Godparent help

[BouncingTurtle]

DS is being Baptised next month. We asked DH's db and dsil to be Godparents, and they were delighted.
Sadly, Dh went to see his parents this morning, and has found out db has moved out, they are having some difficulties.
Praying like mad for them to resolve their difficulties, they have 2 young daughters and we all thought they had a great relationship.

Thing is DH and I are in a bit of a quandary, we obviously still want DB to be ds's Godfather, but what about dsil? I don't really want any one else, but don't want to put dsil in an awkward position, as she has enough on her plate to deal with right now Also don't want her to feel as though we are taking sides, IYSWIM! I'd really like her to attend as I think she is lovely. But obviously, ds's Baptism not high on her priority list right now.
It has crossed my mind to ask dsil to still be ds's GM in the hopes it might help reconcile the two of them if they come together to ds's Baptism.

Would just like to say I am more concerned for dh's db and dsil than us being inconvenienced!

Advice please (And prayers for my db and dsil to start talking to each other )

Got to go to bed now, so will check this in the morning.

TIA

I would just say exactly that to her- that you realise she's got a lot on her plate but you don't want her to feel that just because she and dh are having problems that it affects how you feel about her. Say you totally understand if she feels unable but you want her to kmow that you'd very much like her to be part of you dc's life. Balls in her court with no pressure.

I totally agree with trebuchet.

Thanks for your advice. She is taking the girls on hols today so will speak to her when she comes back.

We've decided to postpone the Christening. It's only fair on dh's db and dsil.
On the plus side, DH has spoken to his db and they will be going to Relate. Apparently they had a massive row on Thursday night which could have ended their relationship permanently but they both pulled back and are having some time apart to think things through.
It seems they both feel that all though things are broken between them they can be fixed.
Sending lots of prayers their way, that they may fix what is wrong, learn to communicate together and have an even stronger relationship as a result. It all sounds very hopeful!