anyone tried reiki? did you feel that it helped you or just a waste of time?

[sez2068]

well i am just curious really - have trained in reiki and it seems to make sense to me but i am wondering how others feel about it?

sounds like you can't do much more. Your dp sounds great he must love you very much.

I wouldn't let it stop dp staying over though, just make light of it if he says anything, he'll soon get used to it. He is a child after all you two are the adults. It does sound a bit as if he's the centre of the universe in your house (ds) and is getting used to the attention. I'd try to ignore him as much as you can when he kicks off he'll soon get sick. How do you react when he says he hates dp? Does dp realise ds doesn't mean it and it's his own anger and frustration talking? Probably not even anything to do with dp he's just an easy target?

hi yes my dp doesnt take it to heart

should add at this point he has three children of his own which is another issue for my ds - if my dp ever lived with us they would be here every other weekend and longer in school holidays. well, life isntt meant to be easy huh

and oh god you are so right ds has always been the centre of everything he has always sucked up all the attention and been allowed to - think cos i he the first and had such a difficult pregnancy, birth etc and nearl lost him so many times he was klike a miracle and my fault, i spoilt him to bits so i know its my fault

so a bit of a shock to his system all this!!

my dd is an absolute delight and so easy and happy - probably cos i didnt smother her to bits

when he says he hates dp i do try and be very calm and i say that its ok for him to feel like that and i know he didnt choose this situation but then none of us did, that we all love him and that i hope in time he will come to like my dp though i dont expect him to love him

but sometimes his distress has reduced me to tears which is annoying but its hard when your child is crying and devastated and then i feel, its all my fault i shouldnt have kicked xh out, i should have put up with hin

anyway i keep trying!!

i am trying the ignoring thing i just find it kind of hard cos i feel his pain!!

and when my dp has stayed over my ds cries and cries, even texts my dp to say he cant sleep while he is here!

but perhaps i should just have him stay over every night till ds accepts it

every thing you say makes sense and its all stuff i have thought and know to be true - doesnt make it any easier though

looked into CAT and not currently subscribed i assume its not done to just give out facebook details etc i am relatively new to this but have to say its been a lifeline last few weeks!!

hi on way out but here's my email goldenbrownand at hotmail dot com x will read your message later properly

sorry mistyped in my haste....goldenbrownandi at hotmail dot com sorry

hi thanks for that

slightly better evening

ds went out for dinner with dd and grandparents, dp was here when they got back..

ds was ok with him and i went and sat in living room and ds didnt follow and i heard them on computer with ds showing dp some stupid youtube thing he likes

but when he went to bed he asked if dp was staying over and as i do every time, i said no..

i am no sure i will ever have the courage to say yes when i know it will upset him!!

hey ho thanks for email i am [email protected] x

Very interesting thread.

Sounds like I could do with some reiki. I have had a pretty devastating year - death of my baby daughter and a miscarriage in the space of 6 months. I have my PhD exam on the 1st anniversary of my daughter's death. I imagine I will be an emotional wreck on the day.

Please could someone suggest a reiki practitioner (not too pricey) in London?

oh sh77 how awful for you i am so so sorry i hope you have lots of support around you.

whereabouts in london are you? i am there sometimes. you can email me if you wish (see earlier in thread)

i can send you some distance healing if you would like, obviously no charge! if you want to email about that but no worries if not, just a suggestion.

i think it is better to have in person but certainly many people feel that distance healing is helpful but a proper session would be wonderful for you. if you go to the reiki federation website then you can search by area for a practitioner - just google reiki federation.

i am listed on there and its a good place to look as everyone on there has to subscribe to a code of ethics and more importantly has to show proper qualification certificates and insurance details before they can be listed, so you can feel trusting.

i do hope that you find some help in dealing with this devastating experience that you have had, i have experienced miscarriage more than once and know howe awful that is but cant even begin to imagine how much worse it is to lose a child, i really am so sorry

do email if you would like any more info or advice about reiki

love and light xx

Hi Sez

Thank you so much. I am based in Central. Would love a session and will email you at some point today for details. I am struggling at the moment. My sister is getting married next weekend and I just can't face it. I keep breaking down in tears and so can't face lots of nosy buggers asking me if I have kids yet. I wish I could just hide away and see the next 2 weeks through in peace.

