has a loved one ever died and come to visit you in your dreams or quiet times?

[chimchar]

am not at all religious, but always been a believer in all things "angelic" and spitirtual.

my mum died two weeks ago very unexpectedly and suddenly, and i'm having a great big battle in my head, and starting to wonder if my beliefs are just romantic notions iykwim...

looking for some reassurance or something i guess, and whilst i don't think i want to SEE my mum, i'm hankering after a sign or something that tells me she's still around...

My mum died 12 years ago this christmas.

During the first year after she died I would smell the baby powder that she always used, we didn't have any of it in the house but every now and then I would smell it.

I've had a few dreams about her or with her, I'm not sure. One of them happened when I was pregnant with dd2 but we hadn't told anyone yet and we hadn't found out the sex of the baby at that stage. I dreamt that my mum was showing me round the hospital delivery suite, she then showed me how to make up baby milk in a big bowl. She put the powder in added the water and it went pink. I remember waking up and thinking how strange as usually it's yellow, plus I breastfeed so thought it odd that she was showing me how to make up milk.
I didn't really think about this until the night before the scan when I realised that the milk had gone pink, we found out the next day that we were having a girl.

There have been other dreams where she's been there. One time I dreamt that she was walking through the house holding dd2, I was talking to her then she handed me dd2 and said she was just going to go in and check on dd1 before she went.
And another time was after my grandad had just died, while I was pregnant with dd2. the dream was at my granny's house and I was there along with dd1 and dd2 and my mum. My grandad was lying in the bed sleeping and my mum told me that he needed to sleep and wasn't ready yet. Then she said oh you have to go now and I seemed to float down from the ceiling into my bed and I woke up just as dd2 started crying for a feed.

Now that dd2 is a bit older I don't seem to dream about my mum as often.
My granny once dreamt about her standing at the end of her bed and she said my dd2's name. My granny doesn't believe but did seem quite pleased that my mum knows dd2's name.

Oh got another one, shorter this time I promise.

My granny's brother died in March this year. The other day she had fallen asleep on the sofa and she said when she woke up he was standing in the living room and said, "oh I didn't mean to wake you", she replied "well, you did" and he disappeared.

My dad died about 6 weeks ago (not a shock, as he had cancer but it was wasnt very nice in his last few weeks)

And this week I have had two dreams about him. The second I went up to him and hugged him and said "I love you daddy" and he hugged me back and said he loved me too. Which, although I knew he loved me, it was lovely to hear again.

I'm sure its his way of telling me he is ok.

But also I feel he is around me at times, usually making comments about me to watch my spending, which is very like dad

I had a great conversation with my Aunt once! was fabulous.

yes my mum

The day my grandma passed away, we were in America on holiday. I dreamt that she had come and said goodbye to me. I woke up and thought "what on odd dream" but thought no more of it, except wrote her a postcard to say I was thinking of her. 2 days later we got word that she had passed away (hotel hadnt passed message on to call home). It was completely unexpected - she hadnt been ill.

Similar happened with my grandfather just last month, but he had been unwell. I wasnt expecting him to die, it was a kidney infection and he was on antibiotics and had been out tending to the garden, and gone to church the day before he died. I had gone on holiday. I didnt dream him, but I knew when I woke up that something wasnt right. Tried to call mum but no answer. 15 mins later, dad called me back to tell me granda had died in the night.

I don't remember having dreamt about my mother but I have seen and felt her presence when I am awake.

When she died my aunt told me that I would receive visits when i am not expecting them which is her own experience with my grandmother after she died. I cannot force her to come by willing it IYSWIM but at times she is there. I am very thankful for it

I had a dream about my brother's fiancee a week after she died. She told me to tell my brother that she was okay and no longer in pain.

I ummed and ahhed about telling my db but did eventually. I told him what she was wearing in the dream (a jumper I'd never seen, jeans and boots and she had a bright green hat on). DB broke down uncontrollably. She'd been wearing those clothes when she died.

I know my great grandmother who died when I was a baby watches over my dd. I just know it. She's there at night when dd sleeps. My Dad says the same thing.

Oh , I have lovely dreams about my Dad, but I'm under no illusion that he's visiting me.

Our loved ones can remain (metaphorically) alive in our minds even when they are gone. That can of itself be a source of comfort and joy.

This may not be the response you're looking for, but its something that remains true even if your beliefs do fail you.

