August 2012 - sunny (ha!) summer babies

[ImissMiniPop]

they're starting to arrive, so here's our 'Due in August' post natal thread. To talk poo, pee, burping and everything else, too...

Here's link to antd-natal thread for those we'll be waiting for www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1511603-Due-in-August-Thread-Part-6

Have borrowed Needles list, which I'll start here, please feel free to add your details to it. I'm rubbish at list keeping, and hopefully Needles will be along to keep it updated :o

BIRTHS
tigger8 (?) DC? due 27/7/12, GIRL born 11/7/12
missjemima (?) DC2 BOY due 3/8/12, born 10/7/12
PoppySeed34 (34) DC1 BOY due 4/8/12, born 28/5/12

What a horrible day! I'm hibernating! So far Rowan is playing along and is sitting in my lap smiling and waving arms and legs around. Last night he slept 9 to 12, then 3, then 6 then 8:30. Not bad but nowhere near as good as the night before! Six week check tomorrow then getting weighed at baby clinic. I'm starting to put together a list of questions for the GP. Any suggestions that I've forgotten about?

Lovin' your alternative life ishop he he

ishop love it!! My alternative day would be waking from 12 hour sleep, breakfast in bed with my book, some "romance time" with DP that didn't involve leaky boobs (so not sexy) and then a day shopping that wasn't punctuated by trying to discretly feed in public and using annoyingly slow lifts cos can't take pram on escalator. Lunch at fancy restaurant and then a night out a pub with bountiful redf wine! Ah happy daydreaming,but mo matter how tough it is I wouldn't change things for the world.

Welsh I think you've hit the nail on the head! Of our whole group only 1 girl had the experience we were all hoping for.

Capecath Your sleep times sound very similar to ours - how much does your LO sleep during the day? I think Ben needs to sleep roughly 1 and 1/2 hours after waking up, but he will only sleep for an hour at a time then - unless he's somewhere really noisy, like a birthday party, where he seems to happily sleep through!

Gingerelle - Sounds like your LO is cluster feeding in the evening and is totally normal. Ben did this until he was about 5/6 weeks and I started putting him down with his dummy.

I love your alternative life ishop.

This may be heading down TMI, but has anyone had any "romance time" yet? We tried this weekend but it was quite uncomfortable for me - any tips from those more experienced?

gingerelle we're having flakey skin on forehead and head too! Just when I thought we'd got rid of it on hands and feet... Don't have any suggestions though, sorry just waiting for it to go...

gnomi hmmm well would love to have more of a pattern during the day but implementing any kind of schedule right now is proving to be tricky with DS1 in tow! He also seems to get restless about an hour or so of being awake, but the longest stretch of sleep that we get seems to be in the afternoon where he normally has a nice 3 hour nap. He also appreciates darkness and quiet or in the car. Daytimes still very sporadic though.
Recommend a bit of lube for "romantic times":) Apparently the breastfeeding makes you dry. Nice. LO tends to be awake around our bedtimes though which doesn't exactly help things. And I certainly don't feel sexy with hair smelling like baby sick, sore nipples and tender boobs, oh dear.

ishop ooo sounds like a great alternative day. I'd add in a snowboarding trip, and a nice long full breakfast with a good cup of coffee and a newspaper. But then I'd probably get bored after a while due to lack of drama!!

gnomi we tried for 'all the way' for the first time this morning but it really hurt so had to stop. Sorry if TMI but problem wasn't dryness but a sharp pain seemingly along inside wall...my stitches were quite far internal so wondering if a bit too soon for us at the mo. And as u can tell from previous post my leaking right boob did nothing to help DP get in the mood who has struggles a bit with seeing 'down there' as sexy again after seeing LO ejected from it!!!

Anyone else had much pain? Aside from that I am strggling to feel sexy and/or in the mood anyway, hoping sense of desire will return at some point???

So sorry to hear he has been upset minipop. I'm awe of your strength tbh, I broke down after 3 days of no sleep. Your such a good mum to that wee boy :) I really hope he gets some help today. I doubt it will apply to him but sandy is a different baby since he got lactulose. He was spending every moment pushing an groaning to poo. He woke himself up doing it, never slept more than an hour in a go and screamed when awake, and especially when feeding. 2 days of lactulose he has been sleeping so so much better, and on his own too. When awake he is content and his feeding is so much better. I'm not sure of minipops specific probs and I'm sure from reading its more complicated but thought I'd mention just incase. I really hope he feels better soon and you get some rest x

Hi ishop >waves< hope things are well! Our sleep has been insane recently due to sandys being sick and belly troubles so won't comment on that just yet! Hoping in a weeks time we have a pattern forming as he is well again and 8 weeks almost so should be routine forming time.

My alternative life day would involve sandy being in a routine and me getting some work for my phd done! That's pretty sad...

Oh as for romance time was finding some time with DH up to 4 weeks... But not all the way of course. Not had a moment since then due to baby troubles though! Hoping to get some actual time with him soon but it seems all time just now would be wasted on that and better used to sleep ha!