How does distance healing work?
xx

Hi Sez - I went for reiki twice before I went to learn how to do it myself. THe first time I was disappointed; I thought it was relaxing ( I fell asleep!) but nto somethign I'd feel comfortable charging people for! The second time it was amazing and very tangible. I haven't done it since having children as I don't feel like I have the energy to spare/don't want to pass on my general fatigue but that's a bit lame really, isn't it!

Have you been given reiki by different people? How did you find it?

hi i have had reiki from different people and have always found it relaxing but with some yes there is a tangible difference, you feel rebalanced and reenergised, you can definitley feel something at work for the good. and this isnt down to some being better than others -

i think that as in all areas of life, some people you connect with and some you dont. its a question of finding the healer thats right for you.

just on a side note, you cant pass on your tiredness etc - a reiki healer doesnt absorb any 'negative energy'from you - they act as a conduit for positive universal energy and dont take energy from you. well sorry you kno9w that of course if youve studied it, sorry

and in giving reiki you dont give out any of your energy, just all the energy that is out there. i know, i know, it sounds flaky to some but iu have seen and felt it work. i find giving reiki just as energising as receiving it.

well i dont know, they say you dont have to belive in it for it to work, but i am sure that it helps!

sh77 - i have 2 kids now but years ago just days after my first miscarriage i had to go to a wedding and everyone knew. it was a struggle. all those kids there etc. i did put a face on and get through it but every npow and then i had to sneak off for a little cry. so i know how you feel, well, kind of - obvously you have much more to deal with

you will get through it, you will.try and brush off the people who ask about kids. personally i dont think anyone should ask that of a woman when so many women have difficult times having kids - its just insensitive. i dont mean to sound glib, i really dont underestimate the pain you feel.

if you really cant face it, and who can blame you, would your sister understand if you didnt go? or maybe skipped the reception? you have been through such a bad time and really need to put yourself first and take care of yourself

i will look out for your email

sorry you asked about distance healing:

absentee healing is basicaly a process of visualisation in a meditative or relaxed state. i have a representation in my mind of the person who needs healing and send reiki to them and suround them in white healing light. its kind of like a prayer but more so.

this is possible through a belief that we are all connected through universal energy and works on a mentral rather than physical level

well thats a brief overview, i can tell you more later if you wish via email

hi sh77 if you still looking at this thread, dont worry about the emailing just i was thinking about you and hope you are ok x

Hi can I join in this conversation, please? I did Reiki 1 last year & I loved it. Sadly I have psioritic Arthritis and get really tired after work, instead of doing my Reiki practice I just fall asleep or feel so weary I can't concentrate. My children are grown up so I don't have day to day responsibilities for others.

Now I DO know that if I did my Reiki I would feel better but I am stuck in a viscious circle, I meditated on Sunday after a day in the garden & made a pledge to practice both Reiki & my spiritual path.

All good, until an ongoing sinus infection developed into a viscious attack which has knocked me for six, I am managing to work but unable to focus on anything else.

So please any suggestions for incorporating Reiki practice into daily life, do you think it has to be a full session or can I do in little chunks through the day?

PS I attacked sinus infection with drugs, Neti pot & Reiki, Reflexology & sinus massage. Belt & braces approach.

I have regular treatments. It has got rid of my tennis elbow completely.
I also had distance reiki to pass a particularly difficult exam. I passed with 100% (that would be much more amazing if you knew just how shit at maths I am)

hi earthymama

any amount of reiki is good even if its just a couple of minutes. you dont need a full session just treat yourself for however long you have - it should help reenergise you

and any reading or studying that you do on your spiritual path can only help any little amount.

a really nice thing is to do a grounding meditation i can run you through that if you dont know it, it can be as long or short as you like.

and to imagine yourself surrounded by a glow of pink light like a soft cloud of it - protective and healing, and that you are inhaling and exhaling the pink light..

and i try to keep the 5 principles in mind throughout the day..doesnt always work
but sometimes it stops me getting really stressed in a queue!! or when my ds is driving me INSANE!!

and ha mosschops if you are anything like as bad as me..miracle indeed

Yes I do a grounding meditation every morning and Affirmations through the day.
I guess I think there's a right way and I MUST find it!!
I'll be a bit kinder to myself. Thanks

you will find it. and it sounds like you are doing wonderfully

and yes be kind to yourself you have been through a lot x