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effective long term birth control advice needed please

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WhatAcow · 03/01/2006 10:18

neither of us want any more, but am only 29 so dont really want to make the final and permanent decision just yet...

no3 (out of my own bod, no4 in total) is due this month and although this is a lovely problem to have, i am way too fertile!!

and disorganised. the pill, condoms, stuff like that will just not do it. this is my 3rd baby in 3 yrs FGS!

so am thinking about a coil. had one b4, in v early 20's (mine, not 'the' 20's! ) and found it made periods heavy long and painful, but now my uterus has been somewhat 'stretched' that shouldnt happen now right?? anyone know??

have heard that theres a new one with hormones in it which isnt as painful...

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Auntyfatasbutter · 03/01/2006 10:20

How old is DH would he consider vasectamy?
what about implants?

JoolsToo · 03/01/2006 11:02

dh had his at age 25 - never regretted it.

Bozza · 03/01/2006 11:06

The one with hormones is the mirena. I tried to have this but was unable to due to the angle of my uterus (think it's anteverted). I have recently had the contraceptive implant. This is inserted into the upper arm and lasts for 3 years. Maybe another consideration.

NotAcow · 05/01/2006 09:35

thanks bozza, will look into it

Belo · 11/01/2006 22:49

I had a coil fitted in September and its brilliant. Can't feel a thing. I've had no side effects. Lasts for 8 years!

NotAcow · 12/01/2006 21:58

really? which one?

winnie · 12/01/2006 22:00

definitely the mirena coil... as someone who got pregnat on the pill and using condoms the coil hjas been a godsend (and it ahs the added bonus of reducint your periods )

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NotAcow · 12/01/2006 22:44

what does snip mean?

and thats a vote in favour of the mirena, then winnie? thats good to hear. read quite a scary thread on here with lots of peoples bad experiences...

spose only way to know if it'll work for me, is to try.

thanks for input

jetlagdZebra · 12/01/2006 22:46

There are several bad experience stories (ok, "nightmare" stories, tbh!) on MN, about coils. I think it's worth a try, since some people obviously love them, but it may not work for you.
Coil didn't agree with me (after I had 2 children, so stretched uterus not a help, it seems). I've got an implant now. It's not "perfect" either, but def. the best thing I've tried.

jetlagdZebra · 12/01/2006 22:47

snip=vasectomy, btw.

winnie · 12/01/2006 22:58

NotAcow, definitely a vote in favour. Thought it was having an effect on my weight but have decided it is not the mirena at all but the very bad way I deal with stress. It truly is the only thing that has worked for me.

Nemo1977 · 12/01/2006 23:01

notacow I have a thread about the mirena coil under health as am in a similair position to you. Just had no.2 and dh wants snip im not so sure so was toying with the idea of the coil still not sure as people seem to have had mixed responses to it.

NotAcow · 12/01/2006 23:38

hmmmmm. v difficult. like you nemo, not sure i want anything to be THAT final, but at the same time, i fancy the idea of not worrying about it at all for a few years at least.

will have to think on it some more.

having babies didnt help then jetlagd? hmmmm. just dont know.

spacedonkey · 12/01/2006 23:40

Mirena is excellent

dramaqueen72 · 13/01/2006 00:05

there is no 'perfect' answer is there? all seem to have some crappy side effects or another... i want dh to have the snip, but he isnt keen for a few years yet......(roll eyes emoticon here...) the pill is horrible to me -headaches/weight gain, but nothing else really appeals either. i assume the implant and patch can cause the same side effects as they are the same as the pill arent they? the coil scares me to death.....but then i dont know huge amounts about it (gosh, how did i get to thirty something and know so little about other forms of contraceptives?)may just have to abstain from sex altogether!

expatinscotland · 13/01/2006 00:42

i need some reliable bc till dh gets the snip and hten the all clear - which could be a while as he doesn't even see the consultant for it till 24 jan., then there's the wait list, then the wait for hte all clear.

i'll need something that doesn't screw around w/the medication i need for depression, tho.

this is lame! they need more options for MALE birth control.

mummytosteven · 13/01/2006 00:46

non hormonal coil, expat? I'm very iffy about Mirena as I became very depressed on mini-Pill. If I have to stop taking the Pill, I reckon that the most realistic options are non hormonal coil or Dh having a vasectomy.

expatinscotland · 13/01/2006 00:49

i'm thinking condoms + diaphragm. or morphing into a buddhist monk .

mummytosteven · 13/01/2006 00:51

I'm far too lazy for the condom/diaphragam combination! also am a bit of a yoyo-dieter, and you are meant to get diaphrgam remeasured every time you put on/lose more than a certain amount of weight, and can just envisage me needing to get measured up every few months!!

expatinscotland · 13/01/2006 00:53

I've been roughly the same size since i was 13, so no probs there.

i've never been lazy, although i accuse myself of it all the time to get myself to do more.

Belo · 13/01/2006 09:38

Can't remember the name of it. But, it was the non hormonal one. I never got on well with all the hormones in the pill.

NotAcow · 13/01/2006 13:03

yes, the hormones is the thing im not sure about.

was on the pill years ago and thought it might be affecting mood etc. BUT i was a bit of a manic depressive back then (easy to see with hindsight!) so it may not have been the pill at all!

and if the hormone-y options actually make periods lighter/easier, as they do for some people, then im all for it.

have only had 1 period since august 2002, due to being pg and BF'ing and it was HORRIBLE.

also had a non-hormonal coil which as i mentioned, was not v comfortable at all, so...

Eulalia · 13/01/2006 13:20

Am wondering this myself. At my post-natal check up the doctor said you should consider yourself fertile till age 55! Turned 40 last year and had my 3rd and don't want any more. dh is 60 but won't have the snip. At the moment 3 kids including baby is contraception enough but don't know what to do long term.

I'd not suggest vasectomy for young men as say something happened like you split up then he'd not be able to have any more kids. I am just saying this as dh was 44 when I met him and 53 when he had our first child. I doubt if I'd stayed with him if he couldn't have children.

Will read this thread with interest.

Eulalia · 13/01/2006 13:21

Sorry that sounded a bit doom and gloom, don't intend it to be ....

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