Both of my grandfathers have come to me and spoken to me in dreams a little while after they've died.
Six weeks after my Grandpa died I 'dreamt' that I met him at the bottom of a spiral staircase, at the top of which was a beautiful light. We both knew he didn't have much time to speak so after telling me to look after my Mum and Grandma, he gave me a vision of golden stars twinkling in a black sky, and said "Even in the darkest night, there is always light." He then went back up the staircase and I woke up immediately, knowing it wasn't 'just' a dream.
When my Grandad died, I dreamt of him a few weeks later; he was sitting with us all in the funeral car, and only I could see him. I said to him "Granddad, can you hear me when I talk to you, even though you're dead?" and he said "Yes, I can hear you, and if you're very quiet and still, you can hear me, too." Again I then woke up immediately, and wrote it all down.
Both dreams were very comforting to me and had a definite sense that they were 'more than dreams'. The most comforting message for me really was from my Grandad, saying that they can hear us, on the other side, and we can hear them too. You will get a message from your Mum, I'm sure chimchar, when you're not expecting it, but in the meantime you could always just sit quietly, meditate, think of her and how much you love her, and see if any words come into your mind. It doesn't matter if you think you might be making them up, so long as it helps you feel close to her.
I hope you receive lots of comfort as you come to terms with your loss.

thanks everyone..this had gone from my threads i'm on list, so i assumed it was finished...had no idea you were still posting!!

thanks all for your lovely stories...i did have a dream about my mum. she said that her dying was peaceful and i was able to tell her a teeny tiny snippit of news about my ds that she was waiting to know about before she died. it was lovely, and very comforting... not sure if it was just a dream or not...its only been the once.

i still hope that in time i can learn to listen for my mum..it will be a comfort to me to know she is still around, but the deafening silence at the mo is still making me think WAY too much about life, its purpose and reasoning!

thanks again.

Despite the risk of boring people who might read similar stuff elesewhere.

We (DH and me) lost all four parents in the three years we were at University. After we got married we had to move away from the family farm because we were "aware" of my parents most weeks. For example placid livestock would go wild in the pen where Dad got crushed to death but they would then settle down as soon as we moved them next door.

We both "saw" Mum walking down the lane to the main road and sometimes there was the sound of knitting in the kitchen. A great knitter was Mum.

Her grave was less than 0.5 miles away and we always sort of wondered if she had escaped {hmm]

My mum came to me in a 'dream' about ten days after she'd died. It was unbelievably real - I can't describe it in words but it was unlike any other dream I've ever had and I know it was her. My dad had a similar experience, and when he was critically ill in hospital this spring, he says she visited him there as well. Also, about four or five days after she'd died, I walked into my bedroom at my parents' house and the clock radio came on very quietly. There was no alarm set and nobody else had been into the room. I turned the volume up and the song that was playing was 'A love that will never grow old'.

My son, now 2 1/2, never met my mum, but when he was a baby he would smile and wave at 'nothing' in the corner of the room and offer bits of biscuit etc. to someone only he could see sitting next to me on the sofa.

I had a lovely dream,I believe they are called 'angel dreams' in which I was met by my mil and dhs brother and it left me feeling really optimistic.

This 'dream' wasnt the same as other dreams in it I could smell and feel and the colours wre so vivid I actually felt her there,the dream really reassured dh and he often asks me to tell him about it .

The interesting thing is that I myself lost my own mother when I was 11 yet she has never 'returned' to me - my late mil explained why in the dream and it made total total sense and indeed gave me a sense of closure.

In this dream things occured which when I later explained to dh he made total sense of.

I know in my heart that my mil did visit me that night and if anyone would be interested in what happened I will say either privately through email or on here.

What I will say is never doubt something you believe in your heart no matter how ridiculous it may seem.

I have experienced door knocking with no-one there(early hours of the morning, snow undisturbed, no wind/breeze and wide awake) plaque fell off the wall and landed in middle of the floor and within half an hour of these incidents my mum passed away upstairs.