Love your alternative life ishop atm I would just be able to have a nice relaxing bath that lasts longer than 5 minutes, havent managed one since Noah was born always a quick shower or quick dip in the bath :(
Gnomi me and dp havent had any 'romance time' yet I feel awful because after ds1 we did after 4 weeks but im much more worried about it hurting this time and tbh feel anything but sexy, really need to find the time for just us 2 soon but it's really hard.
Ive had a poorly little baby all weekend it seems like he's had a cold poor thing, he's been abit snuffly and sleeping alot more than usual but thankfully he hasnt been crying in pain or anything so Ive just been giving him extra TLC.
Anyone else got this horrible weather? Had to venture out in it twice today for the school run and it was not fun. Ordering some wellies tonight as managed to keep mostly dry apart from feet, Noah was all snug in his snowsuit in pram with blankets and raincover and slept peacefully.
I know what you mean Ishop about taking 2 hours to get ready, have to have everything ready the night before here and still having to get up at 6.15 to leave the house at 8.15.
Whoever was saying about spots aswell (sorry havent time to scroll back) Noah has had alot of little pink ones on his face this weekend which came up when he wasnt too well. They are perfectly normal though it's to do with their skin producing oil to protect it now there outside the womb.
Mrdmiggins made me laugh about your LO pooing in the bath, the first time I had one with Noah he did the same thing

Hope everyones well and hope LO's sleep better tonight :) x

ohhhhh romance time! i think i remember that... after dd we didn't manage the full 9 yards until about 4 months but that was with a 3rd dg tear. fell like i am capable now but just far too shattered iyswim? i did laugh at the gp 6 week check up when he said someone once asked if safe to resume relations and when he asked how long since baby was born she said a year

ham hope sandy's feeling a bit better?

minipop how was hospital?

so much for my alternative day, no ii'm not in my pj's still.. honest

Evening everyone :)

Can I ask those of you bf how you're feeling about it? We haven't had any real problems and I quite like the convenience of it iyswim - but - I feel like I'm the only one who can comfort LO. She's fine with daddy unless she's upset and then just wants to comfort suckle. Is this just me cos she won't take dummies and she feeds to sleep? Also I've expressed a few times and dad had given the bottle which she'll take but hasn't settled that well afterwards, same thing I guess. Just finding it quite hard as thinking even mum or sisters won't be able to look after her either to give me a break.

Feeling a bit emotional about things today for some reason, tired probably as haven't been doing afternoon naps :( Been really lucky to have DP at home for 6 wks and worried about being on my own from next wk, both managing and being on my own all day - how are you all coping??!

Lois you could be me! I also had DH home for 6 weeks, he started back at work last week and it's been tough as no fam around to help and as well as 8 week old little man, dd is 21 months. The bf thing is tricky as I have a strong supply so skipping feeds (if we have a bottle and are out) causes me problems so ... so far I haven't been out on my own for more than 5 mins in the last 8-9 weeks! Was going to try and pop out to the shops for a few hours at the weekend but didn't get around to it.

Will try and stick with the bf though as with dd I managed it for 8 months (mixed feeding from 3)...

I try and go for a walk most days and starting to arrange things with new NCT friends/ baby groups but so far removed from my regular day job (which I still keep up with emails as find it hard to switch off) just wondering how I'll get on / adjust.

(sorry, phone issues!)

Wow 8 months ishop that's amazing! :). Did it get easier when you started mixed feeding - other people looking after LO I mean?

lois you do feel a bit like that and tbh my family did look after ds1 with expressed milk but never overnight only for few hours but this was a cos I was worried that they would run out of milk and b cos I felt it was unfair on them as he did not sleep through and did not sleep through till 10 months. But I still would not give up the closeness of bf for anything and it does get easier.

Oh dear it appears my washing machine is buggered not what I needed with a new born and toddler!! Arrrg money I don't have!! My dad is coming to look and see if there is any hope :(. Plug went bang tried a new fuse and bang again so it does not look good. This made my day very hectic what with that and toddler not napping in the morning and the shite weather and all my stuff covered in milk I could cry! Not as bad as some of you I admit my problems seem minor and I should pull myself together. So sorry.

Oh yeah jacob is 5 weeks tomorrow and no romance for me yet as have only in the last couple of days stopped bleeding. It was 8 weeks with ds1 and I had no stiches or anything so am not surprise all of you lot have not done the deed yet and am not surprised it was painful with ds 1 it was a bit sore but not painful. Just wait till you are ready and don't push yourself or it won't be worth it.

lois yes it def got easier when I did mixed feeding as it made it much easier to quickly make up a feed and head out to meet friends for lunch / out for dinner with DH.

The earliest I left dd was when she was 2.5 months for an evening as I'd arranged a surprise party for DH's 30th but had expressed milk etc. But other than that once I had formula it def helped. I also hoped it would help her sleep easier (but it didn't!).

