Advice appreciated. my husband wants to take my 9-yr old to Rosicrucian meetings

[mumandthecity]

My husband wants to take my nine-year old son to meetings of the Rosicrucians on sundays ? I don?t know much about them, and, my husband is being very secretive (not admitting where he is planning to take my son, not admitting for a long time to being a member of the Rosicrucians, etc). I am worried that this is just not appropriate for children ? does anyone have any advice, experience, or information? Or have any personal experience of similar situation?
Many thanks

try this link

If he has nothing to hide why is he being so secretive? If you are worried why not go along too to see what they offer? Then you can see if it's appropriate for your son as you know him best!!

tbh its not something i would encourage?i think hes far too young to be introduced to anything like this.

I have no idea about this but I'm so intrigued that I want to bump it for you and see what anybody else says.

Who are the Rosicrucians? is it a religion or more like the Masons?

Sorry, that's not very sympathetic. Sorry you are worried. If your husband is into something that you don't know much about, then I hope you feel that you can ask him more about it and figure out if you feel comfortable with your ds being part of it.

Hope someone who knows more about it will come along.

there's a long wiki entry on it

why don't you go with him to a meeting or two before making up your mind

I haven't heard of the Rosicrucuans before.
I would be concerned about the secrecy from your DH.
I would have thought that any group wanting to attract new members would be open and keen to explain their philosophies.
I think I would go along to a meeting with DH, and find out more about the group.
You should be able to get a feeling about whether it is a place that you are comfortable for your child to spend time.

On that link posted by bossybritches I found this: www.rosicrucian.com/rct/rcteng01.htm#Chapter_III
"The Reasons for Infant Mortality"
Your child, and totally your choice, but if somebody filled my DS's head with this I'd be incandescent.

Thanks for all your thoughts on this ? found a lot of info on Wiki, don?t know why I didn?t look there first. Its all very esoteric, found a lot of mentions of personal development, mystical journeys, and masonic connections and in my view completely unsuitable stuff for my child. Plus the London organisation only accept members from age 18 anyway. I still don?t know what all the secrecy from my husband was about, probably he realised I?d veto this straight away If I knew what he was up to!

God, it sounds like really weirdy heavy stuff..
so is your dh really into it then? surely this put a lot of differences between the two of you? especially as he wishes to drag your ds into all of it.

mumandthecity, you describe 'your son' - is he your son with dh or from a previous relationship? Either way, I would be concerned about the secrecy - where did your dh tell he was going on Sundays before you found out?

Personally, I would have thought it would be better for you to also attend for a while so that you can make an informed decision on whether it's right for your son. Nine does sound young for something potentially complex and I would have thought it would be better for your son to have exposure to this when he's older - say mid-teens - and more able to make his own decisions about whether he wants to become a member, particularly as the London branch wouldn't allow him to join until 18 anyway.

yes the ds is our biological son, the dh doesn?t go out every sunday and its a long time since I?ve bothered asking him where he is going as if he doesn?t want to tell me he?ll just make up something or give an evasive answer so I never really know where he?s off to. I don?t mind the dh going where he wants, but my first instinct actually was that I want my ds and dd kept well away from this kind of mysterious and secretive organisation, and that it would be good to see what others think.