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What are morals

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TheGoldoffEternal · 18/08/2025 12:22

According to you

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Alicealig · 23/08/2025 01:29

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 22/08/2025 07:42

Yes. Everybody's morals are personal and subjective. There is no such thing as objective morality. Yes, that can be a problem which is why we don't run societies based purely on everybody's individual, often loosely defined, moralities but on laws.

Indeed and our laws are passed down from a fundamental understanding of Christian values whether we like that or not it's ingrained into the fabric down to the very core.

CurlewKate · 23/08/2025 07:42

Alicealig · 23/08/2025 01:25

In that case I can confirm on this occasion, that making that assumption was a grave error of judgement. So much so it actually looks like youre now trolling. Assuming you aren't:

The discussion, or the topic is Human morality. This is correct.
The assumption that all of the points within the discussion need to relate to sentience. This is incorrect.
One of the major focal points whenever any serious discussion about morality arises is religion, often the Bible specifically. The Bible I'm sure you'll agree, is not a sentient 'thing', yet it's value in the discussion is unaffected. Same with religion. Hope this helps...

No it doesn’t help. Because it makes no sense. Hope this helps.

CurlewKate · 23/08/2025 07:45

Oh, and if anyone is trolling, it’s you. You are trying to steer the discussion towards a conclusion that morality comes from a higher power and cannot exist without such a power.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 23/08/2025 08:33

Alicealig · 23/08/2025 01:29

Indeed and our laws are passed down from a fundamental understanding of Christian values whether we like that or not it's ingrained into the fabric down to the very core.

To a certain extent, yes, although the vast majority of our laws have no biblical foundation.

Nevertheless it's certainly true that as Christian values and morality have changed over the years they have influenced some aspects of the law.

Alicealig · 23/08/2025 14:03

CurlewKate · 23/08/2025 07:45

Oh, and if anyone is trolling, it’s you. You are trying to steer the discussion towards a conclusion that morality comes from a higher power and cannot exist without such a power.

If you're still struggling to grasp what I've written I feel it's safe to say that's definitely a 'you problem' as I'd hazard a guess at this stage youre the only one without a handle it.

Your summing up of my conclusion is correct however and as long as it remains on topic then by steering the conversation with that which fits my beliefs is precisely what this forum is for. That's why we're here.

I don't believe there is any other conclusion to reasonably arrive at other than morals coming from a higher power.

You're conclusion on the other hand is that morals are whatever you decide they are...That's fair enough but then morals must be whatever I decide they are too. See how that works out, that's how non secular societies inevitelbly find themselves in situations like Nazi Germany, or socialist China where it becomes the moral norm to slaughter millions of innocent citizens.

pointythings · 27/08/2025 19:55

Alicealig · 23/08/2025 01:29

Indeed and our laws are passed down from a fundamental understanding of Christian values whether we like that or not it's ingrained into the fabric down to the very core.

If you look at the tenets of all major religions, you will find that their moral rules are broadly the same. So no, it's not just Christianity.

And if you look beyond that, you will realise that the laws and moral imperative societies develop are there because they promote the survival of the species. They're an evolutionary trait. A lawless society does not thrive and is prone to instability and collapse. This is at the bottom of it not about faith but about survival.

The idea that you need a religious faith to function as a moral being is incorrect.

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 10:39

pointythings · 27/08/2025 19:55

If you look at the tenets of all major religions, you will find that their moral rules are broadly the same. So no, it's not just Christianity.

And if you look beyond that, you will realise that the laws and moral imperative societies develop are there because they promote the survival of the species. They're an evolutionary trait. A lawless society does not thrive and is prone to instability and collapse. This is at the bottom of it not about faith but about survival.

The idea that you need a religious faith to function as a moral being is incorrect.

I agree to some extent although I was referring to our laws specifically western or the UK which has are connected to Christian values in a lose sense.

Morals are also different from laws although laws are based on what is morally righteous. I believe they promote societal cohesion rather than survival of the species. That's important because there are many laws that would directly contradict the survival of the species claim. If it were only the survival of the species then abortion would be outlawed entirely.

If we didn't have religious faith then it boils down to my view vs your view which inevitably ends badly.

CurlewKate · 28/08/2025 11:49

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 10:39

I agree to some extent although I was referring to our laws specifically western or the UK which has are connected to Christian values in a lose sense.

