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November 2012 - sleeping through yet?

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StuntNun · 09/01/2013 23:03

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horseylady · 12/01/2013 18:44

Right. My pelvic floor feels bruised. Just near where I wee. It has done a few times but I was expecting it to wear off. it's an odd feeling. high impact stuff and I'm still leaking bug can ride/walk etc and can control myself. I don't know what it is? Because if the leaking I've not been doing much high impact exercise as I don't want extra damage but wondering if 11 weeks post birth is too soon to speak to the gp?!

I'm doing pelvic floor exercises. Its now starting to bother me!!

Sophiathesnowfairy · 12/01/2013 19:32

horsey I still get tiny little leaks when I run or do jumping jacks and I am really good about my pelvic floors. I have decided to be super good about them from now on in the hope I can stop the leakage.

There're always Tena Wink

PetiteRaleuse · 12/01/2013 19:33

It it's bothering you horsey have a word with your doctor. Could be an infection, or ould just be bruising, but worth getting checked out

Evilwater · 12/01/2013 19:48

An update,
We had a talk and he is sorry for saying what he did. It was the heat of the moment thing. There are some ground rules, he is still a dick.

I'm going back tomorrow.
Evil

PetiteRaleuse · 12/01/2013 19:56

Evil so glad you have posted. I'm glad things are sorting themselves out. Good luck for tomorrow, and we are here if you need to rant

ValiumQueen · 12/01/2013 20:10

evil hopefully he has learned his lesson.

horsey could it be a UTI?

Well, J refused a bottle of expressed milk that had been frozen. I didn't actually care that 8oz of bm was poured down the sink. The fact I did not care, shows how I feel. I have a decided no more expressing unless to relieve discomfort from engorgement, if I miss a feed for some reason. If he needs a bottle when I am having my hair cut, for example, then he shall have formula. We will try him with a bottle of formula tomorrow evening so I can have an early night. I have done well. It is harder this time, and I have my other children, and my own sanity and health to consider. I am happy with my decision Smile

PetiteRaleuse · 12/01/2013 20:13

You have done very well VQ xx I imagine ebf must be even harder witholderchildren demanding attention

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nillynoon · 12/01/2013 21:23

You have done brilliantly VQ and your decision sounds well thought out and sensible x

blonderthanred · 12/01/2013 21:27

VQ I found expressing so difficult and I don't have 2 other children to look after! Like everyone else says you can only do what's best for you and your family. I've only been able to do it since I've had the hospital pump and even then only when someone else holds the baby!

I didn't find any difference in sleeping pattern last night but L has always been more regular so hopefully it will help you achieve that or at least relieve you of a feed. We are nearly at 12 weeks now which is the magic point when it all gets better right?!

Evil I am glad you are sorting things out. Sorry you have had to go through this.

I definitely am not able to fit in as many feeds as I was (6/7 rather than 8-10) but I am hopeful that he is taking in more per feed and my supply is slowly increasing, it feels that way. He looks chubbier already and loads of wet nappies. No poo yet so we will see how the formula comes out the other end...

TheDetective · 12/01/2013 21:37

Evening :) Promise no epic post from me today!

VQ You know what is the best thing for your family! It is a hard decision to make, but the relief once it has been made is immense. I use Cow & Gate as it is the cheapest out of the formulas. There is a £3 difference between that and Aptamil. That is approx £150 extra over a year (obv. if bottlefeeding alone). Didn't see what was worth an extra £150. They are made by the same company, in the same factory.

Aptamil just has better marketing/advertisers/bullshitters Grin. (Maybe that is why the price is higher!)

I'd of tried SMA next if Oscar hadn't been fine with it. Then Aptamil if that didn't work... you catch how I'm working this don't you!

Oscar has slept most of the day again. Or played happily when awake. He has self settled in the swing. I have felt redundant. Shock

Maybe things will start getting easier - as in getting stuff done! Today I have done shit loads of washing and ironing. I feel all in order now! I have also sorted all Oscars up to 1 month clothes out to sell on eBay, including ironing and photographing all the bastard things!

katkit1 · 12/01/2013 21:42

Good decision Vq- I have never been able to express ever.

it feels like Alex takes the lot each time, when the time comes for a break i will ff.

Going to start introducing 1 bottle per day at 5 months - ready to fill the porker up with lovely solids at 6 months

Sophiathesnowfairy · 12/01/2013 21:43

vq wise decision,I don't know how you kept going bfing and expressing with the other kiddos. Xx

evil am so glad you are on the road to recovery with your DP.

