Why did this upset me so much?

[plj]

I am posting here because I need some help understanding where my M is coming from. She is a Christian, and believes very strongly in the power of prayer. I don't have the same beliefs as her. Throughout my life, whenever I have achieved anything like getting the job I wanted, getting pregnant etc, she says she knew it would happen because she prayed for it. I recently passed an exam that I had been studying very hard for. Instead of congratulating me, she just said-"I knew you would pass because I prayed for you." It hurt me a bit because I had worked hard and I wanted her to be proud of me and the work that I had done. I am glad she has her faith because it has helped her put her life back together, but I can't understand why all my achievements have to be down to her praying? I feel that she is trying to tell me that nothing I achieve is really down to me?

I do wonder about self-esteem. Rather then self-esteem I try to take my value from what God thinks of me, ie that I have been chosen from the foundation of the world to be his child, that as a follower of Christ I will be a priest of God for eternity, rather I try to take my value from what God considers that I am worthy of 'in christ' rather than what I accomplish of my own effort.

But I concur that saying any action is the result of ones prayer and not of Gods action on ones prayer could be counted as taking the glory, however I wonder is that is the heart of the ops mil.

But then I am mainly a crap excuse for a christian and human being all round LOL.

Perhaps your mother has been praying for a long time about your course and the exams.

Perhaps she prayed that you would be freed from distractions, so that you would have the opportunity to study hard.

Perhaps she prayed that God would open your eyes to the material so that you would get it without too much difficulty and be able to understand it.

Perhaps she prayed for your good health so that you would be 100% on the day, etc etc.

God doesn't intervene in the outcome of exams - the little boy who comes out saying, "please God, let the capital of Turkey be Paris" - he doesn't answer that prayer. But perhaps he is before you and beside you for a long time leading up to the exam.