Morals are also different from laws although laws are based on what is morally righteous. I believe they promote societal cohesion rather than survival of the species. That's important because there are many laws that would directly contradict the survival of the species claim. If it were only the survival of the species then abortion would be outlawed entirely.

If we didn't have religious faith then it boils down to my view vs your view which inevitably ends badly.

I think you have made a shift here between what is best for society and the survival of the species. They are often not the same thing. And if we’re considering abortion-there wouldn’t be any if we based our morality on Christian principles….

pointythings · 28/08/2025 11:50

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 10:39

I agree to some extent although I was referring to our laws specifically western or the UK which has are connected to Christian values in a lose sense.

Morals are also different from laws although laws are based on what is morally righteous. I believe they promote societal cohesion rather than survival of the species. That's important because there are many laws that would directly contradict the survival of the species claim. If it were only the survival of the species then abortion would be outlawed entirely.

If we didn't have religious faith then it boils down to my view vs your view which inevitably ends badly.

It really doesn't boil down to 'my view vs your view'. That's the usual arrogance of the religious. What you get is consensus based on shared values, which evolves into law that works to maintain community cohesion.

On abortion, I would say that having safe and legal abortion is very much about survival of the species. It wasn't that long ago that childbirth was a leading cause of female mortality. The forced birthers do so love to ignore that.

If you look at the law in secular countries like mine, you see that it has evolved a long way away from religious beliefs. We had marriage equality before any other country, for starters. And the practical principles that religion gets the credit for are innate in the vast majority of people, religious or not.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 28/08/2025 13:51

"My view Vs your view" is a problem that is in no way avoided by religiously-derived morals. All it does is change it to "My interpretation of what our religion tells us to do Vs your interpretation of what our religion tells us to do". The Atlantic slave trade was run by Christians who interpreted the Bible one way, and stopped by Christians who interpreted it another. There are endless similar examples for every religion.

If your morals are based on translation and interpretation of old religious texts, and/or what you believe a deity has told you in your heart, your morals are just as subjective as everyone else's.

pointythings · 28/08/2025 14:18

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 28/08/2025 13:51

"My view Vs your view" is a problem that is in no way avoided by religiously-derived morals. All it does is change it to "My interpretation of what our religion tells us to do Vs your interpretation of what our religion tells us to do". The Atlantic slave trade was run by Christians who interpreted the Bible one way, and stopped by Christians who interpreted it another. There are endless similar examples for every religion.

If your morals are based on translation and interpretation of old religious texts, and/or what you believe a deity has told you in your heart, your morals are just as subjective as everyone else's.

There's not enough hammers in the world for me to express how much this post nails it.

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 15:25

pointythings · 28/08/2025 11:50

It really doesn't boil down to 'my view vs your view'. That's the usual arrogance of the religious. What you get is consensus based on shared values, which evolves into law that works to maintain community cohesion.

On abortion, I would say that having safe and legal abortion is very much about survival of the species. It wasn't that long ago that childbirth was a leading cause of female mortality. The forced birthers do so love to ignore that.

If you look at the law in secular countries like mine, you see that it has evolved a long way away from religious beliefs. We had marriage equality before any other country, for starters. And the practical principles that religion gets the credit for are innate in the vast majority of people, religious or not.

So, consensus based on shared values. That would mean that Naziism and the gassing of millions of innocent Jews was morally right?Or the millions killed in communist China under Mao. After all most of the German population were proud supporters of the Nazi party and believed they were on a righteous course to world domination with 1 race. At one point in time most of the world supported slavery also. So your 'shared values' argument pretty much falls apart there.

Hardly any women die during childbirth nowadays it is so uncommon, so to use that as an argument for abortion as a means of best survival chances is either ill thought through or intellectually dishonest. This only works if you can debate in 'good faith'. The reason millions of women terminate the babies growing inside of them is largely for their own convenience be it financial or other form of instability, it has nothing to do with their own lives being in danger otherwise I'd be open to thinking that would be a fair reason to do so. This is not to mention the softened language we use around the subject. Most peoples reaction to the act of killing one's own baby is horror and disgust, so it's easier to compartmentalise the truth by using softer language so we can pretend it's some other thing like a medical procedure such as a cut to the hand.

