FEB 2010 Terrors sometimes, angels at others - yep, they're properly two now...

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CP

CP oh dear. Do you feel depressed? You don't sound it on this thread.

I think I am, I have been struggling for a good month now. I was pretty teary this morning with her. I don't think I am really depressed but I have crossed something. Hopefully I might get something that will actually be helpful and then I can stop it going further. I think it is mostly related to DS generally being hard at the moment, getting anything done in the day has become impossible. Even the motorway journey wasn't enough to keep hiim asleep for more than 40 mins and he cried the 90 mins it took us then to get home. We left at bedtime as well so not like he should have been awake.

Aw CP, I'm so sorry to hear that. Good that you're getting some support, though.

My diabetes doctor have told me that I'm ready to be launched! = meaning we can start ttc

Wahey, SB!! Go for it!

CP
yeah! BS
sorry for your sleep IC

DH is getting better (he is walking now)
DD1 has a cold, after getting to an hospital full of sick kids to get the all clear from the operation , I do keep telling them that every time we go healthy or not, she get something (or something on top), they just won't listen! < it was worse in the UK too! OH! those grubby waiting room toys!)

DD2 is trained (few accidents though, the school nearly send her back), she really enjoy the school but is "very active, very curious, and I can see that she hasn't been in school before because she says mine all the time and wants to do her own things all the time" , she is 2.5 what does the "teacher" expect? It is her character too (she is still telling off other children if they go close to me or DD1, "my mama, my toto" like if they would want to steal us she probably has a point with her sister though! ).
I have taught her to share and take turn the same way as DD1 but the result is quite different! I am not sure to be enamour with the "french" system. DD2 loves it though. (it is only summer school too, no need to be so uptight). Actually I am suspicious about all the pictures, not a child is smiling.

I need sleep, may be tLc, and definitely some me time, being a nurse and taking on all of DH chores on top of mine is not helping.

sorry, rambling!

mous my DS has been in nursery since is 4 months old and does have problems sharing from time to time - he shouts 'my maman' when I pick him up and will say 'no' to others kids who try to climb on the slide after him.

How is DD2's speech coming on, Mous? "my mama, my toto" sounds pretty promising!!

I slept better last night, thanks - and DD slept through. Her cold doesn't appear to be developing much beyond a bit of a snotty nose and even that hasn't been too bad today.

I took DD to the gym this morning and she had a great time - she's getting much more physically adventurous, which is good to see as she's been inclined towards over-caution up to now (not that I'm complaining - it makes for fewer accidents!!).

Our house vendors have suggested we exchange contracts soon (even though we can't complete until Aug 1st) then they'll let us have a key so we can go in and do things/drop stuff off etc. They've already moved out, so no problems there. This would help matters enormously!! Meanwhile, my hospital bag is increasingly packed. Although I'm still 8 weeks away from the EDD, I'm only 4 weeks away from when I went into labour with DD, so I'm not taking anything for granted this time....!

Hugs to CP.
All systems go SB.
Sounds like good progress on all counts IC and Mous on ds2's speech.
Have done my training day today for 40 teachers and am now shattered. Especially as ds2 helped me to only 3hrs sleep last night! Have done all my reports so now have 2 weeks to grind out and catch up on all my normal work. For tonight though, a night off and a bonus glass of wine. Back when I'm feeling human again

survival enjoy the wine and fx you'll get more sleep tonight

Blimey, that sounds like a superhuman effort, Survival!
Here's hoping you get a chance for some decent kip tonight x

CP I am sorry to hear that you're not feeing so good. Hope you can get the help you need - you can always vent here as well. Maybe Homestart can help too - just someone to hold DS for an hour while you hoover/have a cup of tea? DD was incredibly wakeful and clingy yesterday and it put me in such a foul mood (12 week wonder week).

SB Hope DS gets well soon. Great news re ttc, hope you don't have to wait long to get pregnant. V exciting.

Survival You poor thing - I can't imagine doing all that work on so little sleep. Hope you get some more good nights soon.

IC Really hope you can get all your moving done before the arrival of young JF.

My dad rang yest to say he's now feeling up to travelling and will be arriving on the 11th for a week. Mum having DS today and I'm having my first haircut for about 5 months.

Potty training not going so well. He still won't say beforehand. He'll go if we put him on potty or loo and he needs to but his default position is to say "no" if asked. Driving me a bit mad. Maybe I should leave it for a month but I really want him trained before Sept. Also there's the pride thing, you don't want people to think you're a shit parent and you want them to think your kid is on schedule with their development.

bc DS doesn't ask to go but agrees to sit on the potty when prompted (every 2 hours ish).

BC Don't worry too much about what others think about pt! Every child is different and among my friends there are children dry in the day by anything from between 15 months and 3 1/2 years. If it is causing yourself and him stress just put him back into nappies for a month and then try again There are no prizes for early pt!
dd2 is nowhere near ready. I had a trial for an hour or so without nappy last week and she was very proud of wearing pants. I asked her every so often if she needed a wee and got 'not yet', then she suddenly did the cowbow walk... . After two lots of wet pants in an hour she agreed that she'd like to please have a nappy again. I'll see how ready she is in August at my parents' and try again then. There is no need to rush in my opinion

IC Exchanging as soon as possible sounds like a good move (pun intended) .

Waving at everyone else... we are drowning here and I am getting a little grumpy about the lack of summer

our LO's are just that, still little, they're not even 2 and a half yet. remember you only hear the people talking about it, not those sticking their fingers in their ears for a bit longer. I found that when weaning, just the fact people were talking about weaning their LO's before 6 months put a pressure on me, even though no judgement was ever intended. peer pressure can still be horrible.

CP completely agree, and it never seems to stop. When they get to 3 and 4 there will be plenty of people wanting to know if your LO knows all their letters yet/ can read, then once at school some parents compare book bands their LOs are on.... I did have a few moments of anxiety with dd1 because it's so hard not to compare, but find myself rather laid back with dd2

I haven't really noticed any competitive parenting - either it's water off a duck's back with me, or I've been lucky enough not to encounter people who imply judgement of such things. I've got one friend who's just successfully potty-trained her DD (who's exactly the same age as my DD) and another one just potty training her DS, who is about 8 months older. I think DD is close to being ready (and she's keen!) but I just can't be fagged to go through it all now, only to have to re-do a lot of it when DC2 arrives..!! If other people want to judge that, I know where they can stick it

I haven't been exposed to competitive parenting but I don't frequent a lot if parents with kids the same age as DS; also DS made the decision not to wear nappies and I had to follow! He did his 1st wee in the kids' toilets at nursery today but still has one accident a day (poo related). I'll try bribery at the weekend to see if it helps

He nanaged to take his nappy off during the night and as a result he and all the bed were soaked this morning. It was back to front!!! DH is suggesting cable ties and I'm starting to consider this idea

what about some tape?

Parcel tape?

I'm furious with dh tonight who is really stressed about money (both our cars needed expensive repairs) but will not listen to reason... This month is hideously expensive even without the cars because I will be working close to 6 weeks before getting paid at he end of July. But we have to fork out for nursery deposit, nursery fee, after school care, extra fuel costs for my commute etc. Simples, no?

I actually thoght of wrapping the napoy with tape