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Born-again Christians.. help. Why am I in so much pain...

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LeighNic · 29/06/2009 13:28

I've been a believer since I was a kid. Always had faith, had some real encounters with God (and I mean real), but went off the rails quite badly as a teenager - for quite a few years. Held on to the promises of God for my future though, and always knew that He would always be a part of my life.

Think I've made a stack of mistakes, but the thing that is so incredibly difficult is that my life began slowly falling apart around 2002. As it stands today, my marriage is virtually dead, dh has been struggling with various physical complaints & doesn't seem to want to know me (haven't been intimate with him for ages - embarrassed to say how long), I've lost a friend that I had for about 25 years, a couple of close friends (dh's relatives) are going through a nasty divorce and are causing me a lot of stress. They want me to choose between them (the husband has threatened to cut me, dh and my son off for the rest of his life if we don't take his side) and on top of this I struggled with major depression in 2007 & 2008. Still trying to keep my head above water. I only have one child (a boy) whom I love dearly, he is almost the only light in my life right now but I don't want to affect him with any negativity. Very very hard though.

I've had various prophecies over my life from people in ministry and had great hopes for my future (and specific promises from God, I truly believe) so I don't know why this is all happening to me. I have never felt so alone and hopeless. Perhaps this is my 'wilderness' experience - who knows. I pray in tongues which helps somewhat, but I don't think I pray enough to be quite honest. Praying in tongues helped me incredibly at first and I saw some great changes in my life in a short space of time, but I think I allowed other distractions and worries to take over my life. My faith and relationship with God once seemed so simple and straightforward, and now I feel completely distaught. Hard to even muster enough faith to get through this. Would appreciate prayers, other stories or input from anyone who is experiencing anything like this. Just when I get over one hurdle, another one comes. Sorry this is long.

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LeighNic · 16/07/2009 13:18

Thanks for your posts, really appreciate it. Just letting you know that dh's test results were ok - his liver function isn't what it should be at the moment, but apparently it's a common condition and the specialist said nothing to really worry about. Dh's brother has decided to cut both of us off though, simply because I still speak to his ex-wife (which is nothing to do with dh!!!), so dh is quite hurt at the moment. I also feel let down as I've done my best to remain loyal to both parties and haven't sided with anyone, but now my BIL has un-invited us to his wedding in October because I haven't cut all ties with his ex. It's such a crappy (sorry) situation... I've bent over backwards to welcome him and his new fiance into our lives, but that's not enough for him. I would be prepared to end my friendship with my ex-SIL if dh really wanted me to, but then I suppose we would just be giving in to his brother's demands.

Anyway - thanks for the info on Selwyn Hughes notquitegrownup, I'm thinking of getting his autobiography to read. Not sure why so many Christians are prone to depression though... it doesn't seem right, does it? Like we must be missing a big piece of the picture. We are supposed to have more hope than the rest of society, and yet..? Anyway - probably just another ploy of the enemy to keep Christians down so they don't do much of any value.

Weegiemum I did have quite a lot of prayer on and off last year and saw different things happen (on the positive side), but I've gone backwards a bit since then and I'm kind of embarrassed to seek help again. I do have people I can turn to if I want to, but don't know if I have the energy to discuss and analyse everything again. Sometimes it's easier to talk anonymously on a forum.

Anyway thanks for your prayers once again. I have to keep hanging in there and believe that God will come through for me soon. Have been getting some really good input scripturally, but just have to try & put it into practice. xxx

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