January 2011

[MacMomo]

Thought we should have a post-natal thread so we can stay together from our ante-natal one. Technically, DD was a December baby after coming early on new years eve; hope you don't mind if I stay with the January group after all this time. How is everyone doing?

On phone & brain mush, so sorry I can't refer back much or format!
Readyornot hope your hair sorted!
The towel story was very funny.
Re injections, Nathan had his 2 weeks ago and was fine except for being extra tired & a bit fussy & hot the next day. Soon be time for the next ones, boo!
I can't believe he is 11 weeks today, time is flying. He's doing really well, for the last week or so he has been going to bed at 7 to half past ish, late feed at 11ish, stirs at about 4am but settles with dummy then wakes at about 7am. Love it. DS1 was the same so I feel very lucky. I think it has helped a lot that we put him in his cot in own room, before that he would be very unsettled from 3ish but not hungry. I know its against advice but he's on other side of wall and I think before that we were disturbing him. He's a little chunk too, over 14lbs now and feeds about every 3 hours all day.
Another one here struggling to lose weight now, have plateau'd for last few weeks. Need to try harder, I want to lose at least 2.5 stone this year.
Hugs to everyone xx

Mama kudos to you for managing a holiday! I couldn't be bothered with the packing! Sounds like you have made your mind up re work. I had 15 months off with DD1 and hope to have a year this time so I can't imagine going back at 10 weeks.

Injections here next Tuesday.

Just back from a coffee with a Mum I met in hospital who only lives a few miles away. She has twins who were 5 weeks early and looks knackered and tearful. She is really nervous about getting out of the house on her own with them. Hope I managed to reassure her a bit to take it one day at a time. I don't have any experience of looking after twins (though I am one) but second time round I do feel I am worrying less and a lot more relaxed. You definitely know that nothing is for ever with number 2.

Have our house up for sale atm and have a viewing at 3pm. Just what I need. Going to pop Abigail in the sling and see if I can get the floor washed. I have managed to put all of DD1s toys under the stairs so at least the place doesn't look like a toy shop!

Off to baby cinema tomorrow to see "West is West". Did it all the time with DD1 so looking forward to seeing a film again in the company of crying babies!!!

How are naps going for everyone? Completely all over the place here. Abigail mainly catnaps in my arms or in car when on the nursery run. I am trying to put her in the Moses basket at least once a day to give her a chance to settle. She is great at night so can't complain!

Hello all,

I was on the ttc thread and Jan 11 ante natal thread but have name chaged.

DD was born on 1/1/11 (quite a cool b-day). She's doing really well, 6-7 hrs sleep a night, unfortunatey it is from 10pm to 4 am!

I put her next to my friends newborn (24 hrs old) and CANNOT believe the difference. It is amazing how quickly they grow

It's been so long since I posted-sorry! I have had to remind myself several times in the past couple of weeks that it will get better.

DS2 has had horrible chesty cold for nearly 2 weeks now, he is almost choking/vomiting from the coughing. Taking ages to clear up poor little chap. Our night time sleep no better than 3 hour stretches, although I suspect the cold hasn't helped but its starting to wear me down a bit now and I am struggling to deal with DS1 when he is being difficult, esp by Friday! Weight gain great though, and still feeding well.

We have had a busy march. DS1 was 3, DH birthday and my 30th birthday. We are going to center parcs soon cant wait.

Have been using carrier a lot, been a life saver. I love having DS2 so close, means I can sort out DS1 if he needs me (again for mainly toilet help). It is hard leaving him to cry sometimes if I am dealing with DS1 and I am sure DS1 is on a go slow sometimes so I can't rush back to the baby! We have had a few more instances of very bad toddler behaviour but trying to ignore most of it.

Glad you had a nice break mama. DS1 loves the beach too. Can't wait for it to warm up enough for weekends there. Congratulations on work decision-its nice to have the certainty and its a brave decision to have to make. It was one of the scariest things I have done in ky adult life when I decided not to go back to work after DS1 and went in to resign 4 weeks before I was due back! But I will never regret it and I am sure you will love the time with the DCs.

Love the towel story deedee. DS1 still calls me for wiping help-i am taking that as a good thing for now.

Blanche hope viewing went well! Love baby cinema but not been this time as DS1 at home full time too. Naps here ok, at least 2 good ones a day but in pram or sling, which I don't mind actualy as always out and about with DS1 so wanted DS2 to be able to sleep on the move.

