'Oh, and WetAugust the joy of the EU is that we don't have to agree on military things.' A common misconception is that the EU has anything to do with defence - it doesn't. It would like to, and pretends to, but actually, defence wise, NATO is the driver, not the EU. Belgium is a member of NATO as are we, and Belgium should therefore have supported us as a member of NATO.
I disagree about the view from abroad not being a pretty one - I think it is good that the EU is again being challenged and examined. Hopefully Cameron will not be rolling over to have his tummy tickled like Blair and Brown did, and there are enough Eurosceptics about to give him pause. The reason that twit Clegg is so Europhile is that he would lose his EU pension if he did anything contrary to the interests of the EU, and if that isn't fifth column (along with Mandelson and the Kinnocks), I don't know what is.
As for Anglo-French defence cooperation - it ain't happening. They have meetings at NATO, agree they have no guidance from either London or Paris and go for a coffee in the canteen.
Your comment about xenophobic little Britons is in fact wrong. I would argue that those who oppose the EU aren't xenophobic, but are all too aware that there are more potential markets and partners out there than the EU. I would far rather have closer ties with the Commonwealth, and the US. The UK is far more atlanticist than it is European.