*~*~* August 2010 *~*~* where does the time go?

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Only 5 spaces left on the old thread - wonder how long it'll take us to fill ths one up?

Happy chatting :)

Alright Dave? Welcome back! Tell you what, if I hadn't had this trip to look forward to, I think I would have been really depressed by now. Just hanging on, really. I've found the adjustment to motherhood has just hit me like a ton of bricks in the last month or so - cumulative sleep deprivation nit helping either. I'm so looking forward to learning to have some fun again. And spend proper time the three of us...

And on that note, love to you all and see you in about three weeks

Ooh dave tell me more about sharing a room, we want to move them in together but L often witters away to herself til 8.30/9pm ish and S has at least one wake-up a night. They don't keep each other up? How much later do you put DD in bed?

nat have a lovely, lovely time!

Hi all

Marzi, I mix BLW and spoon feeding, so when feeding T things like chilli, I use a spoon, but T is starting to grab it to try and feed himself, so I let him do it with a little on the spoon, makes a real mess, but he wants to learn.

No sign of crawling here, lots of rolling but that's it. But I do love it when he says Dad dad or mama, makes me go all goey inside, he was saying them for ages but not in the right context, but all of a sudden he just started saying them in the right place. He also knows/recognises the words, grandma, apple, clap and Tessa (the dog). If i ask him to find Tessa, he starts looking around the room, trying to find her and holds out his hands to her when he locates her. Ah bless, but still no crawling. We also say to him Thomas clap, and he will start clapping, then I say Mama clap and I clap and he knows not to. Amazing little sponge minds they have at this age, so going to miss all this, next week when I go back to work .

Well it's time to T up from his 2 hour afternoon snooze, so ta ta for now

Take care all xx

Chulita we had always said that when F was sleeping through we would move him in with DD, but at 7.5m he was reliably sleeping til 4am and as it was coming up to the easter hols (and DD would'nt suffer too much from being woken if she didn't have preschool the next day) we decided that during the hols we would put F in the travel cot in her room and just see how we got on. He actually slept much sounder as i think DD sleeps sounder than we do iyswim? We were putting them to bed at the same time, and putting either a story cd or DD's music box on meant that generally they were both quiet. We moved F into his own cot in there after a week, and his mobile has a light projector wich they both like to watch. Sometimes DD will sit out in the hall with her dollhouse if F is not settling, but generally he is good going to bed and DD will sit with some books or something until she wants to sleep. They really don't tend to disturb each other. The one thing we have noticed is that if F is having a bad night (teething for example) DD will wet the bed. But him waking 4-5am for a feed doesn't disturb her at all. HTH

Hi all, nice to hear from you Dave. I can't believe how quiet it is here - I've been away in the Forest of Dean since Wednesday and was expecting to have loads to catch up on, but not so much...

Hope nat is having a fab time and that thedogwalker's return to work goes well. I'm back to work in 2 weeks - I can't believe it. Got our first nursery settling in session tomorrow (she will only be going one day a week though).

We had a lovely time in the Forest, and amazingly the sleeping stayed fairly consistent - we had quite a lot of tears at bedtime because we couldn't get the rooms we were staying in very dark I suspect but for three of the four nights she slept through, although she woke at 3am this morning and I ended up feeding her because she was crying quite a lot (teething again) and we were staying at a friend's house with thin walls and didn't want to wake everybody. Thought it would buy me a bit of a lie-in, but instead she decided to start the day at 6.05am. I hate early mornings more than night wakings, euh. She was waking more like 6.30am as well rather than 7am ish, I hope it was just a holiday thing.

Hope everybody is well.

Glad you had a lovely time belly, I'm very I feel we need a holiday, DH is so stressed with work at the mo it's making life quite tricky.

dave I think we'll have to hold off, much as I'd like to move them in, L goes to her room around 7pm but usually chats/plays til 8 or 9 and S wakes 1-2 times a night and is up for the day at 5.30. Their schedules are so different I just don't think it would work now having thought about it!

S is currently waking at 5-5.30 every morning so I'm not staying up a moment longer, I'm shattered and DH is still at work so he'll wake me up when he gets in...great!

Harsh that you get woken by Dh returning chulita. Is it him being loud or you sleeping lightly?
I can sleep thru Dh coming in from work nearly every night now. My Dh also stressing at the moment he's bought his own cab and that involves lots of paperwork ..