I stuck with it for 8 months although the last couple of months she pretty much lost interest as she was on solids and was only really having a small comfort bf in the middle of the night which I cut out and started to give hugs instead. Once the solids started and bf stopped her sleep got a whole lot easier and she started sleeping 12 hours straight - can't wait for little man to follow suit!

Thanks - think I just need to get a grip and realize its early days. She is v good really and it's just because I find her crying stressful (as we all do I'm sure!) it would be nice if dad could soothe more.

Hope you all get some decent shut eye :)

Yes to dry flaky head, it's so weird, she was peeling all over her body, that all stopped, her hair fell out and now her head is flaky! Gosh newborns are so attractive!!!
Anyway she slept most of the day today and hardly ate, was fab for me as got so much done, but has eaten and screamed most of afternoon/evening now instead!

Thanks for all your thoughts/wishes re hospital. They're really pleased with his progress. He's now 6kg (or 13. 2lbs in old money :)) and he was as good as gold all day. As soon as we got him he started crying and didn't really stop till DP got home then he was all giggles & smiles and bedtime went out the window... So finally got a very over tired Minipop to bed at 10pm, fingers crossed he'll sleep a bit better. Have propped cot up too much to see m if that helps.

ishoplove your alternative life

no romance here yet, feel very bad about it as DP had been ever so patient, but where on earth would I get the energy from? Some days I have to choose between eating dinner or trying to get an extra hours sleep, let alone anything else...! Good on yous that have though, very

lois you'll be fine. Don't worry. If I can cope, anyone can. It just takes time and practice to build confidence up (IMHO). It took me two weeks to leave the house, but I try and get out every day now.

Minipop is the same with DP, he sees daddy as playtime & fun. And mummy is boring because it's either feeding or sleeping, so if my DP trys to give him a bottle & get him to sleep it doesn't work. He just won't settle and wants to be twirled around the room. Unfortunately, for DP, that doesn't get him out of babysitting

right now blsthrted on far too much, DMP is snoozing away and I should be sleeping too.

Night all, wishing you a good night's sleep :)

Ok, so tonight had been a disaster so far. Got a very over tired Minipop to bed at 10pm, but he was awake almost constantly until feeding at 1:30am, tried to put him back down afterwards, but he's been awake ever since. Will only settle on me, so I am propped up in bed with him on my chest trying to keep him quiet so he doesn't wake DP who had to go to work tomorrow. I AM SO TIRED! not had a proper nights sleep since last week.

What is wrong with Minipop & why won't he sleep? I even propped up the end of his cot to help, and got him an extra blanket (its really cold in our bedroom!) aarrrgh! It's nearly 4am for God's sake!

Aww minipop hope you managed to get some sleep in the end. I had a night like that a couple of weeks ago with jacob. Sometimes they are just like that bless em. Drives us mad. Did you get a sleeping bag in the end? Started using mine and found it much better cos they are in it when you get them up and put em back down for a feed they are not being but back into a cold moses basket well they are but can't feel it through the bag so they settle much easier,

Jacob is currently resisting a nap but has been awake for an hour so am trying to get him to sleep then I can play with ds1. He is a sleep resistor but dummy and rocking in rocker seems to work!

Will MP sleep lying beside you minipop? Then at least you could sleep too? Sandy likes to sleep with his cheek on my lower boob when I lie on my side. I curl my legs up under him and put a rolled up blanket behind him so he feels totally held and it works like him sleeping on me. Hth and really really hoping you get sleep soon, you deserve it x

Going to emergency appointment at doc today as boobs have been hot for two days, or got sore yesterday and now I've woke up feeling crap so worried its mastitis eep. Sandy also has second cranial appointment today. Good night again last night... We're on a roll!

Hello,

Won't lie, but romantic time makes me feel nervous still at the mo, as am worried that I look vile, it'll hurt, it'll feel wierd and I just don't feel sexy in my breastfeeding bra and/or giant pants! Poor DH! Luckily, he's also shattered, so not missing out too much. It's been so long since we had any romantic time that we'll need to take it slowly to start with. Agh, quite nerve wracking to be honest.

Another one here with a DH who has been at home for ages (he's a teacher, plus had PL leave) and he went back yesterday. It was surprisingly ok actually, but I do find myself rushing about trying to get things done in the time when he's asleep.

Day two now and mil is visiting again so hope we get some time to get things organised.

Hope you all have a good day with your los. x

Didn't get much sleep at all, ham Minipop won't sleep next to me but he did sleep on me a bit while I was propped up in bed. I managed to get him into his cot for 50 mins - whoop!

We've had one of those mornings but he's clean, fed, pooed, changed, finished bottle, burped and now asleep - I am still in sick & poo coveted PJs with furry teeth

I just hope no one rings the door bell!

Ham hope it's not mastitis & Dr can sort you out. Good luck with second cranial appt too :)

MrsM I feel the same way about my big pants not feeling very attractive atm...

Ooooh, who went out for a run recently? I really want to get back out running. How did it go? Xxx