Need to get something off my chest.

[DumbledoresGirl]

I can't explain this very openly but I need to get something off my chest and have found the religion threads a source of comfort over the years. I am not name changing because I am not going to be explicit.

I feel sure I am suspected of having done something wrong. I can categorically state I haven't done anything wrong but I can't explain this to the people who I think suspect me of wrongdoing because I am not supposed to know they know iyswim.

Does any of that make sense? Can anyone give me some peace in this matter?

Would it help to know that, if there is an all-knowing deity, then at least someone else is 100% sure you haven't done what you feel you might be suspected of?

Tbh, I've been in positions that sound similar, and I get to the point where it doesn't much matter what I'm 'supposed' to know, I go on what it feels like others think of me and just come out and ask.

So, in search of peace, I guess you can either take a deep breath and speak out... or take a deep breath and let it go, knowing that your conscience is clear either way...

does that help, or am I waffling crap again?

I can't speak out because I will get someone into trouble. Otherwise I would.

Yes, the idea of an all-knowing deity does help a bit. Plus the fact that I know I am innocent.

Thanks for trying Kay.

Can you approach the person you have the misunderstanding with? I think that would be the right thing to do.

I came looking for you, following on from your chat thread.

I can see why you are so down. This situation will cause a real conflict within you. Instinct to get it resolved but you cant do that without letting on that you know.

What will cause you more pain? This person thinking badly of you for supposedly doing something? Or someone else thinking badly of you because you broke a confidence (perhaps) in pursuing the facts? Do something or do nothing - it is very difficult.

You know you have done nothing wrong, and therefore have right on your side, whatever you decide to do.

I would second fivesets advice. You will only clear your mind when you clear up the issue. I am sure it is a misunderstanding. THT

Is it someone on here, or in RL?

I have just this minute sent you an email. can you tell me who/what it is, I might can help?

I'd come out with the truth.

What will happen if this 'other person' gets some heat?

At elast it will be justified.

It is someone on MN Saltire. I can say no more.

First, you have to take the dispute privately to the other person.

Only if you do not get a resolution should you make it more public.

If you come to a decision as to what to do after prayer, I'm sure you will know if you are doing the right thing.

I will approach the one person I can approach. Thank you.

(BTW Saltire, no sign of your email and I am logged on).

Have re-sent it

dumbledoresgirl1 (don't forget the 1) @ hotmail etc?

Yes thats whre I have sent it to

Sorry, it was there all the time. Have replied. Oh and have a {{{{{}}}}}} for all you told me about in the email.

Message withdrawn

what i would do, it get everyone in a room, even a virtal room - all in on an e-mail or whatever and say - look here it is - who has what to say about it.

DG I hope that you can get this sorted.

Have emailed the one person I can try to explain the situation to. Don't know if I will be believed.

Oh what tangled webs we weave...

GD you sound so sad

I appreciate that this is something private so I shan't push you

Just know that there are people here for you

[squeeze]

DG - I have no idea at all about the situation but it sounds awful. If the situation is that someone you know/like has imparted a confidence to you and the situation has unfolded from that, it is worth remembering that you probably didn't ask for that confidence to be imparted. If you acquiesced in being told that confidence, for example, promising to keep it secret before it was told to you,that was almost certainly before you were in any position to judge what your "yes" meant, so your "acquiescence" was actually somewhat meaningless. If it is a bond of friendship and/or loyalty which is keeping you in this position, well, that bond is being severely tested. A true friend would surely not want you to be feeling the way you are feeling now.
Perhaps the way to start is with the person who initially opened the way to you being put in this situation; spell out to them just how bad it is making you feel. Give them time to mull the situation over and perhaps come up with a solution that will alleviate your stress.
You sound as though you are someone who takes matters of conscience seriously. If someone asked for your help/advice about something, they did this knowing this aspect of your character. And your troubled conscience now is a part of your response. Therefore don't feel bad about telling them how bad it's making you feel.

Sorry if I'm barking up the wrong tree. Just take it as a compliment to your finely honed elliptical skills.

Hope it is resolved.

It sounds really upsetting. I don't know exactly what you mean obviously but I hate this kind of thing. I can't push stuff like this to the back of my head either.

If these people know you to be a good person, and you seem like you are! then they'll probably hesitate to think the worst of you and look for the explanation.

Thank you to all who offered advice on this more obscure of threads. I have been in contact with the one person I could approach and I have been able to put my mind at rest.

Thanks again all.

Good for you