It's not that countries have moved away from religious laws by opening marriage for everyone. You're missing the point whike inadvertently proving it. Marriage itself is the religious sentiment and the holy union at the core of the debate. The differentiations of verious types of marriage is just semantics. I don't think it was very well thought through however, opening marriage up for same sex partners, and it's not something the churches are happy about as it devalues it. A sexual preference should never be a proponant of a marriage. Some people have a sexual preference for animals but that doesn't mean it's progressive or a good for society to allow a marriage between a woman and a pig. That's not a marriage.

pointythings · 28/08/2025 15:41

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 15:25

So, consensus based on shared values. That would mean that Naziism and the gassing of millions of innocent Jews was morally right?Or the millions killed in communist China under Mao. After all most of the German population were proud supporters of the Nazi party and believed they were on a righteous course to world domination with 1 race. At one point in time most of the world supported slavery also. So your 'shared values' argument pretty much falls apart there.

Hardly any women die during childbirth nowadays it is so uncommon, so to use that as an argument for abortion as a means of best survival chances is either ill thought through or intellectually dishonest. This only works if you can debate in 'good faith'. The reason millions of women terminate the babies growing inside of them is largely for their own convenience be it financial or other form of instability, it has nothing to do with their own lives being in danger otherwise I'd be open to thinking that would be a fair reason to do so. This is not to mention the softened language we use around the subject. Most peoples reaction to the act of killing one's own baby is horror and disgust, so it's easier to compartmentalise the truth by using softer language so we can pretend it's some other thing like a medical procedure such as a cut to the hand.

It's not that countries have moved away from religious laws by opening marriage for everyone. You're missing the point whike inadvertently proving it. Marriage itself is the religious sentiment and the holy union at the core of the debate. The differentiations of verious types of marriage is just semantics. I don't think it was very well thought through however, opening marriage up for same sex partners, and it's not something the churches are happy about as it devalues it. A sexual preference should never be a proponant of a marriage. Some people have a sexual preference for animals but that doesn't mean it's progressive or a good for society to allow a marriage between a woman and a pig. That's not a marriage.

You're setting up so many strawman in this post that you could feed a herd of cows for years. I will come back with a detailed address of it all when I am done working.

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 15:57

pointythings · 28/08/2025 15:41

You're setting up so many strawman in this post that you could feed a herd of cows for years. I will come back with a detailed address of it all when I am done working.

Please do, as I'd like you to explain why you'd think any of those points were strawmaning you and if I've made an error to what any of your arguments are please correct me.

pointythings · 28/08/2025 19:36

So, consensus based on shared values. That would mean that Naziism and the gassing of millions of innocent Jews was morally right?Or the millions killed in communist China under Mao. After all most of the German population were proud supporters of the Nazi party and believed they were on a righteous course to world domination with 1 race. At one point in time most of the world supported slavery also. So your 'shared values' argument pretty much falls apart there.

Hitler identified as a Christian. Most Germans of that era also identified as Christian. I would say that the majority of Germans weren't proud as much as they were either passive or afraid. That doesn't excuse their collusion, but as we're seeing today, this is what people are like. And of course it is not possible to have political consensus when you are living under a dictatorship, which is what the Nazi regine rapidly became.

The same applies to China. I would argue that China under Mao was living under a cult of personality, much as North Korea is now. And again, China is a dictatorship where no consensus is possible because the vast majority of the population do not have a voice.

On slavery, you can't argue relligious morality is superior, because as pointed out by a pp, there were Christians on both side of the debate.

Lastly, you appear to think that consensus and moraliy are static things. They really aren't. Societies evolve. Not that long ago, women couldn't vote. Now it's the norm that women have the vote. Consensus changes as people are confronted with change around them. Nevertheless, shared values are required for societies to be effective. Allowing religion to dictate what morals are lands you with the likes of Afghanistan and the current US.

Hardly any women die during childbirth nowadays it is so uncommon, so to use that as an argument for abortion as a means of best survival chances is either ill thought through or intellectually dishonest. This only works if you can debate in 'good faith'. The reason millions of women terminate the babies growing inside of them is largely for their own convenience be it financial or other form of instability, it has nothing to do with their own lives being in danger otherwise I'd be open to thinking that would be a fair reason to do so. This is not to mention the softened language we use around the subject. Most peoples reaction to the act of killing one's own baby is horror and disgust, so it's easier to compartmentalise the truth by using softer language so we can pretend it's some other thing like a medical procedure such as a cut to the hand.