Proper scan in 8 days I can't wait. If only to give my parents the ability to tell their friends the news I haven't heard the end of it- when?when?when? Etc.
Has anyone heard from Caz? Wasn't she finding out babys sex soon?
Anyway must go battery about to die

Very exciting about the scan GYA. Good luck.

I did my doula course last week and it was brilliant. Now I have to do a post-course module, then I can register with Doula Uk as a trainee and hopefully get some clients. I need to do four births and four postnatal clients then I am 'qualified'. It was really inspiring, all about leaving women alone during labour, keeping things private and quiet and hopefully helping women achieve a positive birth experience (whatever that may be, not necessarily natural birth, as long as the woman is happy).

Dan's sleeping went backwards last week, and the twins' behaviour went backwards too! So I was tired, dh was ill so I didnt want to do cc, so was knackered and feeling really down. Did cc with D last night and it was only 1 x 20 mins crying at 2am so pretty good.

I went to the FA Cup final on Saturday and needless to say it was great! . I nice day off from the kids too, they stayed home with DH .

We have a very creaky house so he can't help it and doesn't try. As it happened he didn't get home til 4am and S was up again anyway so he didn't wake me as I was already up

Very exciting re scan gya hope it all goes well for you!

neenz how cool about the doula stuff, are you going to look after friends? or how are you advertising yourself?
fwiw S has gone backwards with his sleeping too, back to 2-3 wakings...not good.

Bit of sleep regression here too...:(

Same here not too bad but he fights his naps more and has started waking before 4am again

we had 4 wakings before starting the day at 6.30, oh dear

ooo hello, came to lurk and saw you'd asked about my gya

We've booked a private gender scan for the 6th June. Still feels like ages away. We tried to get a slightly earlier date but there wasn't any available so it is only a week before my 19 week doppler scan anyway on the 13th, but we still booked it because it will be a lovely experience (we hope!) compared to all the medical scans we're having otherwise. Apparently they have a little look in 4d too, which will be so cool if they do! My "20 week" date arrived yesterday too - which happens to be at 19 weeks on the 15th June. So I'll have waited ages (6 weeks) for a scan and then 3 come along at once as it were!

I turn 20 weeks and "half way" on Belle's birthday. Although worked out that as of today in theory we have 22 weeks to go until my promised 37ish weeks induction, exciting and scary and sounds really close, yet seeming such a long way away, just praying God keeps us safe this time until then.

We had to have an another scan 2 weeks ago though due to a small bleed. Bow was very happy - busy stretching its legs out straight and aching its back but they could see a small area of bleed on edge of placenta. No-one was too worried though and there hasn't been anymore bleeding since.

Belle's rose has bloomed ladies so I'll get a picture taken and show you all later on. It looks beautiful. Can't believe I've managed to keep a plant alive - definitely a first!

yay glad the rose is blooming caz:) and very glad to hear Bow is looking happy. I hope you can really enjoy the scans.

I hope your scan goes well gya - the scans feel like a lifetime ago to me. How amazing to see another little one growing in there not long after Tilly came out!

dave good to see you back and glad you're feeling happier now. I found 4-6 months particularly tough and it's still up and down but I am totally in love with him too

How did the nursery settling in session go belly?

neenz fab news about doula course, sounds like you've found a brilliant use of your talents.
+gya and caz*, lovely to hear about your growing tums.
Sorry to hear some of you are having rubbish sleep. Touch wood E is still sleeping through (never thought I'd say that) although she is waking earlier, not a fan of 6 - 6.30 starts. Although she did nap for 2 hours and 40 mins this morning...

The nursery settling in went well, we were there and she just played on the floor with the other babies quite happil
y. Tomorrow I have to leave her for two hours, then three hours on Friday then a full day next Tuesday... I'm sure she'll be fine but I haven't really left her all that much...

Looking for advice - we only have one car and pre-baby I cycled a lot so I'm planning to pop her on the bike, but I'm really confused by all the contradictory advice/opinions on the benefits of trailers vs front seats vs back seats. Anyone got any experience?

We have a Weeride Kangaroo and we love it. The only meh side to it is that the straps don't fit fantastically well but I love being able to witter away to them and hear what they're saying. I'm going to get a back one now for L so feasibly I could put S in the Weeride and L on the back [glutton for punishment emoticon]

Front bike seats are supposed to be great, we have one (two) on the back or our bikes and they were fine. Might get a front one as well so we can take all three of them this summer.

D got the cc treatment last night - he woke at 4am and was awake till 5.20am, went back to sleep then woke again just 45 mins later at 6.15am . Then I brought him in my deb, he seemed really hungry. Hopefully tonight will be better.

