Personally, I'm very keen that everyone comes to the reasoned conclusion they're happy with about anything in scripture. If you can't see something in scripture, then there's no sensible way to pretzel your conscience to act contrary to itself.
Trust me, I'm working this one through on loads of issues where pretzeling scriptures has left my view of my own being at rock-bottom. I'm not suggesting that anyone here is doing that, I'm just trying to explain how serious I think it is to be fully convinced of your convictions on a scriptural issue.
I used to believe that I had to wear dresses all the time, and that my purpose on earth was to bear children and any attempt to stop bearing them was sinful selfishness. It left me disabled for a long time, and very very keen that the next time I make any big choices based on scripture, I needed to be 100% sure it meant what I was told it did.
I believe very firmly in the literal, infallible inspiration of scripture, and that's what I'd preach if I did. But then, there's these glaring great passages that require squaring away, and I've just never felt comfortable or been convinced about the squaring.
I'm perfectly comfortable sitting under a woman teaching because I'm a woman anyway, so it doesn't bother me. I have female friends who are vicars and leaders themselves, and the most important thing to me is that they are following God's leading and their honest beliefs about the scriptures.
It's just not my style of Christianity to be worrying about whether or not others understand the scriptures the way I do, because I honestly believe that the Holy Spirit guides us into all truth. I'm still learning, so I'm not in any position to judge, iyswim. He guides each one of us in the way we should go, He doesn't force us into lockstep conformity and uniformity.
good gravy, I've written a book...