July 2011 - Feeding, sleeping, burping!

[Eglu]

Hi all,

I thought I'd better start us a postnatal thread, since it's now September.

Think we should have a list of babies.

Eglu - DD - 26th June

[buttonmoon78]

It's been a tough few days but I had some news today which made me smile - my eldest sister is expecting dc2 in June - two days before mine and my dad's birthday so I've told her to hang on and make it a 3rd generation thing!

Yesterday's funeral was hard - it was very stressful. DH and I felt like we'd run a marathon by the end of the day. The DH and girls were so strong though - I really thought they did her proud.

Reflux wise, things are not stunning but I've spoke n to the paed's secretary again today and she said we'd be seen within 3 weeks. Which feels like an age...

Thanks all for being so nice the last couple of weeks. I think I was mega stressed about yesterday's service and now that's out of the way I feel a lot more positive. I've got to get through Grandma's before we're totally out of the woods which is next Weds but I do feel like a weight has been lifted this morning.

[WinterLover]

oh Button im really sorry :( What a horrible few weeks for you.

[JimmyChoo17]

Hey button how u Holding up?
I've not been on here in a while I find it hard to keep up with as doesn't display Easily on phone like f book!

Cerazette users....I've been having periods on it every cycle like clockwork but they have suddenly stopped but read udont have them anyway on this pill? Anyone had this too? Or should I be peeing on a stick right now (looks worried!) I'm a reliable pill taker tho to be honest.

wantobe how long from learning to roll onto belly was it until baby learnt to roll back? DS is brilliant at getting on front then getting the hump and not getting back. He's 15 weeks today.

Breastfeeding not gone as well as thought would be he is taking on more formula than breast milk now as can't keep supply up with his needs. I would have to be expressing all day which would do me in. I cansee why people give up but im trying not to beat myself up about it and think well he still gets some breast milk. Im so annoyed with myself tho :( especially after such a great start. Most days he he gets half and half and breastfeeds at night it's the only time he'll do now. (his nursing strikes returned! )

Excuse spelling and odd typos one finger typing on an unresponsive iPad does not help!

Loving mummyhood tho....and dare I say it I have been broody this week! X

[JimmyChoo17]

I've just spotted your other post button what a rough time u have had I am so so sorry for your family's losses. X

[buttonmoon78]

Thank you jimmy and winter - it has been a lot bit rough but I'm hoping we're coming to the end of it now.

Had a lovely day today - ds was ace, smiley and happy all day. New footmuff for my loola arrived so ds will be ok if we decide to winter in the arctic this year . All lovely. Even caught myself thinking maybe the reflux was fading away (mainly because we now have an appt with the paed and that's generally how my life works!) but no! Normal service resumed tonight - an hour's solid screaming, thrashing, clawing, fighting, arching, blah blah...

He's fallen asleep finally and even with the sensitivity turned down low I can still hear him sobbing in his sleep through the monitor. Still, tomorrow's another day, no?!

Jimmy don't use cerazette sorry. I can't believe you're broody! Hormones are funny things Please don't beat yourself up about bf. As you know from reading previous posts of mine, I don't practise what I preach but it really is the most pointless emotion ever. If it doesn't work it doesn't work - and when you know you've put your all into it then guilt shouldn't factor.

[WinterLover]

Hi everyone...

Question about sleep and naps. Has anyone got a routine going? Also how many naps are your LO's having during the day?

DS has started waking at 3.30 and ready for the day, he doesnt want feeding till about 6 though :( Im knackered!!! He falls asleep about 7ish without fail, there is no chance of me keeping him up later

[Want2bSupermum]

Hi Jimmy It was a good 4 weeks or so between rolling over front to back and doing back to front. She is now trying to sit up. I blame daycare! Don't worry about the feeding thing. I was very disappointed that I couldn't breastfeed but c'est la vie. There are some positives to formula the best being that it helps babies sleep through the night! You are not the only broody one. Wouldn't have believed it but I found myself pushing for #2 in December next year. It all depends on if I get promoted at work. Must pass those darn exams....

Winterlover DD likes to catnap and does two or three short naps of 45mins or so. I normally put her down at 7pm after doing her bedtime routine but she has started to wake at 5am. I kept her up until 8.30pm this evening and will see how it goes tomorrow morning.

Other good news is that my Dad arrives tomorrow. He will be staying for 3 weeks which is great as I have another exam on the 15th. Difficult to study when your LO needs cuddles and DH is away with work.