Good luck with your formula nappies blonder Grin

DH has offered to do the 10:30 feed so am making the most of it and have come to bed early. Is weird as we have put up the cot so Olly is no longer right by my side but at the bottom of the bed. I feel a bit exposed!

horseylady · 12/01/2013 21:45

Vq - you're amazing xx

Was wondering uti. Never had one. I did have a catheter. It's just odd.

TheDetective · 12/01/2013 21:56

Horsey - I have a similar pain too. I am at clinic next week to discuss the shite that is my perineum. I will be discussing this also. Will let you know what is said.

I have a feeling it is trauma from the catheter though :( But we shall see...

TheDetective · 12/01/2013 21:57

I don't leak btw, and the pain is every time I wee. :(

nillynoon · 12/01/2013 22:19

It does sound like a uti, combined with catheter trauma.....did you have an instrumental delivery?

horseylady · 12/01/2013 22:28

You see there's no pain when I wee. It feels like I've been kicked there. The pain goes outside in. Like someone has shoved something up there. It just feels very bruised. And now it's started to annoy me because the rest of down there feels ok.

Yes forcep delivery. Episiotomy, 3rd degree but my understanding was I was cut backwards. I had four days off riding to see if it eased. It has not.

I might call the dr Monday. May as well make Monday's a regular outing :)

horseylady · 12/01/2013 22:29

Detective I only leak with high impact so jumping jacks and I did leak running but that has eased. The leaking I can put down to a weakness. This feeling I can't?!

Passmethecrisps · 12/01/2013 22:33

Bloody effing jeffing Nora trapped wind is a bitch! At least I think that is what it was. P had a nice day - we all just hung around the house together keeping things low key. Bath was nice, didn't cry when being dryed and moisturised. Came down the stairs chattering away to her about dinner and bed time when all of a sudden she started to wail then let rip with the screaming. DH was on the phone, dropped it and came running through thinking she was hurt or something. She screamed this ear piercing scream completely inconsolable. She did this on Thursday - all day. I put her on my knee and we did some leg cycling. Then she just stopped. Whimpered a bit for a minute but was better. DH couldn't believe it. I honestly think he was a heartbeat away from calling an ambulance! When he came home on Thursday (p had recovered by the time he came home but was a bit grumpy) I had a wee cry - now he sees why!

Anyway, all better now. Thank heavens.

Good decision VQ - you have given everything to your children. You deserve to keep your sanity at least!

Poor bits horsey and detective. My bits still seem a bit achey nearly 9 weeks on. Odd

Happy 11 week birthday horseyfoal! I always think it's amazing that at the moment 2 weeks difference in babies seems massive. Developmentally they seems poles apart sometimes. When they are just a few years old they will be the same. Does that sound stupid? It seemed sensible in my head but seems odd written down.

PetiteRaleuse · 12/01/2013 22:34

Has E's bronchiolitis sorted itself horsey ?

Passmethecrisps · 12/01/2013 22:38

That's a good question petite! I keep forgetting things I mean to ask!

Also, who was it who posted the Tim Minchin link? I love Tim Minchin - that song makes me laugh a lot. White Wine in the Sun is also my favourite Christmas song ever ever ever. I couldn't listen to it this year though as I was too blubby

horseylady · 12/01/2013 22:49

Yes he's still coughing but eating is pretty much back to normal!!

Two weeks makes a hell of a difference pass. I can't believe how interactive he is. He laughs so much and smiles. He hardly cries and when he does within minutes you can make him laugh again. He's still got little interest in toys though!

glendathegoodwitch · 12/01/2013 23:40

evil that's progress - stand your ground and make sure dp understands why he can't say those things!!

vq hope life gets a little easier now x

How do you get your lo's to self settle?? Dottie will only fall asleep in my arms or in car seat. It seems she has 5 minute power naps and is then wide awake again, I've ordered GF book and am awaiting for the happiest baby on the block as well as halfway through baby love - I'm on my 3 rd baby and I'm ordering every book available lol - just trying to find a routine before march - with my other two I was a sahm so things just fell into place eventually.

Have just booked our sun £9.50 holiday to Cornwall wooooo - 11/3 can't wait!!!!

PetiteRaleuse · 12/01/2013 23:57

Great news horsey . Apparently the cough can linger for a while. LO still coughs when she wakes up.