OK, so you are clearly a hardline forced birth advocate. You're allowed to hold that view, of course; just don't expect me to respect it.

Survival is not just about survival of an unborn baby or an individual woman. It is also about the survival and functioning of a family unit. You think that the majority of women terminate for entirely frivolous reasons - what is frivolous to you is very serious to someone else. A very large percentage of women who have abortions already have children. The welfare of those other children must also be considered. Financial matters are also to be seriously considered. Poverty has major adverse effects on children, as I hope you are aware. Women turn to abortion for many different reasons, most of them not in the least frivolous. It speaks of your contempt for women that you think this way.

Of course in an ideal world, there would be no abortion. As someone who is fervently pro choice, I would love to see such a world. However, to achieve that we would have to have the following in place:

  • 100% effective, side effect free contraception which would be free or affordable for everyone
  • No-one to commit rape ever
  • No pregnancy to go wrong in terms of serious birth defects ever
  • Men to take responsibility for their fertility when in committed relationships, i.e. following through on promises to have vasectomies
  • Women to be allowed to have free sterilisation when they feel they have had enough children - this is currently not possible, as women of childbearing age are infantilised and refused this treatment 'in case they change their minds'
  • The morning after pill to be available free, and pharmacists not allowed to refuse to dispense it
Since we do not have all of this in place, we need safe legal abortion as a fallback option - unless you are happy to see women forced to deliver babies with anencephaly and similar. Having safe, legal abortion allows women to survive within a family unit. It allows them to leave an abusive relationship without being tied to their abuser via a child. It allows women to have a backstop in case contraception goes wrong in a situation where raising an additional child is not realistic.

It's not that countries have moved away from religious laws by opening marriage for everyone. You're missing the point whike inadvertently proving it. Marriage itself is the religious sentiment and the holy union at the core of the debate. The differentiations of verious types of marriage is just semantics. I don't think it was very well thought through however, opening marriage up for same sex partners, and it's not something the churches are happy about as it devalues it. A sexual preference should never be a proponant of a marriage. Some people have a sexual preference for animals but that doesn't mean it's progressive or a good for society to allow a marriage between a woman and a pig. That's not a marriage.

How does same sex couples being allowed to marry devalue marriage? I've never yet had a convincing answer to this question, so I'd be interested to hear it. Just don't come out with the one about having children, because it's basically a colander:

  • same sex couples have and raise children very successfully. All the reputable research suggests that children raised in a family involving a stable same sex relationship do as well as or better than children raised by opposite sex parents.
  • If you're going to go with the children argument then by that logic, nobody past the age of childbearing should be allowed to marry either.
  • And nor should anyone found to be infertile.

So outside of the children argument, what exactly is your objection? I'm straight. I married a man. I didn't feel my marriage was lesser when same sex marriage came in - so perhaps this is all in the heads of the religious.

Oh, the Bible isn't an argument either. It's a book, written by people, for people, with the purpose of controlling people. It's been translated a zillion times and worldwide, scholars disagree wildly on its interpretation. Nobody can prove that their interpretation is the correct one; all they have is belief. And belief should never be used to control what other people do.

Other than that your attitude towards marriage equality isn't a strawman, so I apoligise for using that word. Your comparison between same sex marriages and bestiality is bigoted. So I'll use that word instead. Nobody has ever suggested legalising bestiality, because animals cannot consent. It's a bit like child marriage - oh, that's legal in quite a few very religious places, including parts of the US. But I suppose it's fine if the partners are opposite sex. Me, I'd rather have two same sex consenting adults getting married instead.

Of course historically marriage has been more about lands, money and political alliances than about any religious sentiment. It's not for nothing that until relatively recently, marriage was the preserve of the wealthy who had lands and titles to preserve. And of course the church has always supported the establishment.

However, you can't say 'the churches' are not happy about same sex marriage - because quite a few of them are supportive of it these days.

Essentially your entire argument consists of 'you can't have good morals without religion'. And it simply isn't so.