Button I can't believe you have to wait up to 3 weeks for an appointment. It is a good thing I don't live in the UK. I would call the dr everytime the child cried until I got an appointment (yes I would get their home number and call them at 2am in the morning).

[buttonmoon78]

I had a real moment of epiphany this weekend - actually it was dh's more than mine! After weeks of ds being lovely whilst he was around and only vile for me he had two really bad acid attacks this weekend. DH tried to comfort him and received a rake across the chest for his troubles and then said in total amazement - 'is this what you've been going on about?!'

Erm, yes dh it certainly is...

Appointment through for the 17th so not as long as all that. Am now keeping an even more anal diary about his behaviour etc.

[Want2bSupermum]

Button I have had the same thing this week regarding the snot production by DD. I knew she would get colds going into daycare but I wasn't expecting the volumes of green coming out of her nose. I made DH suck it out this morning so he could see what I was talking about when I asked him to go get his flu shot. Dr recommended it and he didn't want to get something that he saw was unnecessary! Grrrrr.

He has gone this lunchtime and didn't have to pay a dime as I got him a coupon. Will have to make him a Berocca coctail when I get home tonight.

[SpannerPants]

DS has gone from waking for a feed once or twice a night to waking at least every 3hrs - we've gone back to cosleeping which means I am getting some sleep but I'm missing DP :( I take DS into the spare room as we have a memory foam top on the mattress in our bedroom and I worry about it being too soft/too hot.

We had to go for a developmental review this week and the HV advised me to do lots of tummy time as he had a bit of head lag when being pulled up into a sitting position so I put him on his playgym when we got home and he immediately rolled right over! He had been rolling from back to front but was getting his arm stuck underneath him. He's quite happy on his tummy and can support his head well in that position so hopefully the head lag will disappear soon :)

[WinterLover]

Spanner how old is your DS. My DS has got head lag too but nobody seems that bothered. He's 15 weeks (11 weeks corrected age)

[Want2bSupermum]

Spanner the Dr here advised me to do gentle sit ups with DD at the 3mth check up to help build up head/neck control. Put baby in 'sitting' position (as best as you can) and get them to grip your fingers. Start moving your fingers back two inches and then slowly to three. Baby will lean back slowly and gain better control of their head. Build it up until baby is leaning back 45 degrees with head still in line with neck.

[buttonmoon78]

Think poor ds will have to live with head lag (if he has it) as anything like that just makes him puke more! We borrowed my sisters Bumbo yesterday as I'm trying to extend our upright positions repertoire. He sat in it really well for 10 mins last night. Think I'm going to limit to 10m at the moment as it makes him tired.

We've def regressed reflux wise. Every evening is a total battle now. I'm going to ring the hospital later to see if they've got a cancellation for today's clinic. I'm losing the plot and althought I don't feel like I'm in any danger of hurting ds I do feel like I'm beginning to get a bit angry with the situation. I can still rationalise it and separate his crying and pain from him but it's getting me down. Even knowing that his appointment is only this time next week is too far away.

Thankfully all done with the funerals. I was really positive about yesterday until just before the service my dad handed me a sapphire pendant that Grandma had put aside for me. We had a big break in last year and I lost the pendant that dh had had made for our wedding day using a sapphire that my dad brought back from Sri Lanka when I was tiny . This pendant was the one my dad had brought back from the same trip for Grandma and she wanted me to have it to try to replace the original. It was the only personal bequest apart from her rings for my aunt so you can imagine how unemotional and together I was then!

Phew - must dash. School run calls...

[isitreallythattime]

hi all, great to hear all your news and progress. My lo is still not rolling, she doesnt seem to like being on her front, will try and keep giving her couple of mins a day.

Questions - has anyone experience major hair loss? I heard that you loose hair after stopping bf which i did completrely a couple of weeks ago, but everytime i wash, brush or tie my hair up its falling out. Last night when i was washing it huge clumps were coming out. WOrried that im loosing my hair..... [hmmm]

[WinterLover]

Its normal too lose a lot of hair, I questioned by hairdresser about it

[buttonmoon78]

I think I'm going to have to pop to see the gp soon. Am really struggling with everything. To add to his repertoire, ds has now begun projectile vomiting after a bottle as well as then bringing the rest back later. So that's really helping with the washing etc.

I spend each day wishing the clock would stop because I know that soon it will be 4pm and he'll begin screaming again. Today I have cried lots which is not really like me.

