Dreaming about our very much missed loved ones, simply because they are on our mind or something else?

[DrNortherner]

My Dad died April 2009. It's been a tough 14 months, I miss him so much it hurts. It took a while for me to dream about him and first time I did it completley freaked me out, I was a mess as it seemed so real.

Now I dream about him about once a month, each time I know he his dead and he is coming back to talk about me. We chat, laugh and hug. When I wake up I feel hugely comforted but no matter how hard I try I can not remember what we talked about, I just know we did IYSWIM.

DH says it's just cause he is on my mind, a girl at work says she really beleives our loved ones come back to us in dreams.

Interested to hear other thoughts and experiences.

The thought my Dad is really coming to chat is amazngly wonderful.

So sorry about the loss of your father. How comforting you see him once a month.

My daughter died just over a year ago and I prayed to see her in my dreams and I saw her twice, both times being looked after my grandma who passed away a month after she did. I was visiting her in both dreams and knew that I could not stay. In the third (on the anniversary of her death), I saw that my grandma was bringing me food. I asked her if I could speak with my daughter on the phone even though she can't talk (she died shortly after her birth). I just wanted to her her babble. I then said to my grandma that I would come to collect her in 3 months' time.

I believe that what we experienced in our dreams was not random or because we think about our loved ones. I know she knows when I pray for her.

You are so very lucky and I hope that you manage to recall your conversations.

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I still have vivid dreams about my sister over ten years on and usually out of the blue. I had them more often closer to the time of her accident. I don't know if there is more to it but I like to think so.

I believe these sort of dreams are where you really get to meet your loved ones. They can't see us face to face so they slip into our sleep.

I would love to think my Dad is paying me a vist. It seems that lots of people think this too.

Thanks for your comments and sorry for your losses too.

I lost my Dad a few months ago and have had many dreams of him, often where I can recall things and other times where I can't. I wholeheartedly believe that he is visiting me and it really is a comfort to get to see him again in some form. When you think of a person who has passed on I believe you are sending them a message to come and see you, and they do. How can your essence die just because your body has?
My experiences have been met with a lot of scepticism but I really do believe it is real as it is 'my experience', sometimes when I share things with others they tend to judge it and be a bit dismissive or even say they don't believe in that kind of thing. That's fine I say, it doesn't matter what they think it's what I think that counts.
Therefore I say it is your Dad who is paying you a visit x

Irritatingly, it could be either I think.

But if your gut instinct is telling you it's real, then you are most likely right.

FWIW it's a family 'tradition' on my mothers side that we see loved ones in dreams, my nana particularly saw spirits in dreams. I have had relatives on my fathers side come to see me in dreams - people that I've never met! Recently I got in touch with someone on my dads side of the family and I think I've figured out who was who from seeing them in dreams!

Let's face it if you dear dad came to chat to you, face to face, you'd freak out and run, right? So in dreams is a much easier, less scary way for loved ones to visit you without causing you distress.

I am Muslim and we believe that sleep, is the 'small death' ie when we are sleeping, our souls go to God and he returns them in the morning

I have lost three loved ones in the last few years - my uncle, my mother in law and last year, my beloved Grandad

Each time after they have died, I have dreamt about them - and I really believe it is God's way of comforting us. I have felt enormously comforted by these dreams and when my MIL died and I dreamt of her and told the family, they were very much comforted as well

I am religious though so I think that plays a big part in my take on the dreams as it were

PJC that sounds just right! I love the idea of being with God / great spirit in sleep and being returned in the morning.

Nemo