oh holy cow thread and updates. There is absolutely every possibility what you are experiencing is sleep deprivation/ exhaustion which is in itself a headfuck. BUT the emotional rollercoaster you have been through the last 12 months there is a possibility it's something else.

If you don't feel like yourself and recognise it, it's worth a chat with the GP.

Normal, I'd say except for the bit about wanting to clean

It was normal for me with DC1 except that I lost weight really quickly. Not boasting here - I looked haggard. Finding time to even brush my teeth was really difficult.

I was so horribly sleep deprived that I didn't even realise it.

Give yourself some time.

Hi Nananaps - just lying here with my 8 weeks tomorrow Ds and I can tell you my routine / thoughts and I don't think they are much different to yours hun. Firstly, I have a Ds 4 and his grandad takes him to school for me as there is no way I can be up and have us all ready and fed. So ds2 as a feed at 6.30am and then put down while I run round like a lunatic getting ds1 ready and packed off. I'm a bit of a control freak and like structure and found planning something each day gets me motivated and I feel I've accomplished something. Ie Monday, clean the house (and I love it, it must be some kind of maternal thing as I get a real buzz out of the place being tidy) A Tuesday could be a visit from someone so I'll nip out and get lunch in. Wednesday, mums group/ weigh in and ironing in afternoon, Thursday online shopping, Friday house tidy for the weekend. This obviously varies and might not sound alot but in between feeds and then fetching ds1 from school and possibly fitting in a sleep (yeah right) I think I'm doing bloody well and don't beat myself up about doing anything else. Now feeds I was breast feeding which was 1.5/2 hours we have switched to formula feed and we now go 3 hours between feeds and I can take a bottle out with me and this helps alot. I like ds2 to get a bit of a fresh air every day so we do walk somewhere but that might just be to collect ds1.
Now the cot death thing, I am so with you on this and would not sleep a wink if I did not have the tommy tippe heart monitor, I think this is possibly the one thing I could not live without for my peace of mind. It detects movements and if none a alarm sounds after 20 seconds. I had it for ds1 and I swear without it I'd just sit up watching him sleep especially as he has just developed a cold. Not sure what monitor you have but I bet you could get one from eBay.
With regards to me, last week I had my nails done, hair highlighted and feel a little bit more me but I think this tummy will be around for a while but tough. The area I'm not confident in is the relationship with Dh, not on a getting on level but my night time routine is to go up to bed with the little ones and I'm usually asleep for 9pm so I'm probably spending 1-2hours with Dh and this involves the bath/ the homework with ds1 so hardly quality time, but I feel if I stayed up I'd be beyond exhaustion. Hope this helps, I think we are doing the best we can and I cling to the statement I read that "the first 90 days are not normal" this is my mantra when the going gets tough ;-)

Thanks everyone!
bearandcub i was a neurotic freak on that thread and i remain so now that my little miracle boy has arrived...Gahhhh.
Its so unlike me. I am usually terribly calm, and together.

I dont have a monitor. Baby sleeps next to me in his crib at night. Dont know if getting one would be helpful, might make me more neurotic tbh.

Just need to get my arse into gear and stop whining probably.
Thanks again xx

Give yourself a break! I've got a gorgeous 7 week old dd and some days I'm too busy looking at her to get out of my pyjamas.

I have a toddler who needs exercising so we do endeavour to get out with the pram but I'm just as likely to stick him in a pair of wellies and a big jumper and chuck him into the garden.

Come summertime we'll be outdoors all the time.