Curses....can they really happen?

[jayzmummy]

History =

1990 Me dx with cervical cancer
1991 Me hysterectomy and lost my two babies
1992 Me assaulted whilst at work and ended up loosing job because of PTSD
1993 bad year....dont want to divulge but very very bad year
1994 Me broken leg
1995 House flooded and all personal possessions ruined
1996 DH bad car accident
1997 My dad died and it was another very emotional bad year
1998 DS2 shows signs of Autism and nearly dies after anaphalactic shock
1999 DH father committed suicide
2000 Long and emotional court case
2001 dont want to go there!!!
2002 Me major abdo surgery which went very wrong and resulted in further surgery
2003 DS2 three breaks to arms in one year
2004 Lots of small cr@ppy troubles

So far this year
Jan DH third op on damaged leg...wound became very infected and he was rushed back into ICU
Feb DS2 broke wrist
March Me DVT's in leg
April DS2 broke wrist
May car accident

This months so far

DS1 injured ligaments in left foot and wrecked his chance of placement at football school of excellence.
DH feel down 15ft pit and damaged his bad leg
I found lump in my boob...hospital tomorrow for core biopsy
DS2 fell badly off his bike and has scarred his face
Yesterday DH had another bikeaccident and is now in hospital following sugery....when I left hospital in the early hours of this morning, a taxi ploughed into my car....no driver...hand brake wasnt left on!!! Of all the cars it could have hit....it hit mine.

So can someone curse you?
Someone who told you they knew how to make your life hell?
Someone who said they would make me pay for causing them so much pain?
Someone who said they would make sure I would have "the scars" to remind me of the bad things I did to them?
Someone who said that DH and I would suffer so badly in our lives if we stayed together.
Is this possible?

Can another human being cause all of the above?

Im starting to get a bit freaked by this as a very close friend, who goes to see a psychic told me today, she thinks I have been cursed.

Do curses really excist?

Or is it just life dealing me a shit hand of cards???

HM....I agree with what you say.
I roll my sleeves up and get on with things.

My life moto is "I cant change whats past but I can make the future better by learning from my mistakes."

I am not overly religious....I have my beliefs and I stick by them.

This is pretty confussing stuff because I hadnt really thought things until friend called. She asked me who in my life I would have hurt so bad that they would want to cause me so much pain....she even waffled on a bit about voodoo dolls?????

Think I'll just stick with carrying on believing life is what you make it.

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cheers essbee.

happyhuggy....I still didnt understand the definition!!!!

No, I don't think curses exist. But I think if someone thinks they are cursed it can influence their mindset about events that happen to them.

nope, nor me Jazmommy

By expatinscotland on Sunday, 3 July, 2005 11:33:35 PM

No, I don't think curses exist. But I think if someone thinks they are cursed it can influence their mindset about events that happen to them.

SO TRUE! I mean I think when you look back (especially in this instance) you are automatically looking for the bad that has happened.

Ie... you look at the difficulties presented when you adopted instead of the fact that you got 2 fantastic little boys! Getting them surely outweighs any difficulties in the adoption process?

Also, I am a strong believer in things happening for a reason. the fact that the church was burned down simply means that you weren't SUPPOSED to be married there! I bet you had a lovely wedding anyway didn't you? Is there anything about the venue you ended up using that made you think, WOW... glad we had it here after all?

there is a nietzsche quote: What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.

You may have had a lot of bad experiences, but you are a stronger, different person because of that.
Perhaps the bad things that happened to you early in life (hysterectomy etc) made you a much better candidate for adoption, made you less likely to take things for granted. And perhaps someone somewhere needed you to adopt, so that you could be a fantastic mum... to 2 boys who really, really needed you!

btw... i don't think you can consider things like termination bad luck. because it is a choice you make, and as you say it was the right thing for you to do! so take it off the list!

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sobernow.....you couldnt possibly be further from the truth. My friend is a wonderful, kind and very loving person. She is so supportive and is one of lifes givers. She has been there through the good and the bad and in no way would she be pleased at our misfortune. Igenuienly believe she is only tryng to offer an alternative explanation as to why we always appear to have something bizzarre happening in our lives.

As she said last night "you certainly get your moneys worth from the NHS!!!"

There are so many good things that have happened in my life but when my friend started to talk about how bad things just seem to keep happening to us she got me thinking. I never focus on the bad and would consider myself a very poitive person. My DS2 having Autism has made me appreciate life a hell of a lot more than I think I would have done if he had been NT. Each little mile stone he reaches we celebrate where as I know many other mums would not do this for their children. Tonight he managed to brush his teeth without assistance for the very first time and boy did we party.

I only highlighted the list of things that have happened as an example of how we have experienced a long list of major upset......Im sure others have had worse.

I believe that all things happen for a reason...as with our adoption process. The guys coming into our lives was certainly the most magical experience and I truly believe we were the parents our boys needed. They have enabled me to become the person Iam today and because of their difficulties have made me the strong determined person I am today.

I posted last night because I was curious as to what my friend had said.Not knoing very much about psychic matters led me to post here.

Could it have been possible that all the not so nice tings that have hapened in our life be some how connected? Could someone have wished us bad because they were angry by our actions?

I think not.

We are the masters of our own destiny.

The guys coming into our lives was certainly the most magical experience and I truly believe we were the parents our boys needed. They have enabled me to become the person Iam today and because of their difficulties have made me the strong determined person I am today.

so you see... in some way the bad things WERE connected. If you hadn't had that termination, and the hysterectomy, then you would never have had the boys!

Some days I feel like I am cursed. I've lost count of the times I have sat here sobbing and asking DP why they bad things ALWAYS happen to me. It's so easy to feel like you're being "picked on" as it were... but then when you talk to other people you realise that in fact, it's the same for most people!

YOur friend is right... you're certainly getting your money's worth of NHS though!!!