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 21:02

pointythings · 28/08/2025 19:36

So, consensus based on shared values. That would mean that Naziism and the gassing of millions of innocent Jews was morally right?Or the millions killed in communist China under Mao. After all most of the German population were proud supporters of the Nazi party and believed they were on a righteous course to world domination with 1 race. At one point in time most of the world supported slavery also. So your 'shared values' argument pretty much falls apart there.

Hitler identified as a Christian. Most Germans of that era also identified as Christian. I would say that the majority of Germans weren't proud as much as they were either passive or afraid. That doesn't excuse their collusion, but as we're seeing today, this is what people are like. And of course it is not possible to have political consensus when you are living under a dictatorship, which is what the Nazi regine rapidly became.

The same applies to China. I would argue that China under Mao was living under a cult of personality, much as North Korea is now. And again, China is a dictatorship where no consensus is possible because the vast majority of the population do not have a voice.

On slavery, you can't argue relligious morality is superior, because as pointed out by a pp, there were Christians on both side of the debate.

Lastly, you appear to think that consensus and moraliy are static things. They really aren't. Societies evolve. Not that long ago, women couldn't vote. Now it's the norm that women have the vote. Consensus changes as people are confronted with change around them. Nevertheless, shared values are required for societies to be effective. Allowing religion to dictate what morals are lands you with the likes of Afghanistan and the current US.

Hardly any women die during childbirth nowadays it is so uncommon, so to use that as an argument for abortion as a means of best survival chances is either ill thought through or intellectually dishonest. This only works if you can debate in 'good faith'. The reason millions of women terminate the babies growing inside of them is largely for their own convenience be it financial or other form of instability, it has nothing to do with their own lives being in danger otherwise I'd be open to thinking that would be a fair reason to do so. This is not to mention the softened language we use around the subject. Most peoples reaction to the act of killing one's own baby is horror and disgust, so it's easier to compartmentalise the truth by using softer language so we can pretend it's some other thing like a medical procedure such as a cut to the hand.

OK, so you are clearly a hardline forced birth advocate. You're allowed to hold that view, of course; just don't expect me to respect it.

Survival is not just about survival of an unborn baby or an individual woman. It is also about the survival and functioning of a family unit. You think that the majority of women terminate for entirely frivolous reasons - what is frivolous to you is very serious to someone else. A very large percentage of women who have abortions already have children. The welfare of those other children must also be considered. Financial matters are also to be seriously considered. Poverty has major adverse effects on children, as I hope you are aware. Women turn to abortion for many different reasons, most of them not in the least frivolous. It speaks of your contempt for women that you think this way.

Of course in an ideal world, there would be no abortion. As someone who is fervently pro choice, I would love to see such a world. However, to achieve that we would have to have the following in place:

  • 100% effective, side effect free contraception which would be free or affordable for everyone
  • No-one to commit rape ever
  • No pregnancy to go wrong in terms of serious birth defects ever
  • Men to take responsibility for their fertility when in committed relationships, i.e. following through on promises to have vasectomies
  • Women to be allowed to have free sterilisation when they feel they have had enough children - this is currently not possible, as women of childbearing age are infantilised and refused this treatment 'in case they change their minds'
  • The morning after pill to be available free, and pharmacists not allowed to refuse to dispense it
Since we do not have all of this in place, we need safe legal abortion as a fallback option - unless you are happy to see women forced to deliver babies with anencephaly and similar. Having safe, legal abortion allows women to survive within a family unit. It allows them to leave an abusive relationship without being tied to their abuser via a child. It allows women to have a backstop in case contraception goes wrong in a situation where raising an additional child is not realistic.

It's not that countries have moved away from religious laws by opening marriage for everyone. You're missing the point whike inadvertently proving it. Marriage itself is the religious sentiment and the holy union at the core of the debate. The differentiations of verious types of marriage is just semantics. I don't think it was very well thought through however, opening marriage up for same sex partners, and it's not something the churches are happy about as it devalues it. A sexual preference should never be a proponant of a marriage. Some people have a sexual preference for animals but that doesn't mean it's progressive or a good for society to allow a marriage between a woman and a pig. That's not a marriage.

How does same sex couples being allowed to marry devalue marriage? I've never yet had a convincing answer to this question, so I'd be interested to hear it. Just don't come out with the one about having children, because it's basically a colander:

  • same sex couples have and raise children very successfully. All the reputable research suggests that children raised in a family involving a stable same sex relationship do as well as or better than children raised by opposite sex parents.
  • If you're going to go with the children argument then by that logic, nobody past the age of childbearing should be allowed to marry either.
  • And nor should anyone found to be infertile.