Sounds like everyone getting on really well! Lovely to hear the updates!

Loads to catch up on!

Oh dear to towel and hair mishaps.

I'm still losing weight but it feels very slow, I am probably still eating too much but managing to work it off pushing the double buggy everywhere.

mama going back at 10 weeks sounds incredibly hard when all 3 of your DC are so young. I did the first module of an OU science degree before having DS1, thought maternity leave would be a great time to crack on with it but still haven't quite got round to it. There used to be a requirement to do a week long residential school after each theory module which had put me off a bit but I think this has changed now and it can all be done long distance. Just need time and motivation now!

blanche I can't believe you've got your house on the market with a toddler and a newborn - that is truly brave. Hope the viewing went well.

cradlecap welcome back, can you say who you used to be?

crumblequeen happy birthday to all of you

DS2 managed with just a 4am feed on mon night which I thought was quite impressive (although not as long as some of the babies are managing), he was back to 2 feeds again last night though so I'm back to being fairly zombiefied. Hoping for good sleep tonight as it's been a busy day today with lots of fresh air and sunshine . Loving being able to spend time outside again, this did feel like the longest winter ever with a toddler to entertain, being too pregnant to waddle much in the snow and then a newborn to worry about getting cold!

Am constantly amazed at how much people are managing to do with a new baby as well as older children - birthday parties, swimming lessons, holidays, house moves, potty training! You ladies are amazing. I have nothing at all to do except look after one baby and it seems full time to me.

Some lovely warmer, clear weather here this week = hour long beach walks every day. Well, almost. Still putting weight on, but I'm just constantly hungry!

DD is learning to have some naps during the day in her travel cot tent, which means I can do the housework. Not entirely sure this is a positive development! I am still allowing her to sleep on me, too, sometimes - mostly because I enjoy it. I will regret that soon, no doubt.

spring I too put off a load of things thinking that I would have lots of spare time sitting around doing nothing whilst on maternity leave. How ignorant was that? I can barely concentrate through a whole episode of sex and the city, let alone write an essay or read a book.

I was mummychicken but got fed up with that name no alterior motive.

MacMoma with DC # 2 plus, you learn to have a certain level of neglect which enables you to get things done!

I remember really struggling to be out the house for 9.30 am , now if DS (3.5) hasn't finished his breakfast he goes hungry and if DD (10 weeks) is hungry, she'll fall asleep in the pram.

I was wondering where were mummychicken. Glad you are back - cradle cap!

Sorry for gatecrashing... but has anyone heard anything from SuperParty? She was due in January 2011 and was on the ante-natal thread.

I'm from the post-natal thread of her Jan 2010 baby!! We're all just worried as haven't heard from her in ages and want to know all went well and mum and baby ok.

Sorry to bombard. Congrats to everyone btw.

Yaaaay *mummychicken, we're glad you're back!
So sorry but not heard from Superparty on this thread either...really hope all is ok.

Does superparty not have 5 DCs? She's probably really busy/knackered.

Hi mummychicken . How've you been? I've just realised you're cradle crap - liking it! I want to think of a witty/funny name but it'snot my strong point .

macmomo with DS1 all I did was hang around while he slept on me, with DS2 I've had to keep running after DS1 and even the 2 days when DS1 is with Granny each week the momentum keeps me going! Even so I'm not sure I could contemplate putting my house on the market at the moment.

Is it worth trying to PM superparty? I hope she is just busy.

Hi mummychicken!

jobi1 - I think that's always been a big problem with lack of sleep in this house, us disturbing baby and vice versa (all 3 times!) I think I always rush in and start feeding at 1st noise too, so can completely see how seperate room for baby is better. I've got 2 1/2 stone to lose too, but going to focus on the 1st 2stone, have just started a thread in weightloss section if you want to join me Doing GL and couch-5km, so taking it easy really with breastfeeding and lack of sleep still.
blanche the packing was hard! But worth it even though only for a few days. When ds2 was 6wo we went camping in france for 2 wks !! It was a brilliant holiday! Good luck with house sale and viewings...must be tiring x
Welcome back cradlecrap Very much agree with the certain levels of 'neglect'!
crumble - going through similar with dd, she's had constant colds for 5 weeks now so no longer than 3 hours sleep at a time, coughing, projectile vomiting and now ear infection...it will pass soon hopefully. Very hard though. Had made the decision re work, spoke to them and they've now said I can be as flexible as I want. They said I can just do 1 day a wk in office (whicheverday I can do each wk) and the rest I can do from home. They are also going to pay for ds2's nursery fees as an extra so going to stick with it as too good to refuse Will mean I can actually afford to do OU cousre!
springsniffle how did you find 1st module? Which one was it? I'm just doing an intro course in Oct 10 points. Then if goes well will start the 'real thing' in Jan.

