How do I go back to church after so long away

[Buttons2708]

HELP! I was a regular church goer up until about 2 years ago when my exh left me and I received a few, lets just say unchristian remarks. I have 3dd and a ds with my new dp, and although I took ds back to get him baptised I still feel really wary of others in there and what they might say. I don't want to offend anyone there but how do you deal with such negativity? I've not lost my relationship with God but there's definitely a distance from what there used to be. What do I do?

Just go back-if they are not welcoming then I would find a different church with a more Christian attitude.

Just go.

I started going again when the local curate turned up at mums and tots, and it was a LOT longer than 2 years. Initially at a "pram" service on a weekday (at which I was the only attendee), and then on a Sunday, where I was made to feel very welcome.

Are you talking about going to the same church? Do you know the priest/minister/vicar there? Maybe arrange to meet up for a chat to make sure you'd feel welcome before you went? If its a new church, do they have a website where you can check out what they are like?

Unfortunately there will always be some "sinners" at church who like pointing the finger, but if we were all saints, we wouldn't need church, I guess.

The worst church I went to, I was told on my first visit that I was going to hell by a member of the welcoming committee! Put me off going ANYWHERE for ages!

As others have said, go back. I you still feel uncomfortable then try other churches.

Personally I would be staying well clear of any church that had passed judgement on me for the breakdown of my marriage rather than doing everything it could to support me and my children. But that's just me.

I really hope you find somewhere that you and your family feel happy with and can grow in your faith.

I would find a new church and make a complete fresh start.

Thank you for your responses I think I may just give it ago on Sunday and see what happens if they're unwelcoming or pass judgement I think your right, time to find a new one. I can't go and see the vicar 1st as he fell ill before Christmas but he is lovely. Once again thanks for your comments, will let you know how I get on

Go for it. Hope you are pleasantly surprised. There are always going to be those who drag things down in any church, unfortunately, but hopefully balanced by those who will welcome you wholeheartedly, just as Jesus does.

Mary - that's appalling. No wonder people have such negative views of church when some go round saying stuff like that to newcomers. Welcoming hey?

All the best OP.

Id go could you try a new church or are you fancying your old one x

If anyone judges you then that is their issue not yours - they should act more Christ-like.

Go for it... I wish you all the best.

Try to remember you are welcome in Gods house wherever it is.. . . .if people are not friendly though that makes it hard. Try another church if that is the case.
Take the bull by the horns as it were and go for it. Best of luck and dont be nervous. ! God loves you !! x x

I lost my relationship with God too, but I still go to church and take hubby and the two boys just to encourage their relationship really. You never know what might happen if you do go, you may get a pleasant surprise.