So outside of the children argument, what exactly is your objection? I'm straight. I married a man. I didn't feel my marriage was lesser when same sex marriage came in - so perhaps this is all in the heads of the religious.

Oh, the Bible isn't an argument either. It's a book, written by people, for people, with the purpose of controlling people. It's been translated a zillion times and worldwide, scholars disagree wildly on its interpretation. Nobody can prove that their interpretation is the correct one; all they have is belief. And belief should never be used to control what other people do.

Other than that your attitude towards marriage equality isn't a strawman, so I apoligise for using that word. Your comparison between same sex marriages and bestiality is bigoted. So I'll use that word instead. Nobody has ever suggested legalising bestiality, because animals cannot consent. It's a bit like child marriage - oh, that's legal in quite a few very religious places, including parts of the US. But I suppose it's fine if the partners are opposite sex. Me, I'd rather have two same sex consenting adults getting married instead.

Of course historically marriage has been more about lands, money and political alliances than about any religious sentiment. It's not for nothing that until relatively recently, marriage was the preserve of the wealthy who had lands and titles to preserve. And of course the church has always supported the establishment.

However, you can't say 'the churches' are not happy about same sex marriage - because quite a few of them are supportive of it these days.

Essentially your entire argument consists of 'you can't have good morals without religion'. And it simply isn't so.

That's not my argument, and of course religion doesn't make a good person that's not my argument either. The main thing taken from Christianity that nearly all of us take for granted as the notion of being seen in the eyes of God and Jesus as having value as an individual and that being a god given right. That's logos in the Bible. Most of us wouldn't be able to think of any other alternative as it's all we've known but in many non western countries you are not seen as or thought of as an individual, but as a collective. Places like you mentioned such as North Korea people can't fully grasp or begin to understand what that means. The purpose of their lives has nothing to do with what they want to do with them or what they enjoy doing. What makes them get out of bed on a morning is their duty to the happiness of their Great Leader. They work for him eat for him sleep for him and they are only happy if he's happy. They do not see themselves as autonomous individuals and place no value on their own lives except what they can bring their leader. So the most important aspect that Christianity has brought us is the one thing so engrained in our identity we'd be lost without it.

Without religious faith we have no moral standard as a society as that is considered to be a standard above ourselves and devine. It's no coincidence that as we've lost religion as a form of societal cohesion we've also lost from the society much of the morals that went along with it. Christianity has never existed to control anyone it's always been a guide of how to live your life and to navigate through the ebbs and flows.

And this forced birther narritive is so disingenuous. It assumes an extremely entitled attitude as if someone else should take care of the problems you created. No one is using force to make you do anything, people ARE refusing to kill the life you created with your actions as a free person. If you can't fathom that you are responsible for the actions that you take what else is there. This isn't really a religious argument it's proven science that life begins at conception. Just because we count the years after we can see the person having travelled through the birth canal doesn't mean there's nothing there before that. I assume you'd be like many other women in that you'd be absolutely horrified and mortified if a mother was to decided to terminate her breast feeding baby for the good of the family as financial circumstances predicted a struggle ahead? All of a sudden you see them as adorable cuddly, innocent babies when you can see them but before they've passed through your birth canal it's fine to butcher them, tear them apart and rip the remains out as if they're nothing. I truly believe the abortion delusion being sold to women nowadays is a crime against humanity as a unsuspecting women are made to believe it's nothing. The devastation some of these woman feel after is hard to watch as they KNOW and FEEL the gravity of what they've done after the fact. Some women never recover which is worse than any financial burden on a family unit. It's not the women who I blame either per se it's the movement in general which I suppose is pushed by feminism.

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 21:10

And of course, children is going to be the main argument if why same sex marriage isn't really a marriage. That's it's purpose whether people in a marriage have kids or not that's the whole idea, that a man and a woman are joined together in holy matrimony to form a bond in which a family can be conceived. And did u notice in the stats you cited the big giveaway? Same sex couples that remain together do better... The problem is they don't remain together. It simply doesn't work despite the romantic idea of it. As men were never meant to be in life long relationships with other men. It's a defect, a sexual preference not a staple of society. Kids will always do best when in a unit with a mother and a father. There is data on this available.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 28/08/2025 21:16

@Alicealig yes, consensus based on shared values. That's what builds societies.

