@MoonKiss i agree. I have seen three relatives die slow, agonising deaths from long term illness. One was actually forcefed in hospital to keep her alive longer. She had been spitting out pills - she was in too much pain to talk and communicate her wishes, but I believe she was desperate to be allowed to die in peace - she had an extremely strong faith, but she was ready to meet her God in heaven and had had enough after 15 years of terrible pain. True, she survived because the doctors kept medicating and nourishing her body, but it was no way to live, and it took an interminably long time for her to die.
And then another relative - very religious - felt that he could it agree to a DNR because his faith didn’t permit it. I mean, his faith was mapped out in a time before chemo, before resuscitation techniques, before surgeries. I remember the second time he crashed and was brought back from the brink of death, at that point the doctors already knew he had less than 6 months to live and they dragged him back, they pumped his heart back to life and they kept him clinging on. He was in a terrible state. He was discharged to the care of my long-suffering mother. His last four months were hell - sepsis, wasting, plus all the effects from his cancer and the palliative chemo. My mother’s life was also hell, trying to keep him alive. And his death was indescribably awful, I cannot think about that week at his bedside without the horror coming back to me, over a decade ago.
So I agree - there is pressure to stay alive, long beyond what nature intended. And I won’t believe in any God who wants people to endure what is tantamount to torture.
I am absolutely terrified of becoming old and going through something like that. Of subjecting my kids to the pain of watching me deteriorate and suffer agony for year upon year upon year.
I want choice. I want us to allow people to say that there can be mercy and dignity in death, and we do not need to live beyond a point of pain that we can no longer bear.