christenening and parental responsibility

[anonnamechange]

my dss mentioned tonight that he was to be christened, along with the people who were to be his god parents.
dss's mother has never been religious indeed she has opposed dh's suggestions about schools because they were religious schools (coe) and so she did not want dss going there
dss has never attended church and becuase dss mother has always seemed quite opposed to it
anyway the crux of the matter is can she get dss christened without dh's permission? they were married, he has pr and shared residence for dss. he is a great father and totally involved with every aspect of dss's life
both dh and i believe its upto the individual to decide whether they want to be christened and not decision to be taken lightly
dss seemed to think it was just an oppotinity to have a party, with no understanding of what it meant at all

Adults are allowed to change religious beliefs as often as they like. There are many practicing christians who are opposed to church schools.

How old is your dss? Is this infant baptism or adult baptism? I imagine that if he is old enough to have a conversation about baptism then it is really up to him and the priest/ minster.

Is there not a middle way, prehaps a service of thanks giving or a dedication. Otherwise it just comes across that you are a bunch of party poopers just trying to get back at the ex wife. You need to be a bit more adult about this.

There are plenty of people who were baptised as infants (typically C of E) who were later baptised as adults in a baptist church. Infant baptism is not a massive commitment for the child, it is only the parents who make promises.