If you don't like it what are you opinions on the Christians - including the Church of England and the Roman Catholic Church - who had the shared values that slavery was fine, the Christian who led the Taiping rebellion that resulted in the deaths of tens of millions, the Christians who had the shared values that massacring indigenous peoples in the Americas was a-ok, the Christians who had the shared values that killing those they thought were witches was justified by the literal text of the Bible, and the Christians who wore "Got Mit Uns" on their belt buckles as they pushed people into the gas chambers of Auschwitz?

Were they right in their interpretation of Christian values or were they wrong? On what do you base that opinion?

pointythings · 28/08/2025 21:27

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 21:02

That's not my argument, and of course religion doesn't make a good person that's not my argument either. The main thing taken from Christianity that nearly all of us take for granted as the notion of being seen in the eyes of God and Jesus as having value as an individual and that being a god given right. That's logos in the Bible. Most of us wouldn't be able to think of any other alternative as it's all we've known but in many non western countries you are not seen as or thought of as an individual, but as a collective. Places like you mentioned such as North Korea people can't fully grasp or begin to understand what that means. The purpose of their lives has nothing to do with what they want to do with them or what they enjoy doing. What makes them get out of bed on a morning is their duty to the happiness of their Great Leader. They work for him eat for him sleep for him and they are only happy if he's happy. They do not see themselves as autonomous individuals and place no value on their own lives except what they can bring their leader. So the most important aspect that Christianity has brought us is the one thing so engrained in our identity we'd be lost without it.

Without religious faith we have no moral standard as a society as that is considered to be a standard above ourselves and devine. It's no coincidence that as we've lost religion as a form of societal cohesion we've also lost from the society much of the morals that went along with it. Christianity has never existed to control anyone it's always been a guide of how to live your life and to navigate through the ebbs and flows.

And this forced birther narritive is so disingenuous. It assumes an extremely entitled attitude as if someone else should take care of the problems you created. No one is using force to make you do anything, people ARE refusing to kill the life you created with your actions as a free person. If you can't fathom that you are responsible for the actions that you take what else is there. This isn't really a religious argument it's proven science that life begins at conception. Just because we count the years after we can see the person having travelled through the birth canal doesn't mean there's nothing there before that. I assume you'd be like many other women in that you'd be absolutely horrified and mortified if a mother was to decided to terminate her breast feeding baby for the good of the family as financial circumstances predicted a struggle ahead? All of a sudden you see them as adorable cuddly, innocent babies when you can see them but before they've passed through your birth canal it's fine to butcher them, tear them apart and rip the remains out as if they're nothing. I truly believe the abortion delusion being sold to women nowadays is a crime against humanity as a unsuspecting women are made to believe it's nothing. The devastation some of these woman feel after is hard to watch as they KNOW and FEEL the gravity of what they've done after the fact. Some women never recover which is worse than any financial burden on a family unit. It's not the women who I blame either per se it's the movement in general which I suppose is pushed by feminism.

Your arguments in favour of religion as a moral force for good are those of a zealot - I'm an atheist, and everything you have said there is meaningless to me. Every day I see people who have no faith in a deity living moral, humane, generous and caring lives. There are many secular countries where this is also the case. Dictatorships will always exist (and right now we have the beginning of a Christian Nationalist dictatorship developing right before our eyes).

On abortion you are also a zealot. I have a close friend who had a late termination because her much wanted second baby had a condition that was incompatible with life. You would have forced her to give birth and watch her baby die in her arms. I will fight for the right of people like her to not have to go through that. And of course you know full well that less than 2% of abortions are late term, with the majority carried out using tablets - no ripping involved at all, that is the kind if disingenuous language the forced birthers love to use.

Do you know what happens if you ban legal and safe abortion?

Women die. Are you OK with that? If yes, you are the one whose morals are lacking.

And all the research makes it clear that the vast majority of women who have abortions feel no trauma. They feel relief.

