If you were offered help through your church is it still hard to accept?

[SnapD]

I want to help someone I go to church with

I think they feel bad about accepting this help (it is considerable) & I don't know how I can rationalise it for her

I feel what goes around comes around and that in the long run it will come back to me - Karma sort of

Can anyone help?

I guess God has told you to help them so I would just tell them that or do it anonymously.

I guess for some people help is hard to accept wherever it might come from.

DO you know the person well? You say you think they feel bad about accepting. Is there someone that knows the person well that you could ask advice from in strictest confidence?

Some people might feel very uncomfortable/anxious about being give "considerable" help anonymously (as suggested by CarGirl). It's a difficult situation.

I would speak with the minister/elder whatever you have and ask them to pray about it with you and if they also feel it's right the thing get them to speak to the other person about it.

It definitely can't be anonymous

I think she is worried about the cost because it is 'free' (would normally be expensive) - it won't cost me much (if anything) and it is time limited so after a while (2 months)if she wants it to carry on she would have to pay (I'm not expecting/anticipating it to carry on)

Oh being nice is complicated

You are right; I will speak to the minister

SnapD - this is what being part of church is about, both giving and receiving help whether it is a lot or a little.

When we received help that we knew we could never repay to that particular person, we were told that one day the chance would come for us to help someone else, and sure enough it has.

Tell this person their chance to be generous will come around, whether it is being generous with their finances or their time or their prayers, and to accept your gift graciously!

That's it isn't it

To me helping is obvious & necessary & easy (something like cleaning or babysitting) & for 2 months I can do it, without any problem. after that I have other commitments so I would have to charge but until then, she just needs a bit of help

It will come around to me when I my need is great (hopefully )

We seem to have come to an arrangement

She seems to be OK about it all

Fingers crossed

Good. Hope she keeps being ok - and that you are blessed in the giving as much as she is in the receiving.

Actually, I was having this very conversation with a friend at bible study this morning about her inability to accept help from other people in the church. I'm not sure I convinced her as well as you seem to have done your friend, but I gave it a whirl.