I need to know a little about the Seven Day Adventists

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Well actually I don't, not their beliefs but I'm attending a funeral at one so I'm looking for advice.

What do I wear? I normally live in trousers but I think a skirt might be more appropriate.

Are bare legs with a skirt OK or do I need tights?

Is there a collection?

Anything I need to do or not do?

Thank you for anyone who can help.

For ease of responding I will reply as if you are female who identifies as female, as I do not want to assume anything. You are attending a funeral, not attending to worship - I would suggest that you wear what is respectful (no tits nor muffin tops nor bums nor camel toes on show) and is comfortable for you. Personally, if I were to wear a dress or skirt, I would also wear tights.

Thank you.

I am a female who identifies as not having a gender.

As another female without an 'identity', I suggest you wear a skirt and tights. They are very strict, bible-believing Christians who think the dead sleep until the Resurrection. If there is food afterwards it will probably be vegan; be prepared.

OK skirt and tights it is.I hope it isn't too hot.

Also somber colours as default unless specified otherwise. All the Seventh Day funerals I have been to have also been quite traditional in that there were no ‘give to a cause’ envelopes but instead the ‘old fashioned’ wreaths, flowers etc as basic expectation but maybe that’s just an area dependant thing? They also view it as not too bad a thing, the person now has the ‘luxury’ of waiting for the resurrection and ascending to be with God which appears to be their life’s purpose. Per above, any spread will be vegetarian or vegan unless they are an odd group.

The family have used the deceased's home for a couple of gatherings and they very generously bring a plate of food over. It's not vegi and they have also supplied me with rum punch.

So although the deceased was SDA not all her family are.

They are a really really lovely family.

Sorry to ask but now intrigued as never known of it (know a LOT of SDA including some close relatives). Did they give you the rum punch n the home of the SDA while the SDA was there and knew what was happening?

I found this about SDA beliefs and practices relating to death and funerals which might help. It looks as if the service is fairly standard mainstream Protestant and sober dark clothing would be a safe choice.

www.askanadventistfriend.com/adventist-culture/seventh-day-adventist-funeral-traditions-and-death-practices/

Well not the last time as the lady had passed away, but when it was her 90th yes. The children like to pet my cat and are happy to feed her ham, I checked before I gave it to them.

So I think the family is a bit of a mixed bag.

@ghislaine thank you for that.

Just popping back to report.

The funeral was a new experience. there were a lot of people leaving from the house so a hearse, a horse drawn hearse, 3 limos and a minibus, so it took a bit of time to get organised.

One thing I thought was lovely was family and friends giving 'tributes' as she had 7 children, 30+ grandchildren then great grandchildren and I think a couple of great great grandchildren.

There were lots of stories and memories. At other funerals I've been to there has just been a eulogy.

I wore a black skirt and blouse.

The female family members wore white with a pink scarf and the men wore suits with a pink tie. Some of the little girls wore pink.

They said the white was to show the deceased purity and the pink because it was her favorite colour.

Where they Caribbean OP? That reminds me of my families Caribbean funerals with the wearing white and the horse drawn etc. I know many Caribbean people are also SDA.

My in-laws were SDA and there were no horses and carriages at theirs 😅.

They had absolutely standard type funerals. Also lovely people, not veggie, and though they didn't drink, they provided it for those who do..

@MissionaryMumtoOne Yes, my neighbour was windrush generation.