Will be back later to finish catching up ds2 desperate for some attention

macmomo - with ds1 I sat on our sofa with ds sleeping on me/feeding for 4 months! It was bliss and I don't regret not getting any of that housework done He slept in his own room from 6 months and was sleeping 12 hoours a night by 9 months. Then with subsequent dc's you just can't do it as you have to feed/dress/wash/entertain older dc's. I don't think I managed to get out of the house before 2pm with ds1, now with 3under 3 I can manage 8.30am Don't ask me how that works!

Haven't seen superparty and have also been wondering how she was doing. Hopefully she's just been far too busy enjoying her babies to get on and MN.

Took dd to dr's and ear infection is begining to clear up All 3 of mine are sleeping at the moment ! Really fancy some in the garden, but will be sensible and stick with a and LOVE this good weather

I am 1/2 a stone lighter than when I concieved!! I was back in my jeans within 2 weeks BUT I think a lot of that was to do with gestaional diabetes. I have sort of stuck to the low carbs diet. (I will find out next week my what my risk of developing diabetes is)

I have also started the 30 day shred - pelvic floor really not up to star jumps

mamasunshine I'd love to be able to not go back to work but I have to, not till September

mama I did discovering science (S103), I think it's been discontinued now but the replacement is probably very similar. I've got a chemistry A-level and the level 1 courses are meant to be roughly equivalent to A-levels so it was ok in difficulty level but I still found doing the TMAs time consuming and because there was a fair bit of physics and biology I did have to do quite a lot of studying. I tried to get to as many of the (optional) classes as possible because they were a chance to make sure you were totally confident that you'd grasped everything necessary for the TMAs.
I also did maths for science S151 (a 10 pointer) while I was dithering over not being able to get together the money/leave from work for the residential school (and this was pre-DC!). It'd probably be a good introduction if you wanted a short course to start.
That's the first time I've really thought about OU for ages, you have inspired me to find out whether there's an equivalent to the residential school that I could get on with in the evenings...

cadlecrap well done you! Although it must be horrible having the extra worry about diabetes.
Can I be smug about my pelvic floor? I think it's probably the only well toned muscle I have but managed to do some trampolining with DS1 without any problems - think we're going to get him one of his own for his birthday (trampoline that is not pelvic floor).

Had a bit of a rubbish day today, DS2 has slept really badly and I've not had enough time to give DS1 proper attention. Feel like they've been taking it in turns to wail at me, apart from when they've both gone for it at the same time . At least it's the weekend now!

Hi mamasunshine

I am starting couch to 5k on Monday with a newfound training buddy, so I'm very nervous! I'm not great at finding my way around these boards but will try and find you on weight loss thread!

Re separate room, I have to say although it goes against recommendations it is working really well, little one sleeps from about half 7pm til 6.30am with one late feed and also usually has his morning nap in there too. He is only on the other side of the wall and is happy as larry, as am I!!

jobi1 I've contacted MamaSunshine on the other thread to say I'm starting couch to 5k at start of week as well! Want to get my pre-preg shape back, am 3/4 of a stone over my normal weight. Hope you find the other thread, don't know how to link to it, I just searched under couch-5k and found her.

hi:)
have taken DD up to her crib to see if she will have a decent sleep - 20mins is what she has been doing last few days. problem is she gets crabbier as day goes on, but today she has pretty much been a grump all the time.

mama think OH noticed by choc raid. SIL and nephew doing well. Still issues with BF, not helped by a temp MW telling them to use bottle. Poor mite getting so confused - breast, bottle and cup! Hoping to see them all this wknd

sounds good plan re teaching, but check how job situation is. quite a lot of unemployed new teachers or on temp contracts. most schools round here are having to loose staff due to budget cuts.