Next night, again in early hours (unable to sleep) a bright light appeared in the middle of the floor (pitch black outside). Tried everything to get an explanation for that light, but, couldn't. In the end I openly said "mum i'm sorry if thats you but i'm scared". The light went and has never returned

I also had another incident where my cousins came to me. This was confirmed by a pshycic, without giving her ANY indications whatsoever

I'm dubious about this sort of thing BUT shortly after my father left us I was in bedroom and looked out of the window (bungalow) and "saw" my grandfather standing on the patio. I thought, "oh, there's grand-dad" and then thought "no, grand dad has been dead for 2 years". I also started to have dreams about him - a lot. My trucker grandfather told me in a dream to read The Merchant of Venice - a play I had at the age of 12 never heard of. I read it and concluded he wanted me to be a lawyer.

It was a very odd time. The odd thing was we weren't very close as when alive my grandparents lived a long way away and we only saw them a couple of times a year. But he did apparently adore me.

My father died last september of cancer. We didn't have the best relationship but i loved him and know he loved me. I started dreaming about him a few months after his death. The first few dreams, he was alive and well! One time he was cooking, another time we were arguing (quite normal for us ) and then i dreamed that we were in my nans house and she was telling me that my dad was upstairs in the attic asleep. I kept saying that he couldn't be as he had died. She insisted so i went up and sure enough, there was my dad asleep. He kept moving and kind of muttering in his sleep. Just looked normal and i couldn't believe my eyes. I dreamed again that he was just sleeping but kept moving in his sleep and turning over. Really strange im not sure why i keep having this kind of dream.

Last night he came to me again only this time was different. I saw him just as he looked in the chapel of rest and this has upset me greatly In my dream he had been there for 3 weeks and his body had deteriorated quite a lot (this didn't happen, just in my dream) then he got up and was talking to me. I reached out and touched his head like i did in the chapel of rest, and it was still ice cold. I was disturbed by this because in my other dreams he had been alive again. He was clearly still dead but alive this time if you know what i mean. He told me he misses me more than i will ever know. I told him i miss him too and love him so much. I told him my little girl often talks to him and holds her pictures up to show him what she has been doing (she was 2 when he died and very close to him) He said "ahh does she?" and i remember being confused in my dream because he should know my girl does this if he is with us

Do you think my dad could be trying to tell me he is ok, seeing as he is always alive in my dreams even though i remember he is dead during them? I miss him so much

Thanks for reading.

I was cynical about this type of thing, until 2004,when i saw my beloved grandfather in a dream. In the dream he told me that i would give birth to a son in 2005. The dream didn't feel like a normal dream it felt real and to be honest i was a bit freaked out. Lo and behold I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy in 2005 and named him after my grandfather.

Maybebaby I think that your latest dream was a 'dream' the rational part of you is telling you that your dad has passed away- you saw him in the chapel of rest, so your mind is telling you that in reality this is what it might be like,your mind playing tricks on you if you like

But as I am absolutely positive when you are in a deep sleep we leave ourselves open to allow our deceased family to visit us and I truly believe thats the true time your dad will visit.

In a sense you had a nightmare the culmination of you trying in your mind to explain your dreams.

been dreaming about my nan a lot recently - i just think its my way of working out how much i miss her

Thanks for your reply nickschick. I haven't dreamed of my dad again since that last dream. It felt so different, it actually scared me a bit if im honest and i felt uneasy for 2 days afterwards. Only because of the fact it felt so real.

Sorry to hear you lost your mum 'chimchar', be prepared for some upsetting dreams too. Your emotions are still very raw.

I lost my mum too to cancer 8 years ago and I had quite a few dreams. At first I found them very disturbing and upsetting, cos when she first appeared in my dreams I found that I was actually strangling her and trying to kill her in my dreams! I guess I was just very angry she's left the world. And after I had woken up remembering my mother's look in my dream upset me. Then eventually some time later I would start dreaming that she would be alive again and her death was a mistake, and I dreamt that she had come to my door asking why's there are other people living in her house! Nowadays when I dream about her, she's is just in the back ground and I don't take any notice of her anymore even though I want to notice her.

Just before my nan died she said a man in a green suit was sitting on the end of her hospital bed talking to her. And she said my grandad (long since dead) had been there too. The nurses in the hospital said all the patients said a man in a green suit had spoken to them, and they all thought it must be a ghost of someone from the hospital. It was a very old building.

My mum died just before I found out I was pregnant for the first time. She would have loved to have been 'nanny'. I often dream about her but in my dreams she's back to her normal self, not riddled with illness etc. My dad died a few years before that and it's the same with him. I guess that's just me wishing that's how things still were. My brother used to go to a medium and he swears mum visited him. I wish she'd visit me, I want to ask her what I was like as a baby!