I think I just need a bit of space. An hour or so when I know he's not my problem. I feel like we're joined at the hip and I've always enjoyed that before but he's so screechy and sicky it's so damn draining.

And there I go. Crying again.

[SpannerPants]

Going to see the GP about yourself sounds like a really good idea Button - Im not surprised you're at the end of your tether! You might find this a bit strange, but if you live anywhere near me (Leicester) I could come and give you a bit of a break? (I have a clean CRB check!)

[WinterLover]

Button that sounds a good idea. Ive got PND and the best thing I did was go to the GP. It may be worth speaking to Homestart if they are in your area, they offer a range of help, including having someone come to you and give you a break for an hour. My HV really rates them, [http://www.home-start.org.uk/homepage Homestart]]

[WinterLover]

Stupid links - Homestart

[buttonmoon78]

Thanks guys. The w/e wasn't too bad as dh was around all the time to take some pressure off. He's also home tues/weds nights this week which will help.

Will check out homestart and I'd love to take you up on your offer spanner but I think Stoke on Trent is a little too far for you!

[buttonmoon78]

Well.... a 3 hour appt with the paed

Upshot is we're sticking with ranitidine, although doubling his dose to 7.5mg x 1ml x 3 daily. We're also introducing domperidone. And once we've been on domperidone for a week we're to restart weaning, and we saw the dietician for advice about that.

She was so lovely. I'd been so geared up for a bit of a scrap and turns out she was so nice that I cried with relief

Of course, as I predicted, it was Dr Jekyll who came with me today - all smiles for all the nurses, drs, dietician, other patients and their parents etc!

I know we're not out of the woods, but to finally feel as though we're being taken really seriously was lovely. She said that if it was up to her she'd be prescribing cleaners, childcare and massages to mums of reflux babies. Dr Piggot for Prime Minister - that's what I say!

[JimmyChoo17]

Oh my god if u start losing hair once u give up bf I'm done for! I thought it was lost after giving birth....I have that to look forward to! I was losing before :( was distraught! I never grew any extra hair whilst pregnant so to lose more will send me over the edge! having major image crisis already at moment. Do the whole "you look like this for your bundle of joy..."....but let's face it that doenst help remove stretch marks, boost boobs, lose c section over hangs and thighs that could feed a thousand!

Oh button I feel for you....I feel tears for you too (must take note to man up! Getting a right flimsy female nowadays!)

[Want2bSupermum]

Button Great news about the Dr. So happy you got to see them. I can understand how you feel. Anna has had a really bad cold and my friend whose baby had awful reflux problems lent me a basinnet where the baby is is at an angle. Worked well at clearing her nose but she said it really helped her boy with his reflux problems. This is the model she lent me.

Winter I am losing hair but I have so much of it that I haven't noticed any bald spots. I saw my obn on Thursday for a full check up and I asked her about hair loss. She said if you a bald patch to call in and get a blood test done as sometimes the thyroid has problems adjusting. Very good that you have seen the dr about pnd. Hope you are able to get the help you need.

Jimmy My ass is so wide it needs hazard lights. My Dad is visiting and he has bought DH and I a gym membership to the YMCA. They have a creche from 8am-4pm during the weekend plus swimming lessons. Such a great gift as I can't exercise like I used to unless I just walk with DD. Hate jogging strollers....

[isitreallythattime]

Jimmy you are not alone in feeling pants at the moment. For some reason I am STILL feeling hormonal, i have spots, hair falling out, major muffin situation and boobs have disappeared. Isn't funny how you feel rubbish for nine months and think it will all be back to normal after birht then 5 months on you feel your falling apart.
The hair loss thing may just be me stressing? I feel sick too.....

[SpannerPants]

I've been feeling sick too isit - I have to make sure I have a good lunch because I can't eat after 4pm :(

My skin is awful too, I have rosacea (I was on roaccutane for it 18 months ago so it was pretty bad) and it cleared up during pregnancy but has come back with a vengeance and I can't have any treatment for it until I stop breastfeeding. I think being tired and stressed makes it worse, but I can't really avoid that at the moment!

DP's best friend's wife had their first baby last week and we went to see them last night, I was cuddling her thinking "Oh I miss newborn baby cuddles...maybe we should have another!" despite saying no way to any more for 16 weeks after DS was born. We need to wait at least 2yrs but I definitely want more than one now!