Well done all you couch to 5k people. My sensible eating starts now. have 1 1/2 stone to get rid of, that was there pre pg.

hope wknd was better springsniffle

macmomo nothing better than baby sleeping on you :). I have lovely memories of cuddling/sleeping in my dad's arms as a toddler.

crumble hope long hours sleep come soon for you

dd still fighting sleep, she is already showing us her personality - stubborn, determined but a sweetie

I have a new name! I'd got a bit sick of all the sniffing and snuffling, originally wondersnuffle was DPs pet name for me when I had really bad hayfever being pregnant in the summer, we're all just about cold free now so it's definitely time for a change. This seemed a bit more appropriate...

jobi I think mumsnet is the only place I've ever seen people get really irate about the own room thing (as well as a wide variety of other things). I think most of our generation were put to sleep in our own rooms, on our fronts and only fed every 4 hours, it's amazing any of us survived . If everyone's getting a decent amount of sleep then enjoy it.

walk short naps are rubbish, seems to be all DS2 can manage as well. Why don't babies just go to sleep and stay asleep when they're tired?

I did have a much better weekend, DS1 has been a lot more cheerful. We bought him a tricycle (from the tip , they do have loads of cheap garden toys there) and he's been whizzing around on it. He only really learnt to pedal a couple of weeks ago and he's still very pleased with himself.
DS2 also managed his first 7 hour sleep stretch! Makes everyone feel a bit more human.

When are all you runners finding the time? I like the idea of trying to get some proper exercise but DS2 still cluster feeds all evening. I'll be attempting some sensible eating as well as pushing the buggy up a few extra unnecessary hills (which seems to be the only way DS2 has a decent nap as well as good exercise) but that's probably it for the foreseeable.

Nice name pelvic .

I've been paranoid Mum. DD wasn't looking at me or smiling as a response, prefering to stare at the window. I, of course, googled it and autism came up. I told my worries to DH who then tickled her tummy and she turned to look at him with a huge smile. Stop bloody worring she is fine!

I have my Glucose tolerance test this morning (a hangover from gestational diabetes) Don't know when I'll get my results but I'm a bit nervouse

Good name pelvic! I'd not noticed anything on here about sleeping in own room, but then I only go on this discussion and now the weight loss one mamasunshine started

Nathan is 12 weeks today, and his 3 year old brother Jack also went into the room next door to ours at this stage. They've both done great with sleeping from 7pm so I'm a happy woman.

As for running, I started going straight after both little ones in bed, which is hard in terms of being tired but I haven't got time otherwise. I also get as much walking in as I can, and think if you diet that's enough really.

Cadlecrap I can't believe I only just noticed the joke in your name, how sad am I!! Good luck today, hope you get on ok. And do stop worrying about your DD I used to be the same with DS1 and he's a cracker.

DD slept from 930pm-645am . Best sleep I have had since I got pg. No idea how she lasted so long without feeding. During the day she can be hungry 30 mins after a good feed. How long are your LOs lasting between feeds. We average at 2 hours.

yep like the new name pelvic. As I was trying to get DD off to sleep the other day, I read (try not to read much otherwise I'd be like cadlecrap and her autsim panic), that if baby wakes at 20-30mins, it means they are having problems going from shallow to deep sleep, they suggested hovering nearby, and as soon as signs they may waken, then to reassure and get them back to sleep. Have tried it over the last few days, and haven't found it works. She will either return to sleep or be awake! I did try hard yesterday to look out for any signs of sleepiness or overstimulation, and either put her in pram or held her. We did have a better day yesterday, still shortish naps, but she was far less grumpy.

Cool re tricycle pelvic, nothing wrong with 2nd hand stuff. Our house is full of rehomed goods. Another one sturggling to know when I would fit in proper exercise. Getting out for walks most days. Managed two yesterday, but my pelvis wasn't so happy through the night.

Here's to fast and good result of GTT cadlecrap.

jobi1, I think pelvic meant mumsnet in general, rather than this thread. Think I am going to have a battle with OH re getting DD out of our room. He seems to think that she'll be sleeping in our room until she is 2!!!!! He is such a worrier, but he is such a heavy sleeper, he has no clue what goes on during the night.

Walkthedog, not much more than 2 hours between feeds here during day. Tbh, I stick my boob in her mouth as soon as she whimpers so that may be my doing rather than hers! However, Abigail slept from 8pm to 4.30am the other night so I'm happy to go with that if I begin to get such long sleeps! Had injections yesterday, can believe she is 8 weeks old already. She seems ok with them.

Struggling with naps here too. Does great if being held or in the sling but I am determined to try the moses basket today but she is protesting! She is fine at night in it. Typing with one hand again as I have given in and picked her up!