Caz, so lovely that your rose has bloomed and very exciting about the scan. Bleeding must have been worrying - so glad they don't think it's anything serious. Have they offered you anything else other than induction eg monitoring of the placenta instead? I totally understand you want the baby out safe asap - we would all feel exactly the same - induction is just a really tough process so early on because it is highly likely Bow will be quite happy tucked up inside you and probably won't want to come out! So it massively increases the chances of a section. Might be worth asking the hospital what their C-section rate is after induction. Mind you, you might not care whether you have a section - I totally understand that too. Over 50% of inductions before 41 weeks end in a section at some hospitals according to my doula course. Tell me to bog off if I am overstepping and telling you things you already know .

Hey all, had a bit of an eventful day. Elodie had another settling in session, this time I left her two hours which apparently went fine - a few tears when the key worker left her to go to lunch but they had cuddles and she was okay. She was very pleased to see me.

But when I put her down for a nap about half an hour later, she was making quite a lot of noise and after about 20 minutes I decided she was not for sleeping - then when I went in to her she had thrown up everywhere. I felt awful for not going in later. She's not keeping anything down, poor little mite, but doesn't seem ill otherwise. My DH reckons she must have picked something up from nursery but surely it wouldn't have processed that fast? I think it's probably more likely because she's more mobile so literally everything is going in her mouth. Anyway, she hasn't kept anything since breakfast down, after water came back up again I didn't give her a eed at bedtime, so I'm expecting a few wake-ups...

Ack! That's horrible. Fwiw, I've left L a couple of times and later gone in to find her fast asleep in dried vom felt so bad! Let's hope E's better in the morning!

slept through the night but threw up her morning breastfeed. Ace. Have been advised by nhs direct to keep feeding her and giving her fluids even if she keeps throwing them up. Gave her some bread and a tiny BF earlier and she's not thrown that up yet... It's going to be a messy day.

how's E today bellygazing? did she manage to keep anything down yesterday?
S's sleeping has gone to pot but he's cutting at least one top tooth, maybe two so that might explain things. I've been dreading the top ones coming through but I can't stop 'em!

Hey girls, finally got a picture of Belle's rose on my blog

neez -you're not overstepping! yeh I will be asking all those questions at the hospital. After all it took 5 days to induce me with Belle, although that was earlier on again, so I know it is likely it won't be straightforward. I'll be having very regular scan monitoring the placenta, blood flow and growth too though. However, I'm not prepared to go overdue, I know too much now. The placenta works at full function until 37 weeks and then starts to deteriorate. SO many ladies on Sands are there simply because their placenta died at 39-40-41-42 weeks. So based on that, if they think an induction would take too long at 37 weeks and end up with an emergancy c sec based on their hospital rates I think I would rather just plan a c section instead. I'm really not bothered how this baby is born, as long as its born and I get to take it home. Lots to discuss with the consultant though. Next appointment is 13th June so I'll start asking then I think...

caz that's a gorgeous flower, I hope it will bloom for Belle for years to come. How strange that it's almost white! :)
As you say, an elcs is better than an emcs and if being induced at 37 weeks will help you relax a bit more it can only be a good thing. I hope everything's gearing up for Belle's day soon, you're very much in my thoughts. xx

Hi all

CazandBelle Just read your blog, which reduced me to tears, but also found so uplifting. The rose is beautiful and I'm so happy for you that is has so easily become part of your rose theme, definitley uncanny how it all fits together.

Well that's my 1st week back at work over with. I cried buckets on Monday whilst driving to work and so did T. I rang my Mum after 2 hours and she said he was still crying and calling for Mama . He has improved over the week, thankfully.

But what has happened is that he no longer wants BF. He was only having small amounts anyway, and then biting me, but no he won't go near my boobs at all. He just won't take milk from me anymore, which has upset me as I loved BF, but I can't force him to feed from me, just cos I enjoy the closeness. My little boy is growing up .

Well I've started on the Folice acid, I like to take it for a while before ttc, so when my DH is next over, maybe i will start ttc as I am really broody.

Hope eveyone is well. Have a good weekend xx

dogwalker you poor things! If it's any help L stopped bfing around this time. I dropped her night feeds and she got into a bit of a sulk I think and dropped the day feeds. I was really upset for a few days and then things settled down. I'm kind of thinking of encouraging S to drop a few from 4-5 down just cos we're not ttcing but having Risky Nookie and I don't want to bf whilst pg.
I hope T settles down very quickly for your mum and that you both get used to this next phase in your lives!