Facts matter.

pointythings · 28/08/2025 21:34

Alicealig · 28/08/2025 21:10

And of course, children is going to be the main argument if why same sex marriage isn't really a marriage. That's it's purpose whether people in a marriage have kids or not that's the whole idea, that a man and a woman are joined together in holy matrimony to form a bond in which a family can be conceived. And did u notice in the stats you cited the big giveaway? Same sex couples that remain together do better... The problem is they don't remain together. It simply doesn't work despite the romantic idea of it. As men were never meant to be in life long relationships with other men. It's a defect, a sexual preference not a staple of society. Kids will always do best when in a unit with a mother and a father. There is data on this available.

The data on where kids do best doesn't say what you want it to say. Oh, there is data that accords with your beliefs - studies sponsored by religious universities, studies which are methodologically unsound.

As for divorce rates among same sex couples - when divorce becamse legal, there was a lengthy spike before it settled. I suspect the same will happen with same sex couples. They've been allowed to marry for barely more than 10 years. In the Netherlands, divorce rates among same sex couples are the same or somewhat lower than for opposite sex couples.
And of course divorce isn't always a bad thing. If my late husband hadn't died 12 days before the nisi, I would have been divorced. He was an abusive alcoholic.

Lastly, children. You've totally ignored the fact that same sex couples can and do have and raise children. You've also failed to be consistent - if it's about having (biological) children, why are we allowing opposite couples who cannot have children to marry? You can't have your cake and eat it.

JustPassingThruHere · 28/08/2025 21:36

Following Jesus Christ.

Alicealig · 29/08/2025 13:26

pointythings · 28/08/2025 21:34

The data on where kids do best doesn't say what you want it to say. Oh, there is data that accords with your beliefs - studies sponsored by religious universities, studies which are methodologically unsound.

As for divorce rates among same sex couples - when divorce becamse legal, there was a lengthy spike before it settled. I suspect the same will happen with same sex couples. They've been allowed to marry for barely more than 10 years. In the Netherlands, divorce rates among same sex couples are the same or somewhat lower than for opposite sex couples.
And of course divorce isn't always a bad thing. If my late husband hadn't died 12 days before the nisi, I would have been divorced. He was an abusive alcoholic.

Lastly, children. You've totally ignored the fact that same sex couples can and do have and raise children. You've also failed to be consistent - if it's about having (biological) children, why are we allowing opposite couples who cannot have children to marry? You can't have your cake and eat it.

That's not a failure of consistency. No one has said anyone shouldn't be allowed to marry. Only that kids, in general with always thrive the most in a normal male/female marriage. That's not surprising is it, being the natural way of the world. BMJ Medical is not religiously tied or bias to any particular group and they've done a comprehensive meta analysis showing child development, in many areas isn't as good with same sex couples.

Alicealig · 29/08/2025 13:28

Also your analysis on divorce rates is faulty. The reason the spike would be unlikely to occur in same sex couples is that they've always been allowed to divorce. The spike didn't come along with heterosexual couples because they were allowed to marry it was after they were given the right to divorce.

pointythings · 29/08/2025 13:32

Alicealig · 29/08/2025 13:28

Also your analysis on divorce rates is faulty. The reason the spike would be unlikely to occur in same sex couples is that they've always been allowed to divorce. The spike didn't come along with heterosexual couples because they were allowed to marry it was after they were given the right to divorce.

Sorry, what? Of course you would expect a spike. First you would see a surge in same sex marriages (when they're legalised) and the spike in divorce would follow a few years later.

pointythings · 29/08/2025 13:41

Alicealig · 29/08/2025 13:26

That's not a failure of consistency. No one has said anyone shouldn't be allowed to marry. Only that kids, in general with always thrive the most in a normal male/female marriage. That's not surprising is it, being the natural way of the world. BMJ Medical is not religiously tied or bias to any particular group and they've done a comprehensive meta analysis showing child development, in many areas isn't as good with same sex couples.

I have just looked up and read that article. The conclusions you draw from it are ... interesting. Right there on the first page it says 'Parents' sexual orientation is not an important determinant of children's development.' It's also clear that any adverse effects are due to societal stressors, i.e. intolerance, stigma, discrimination. The obvious solution is to deal with those, not complain about a group of parents who through no fault of their own have it tougher than other parents. The issue is bigotry in others, not the parents themselves.

Religion contributes powerfully to that bigotry and its effects on same sex parents and their children.