Any witchy types about? Question re Beltane weddings....

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We're looking into the possibility of getting married on May 1st by way of a compromise; I'm due to have a baby in August and for some hormonal reason I want to be married before then. DP wants to get married but not for another year or so. He wants a bit of a bigger deal whereas I'd be quite happy to sign a bit of paper with no one there with us both in jeans...

So here's the compromise I have in mind at the moment; we sign the papers on the 1st of May, then have a bit of a party in a year and a day (when I won't be pregnant anymore and we'll have time to plan it - but the practical beaurocracy will be taken care of sooner.)

But this is the real question - was just looking for some info to sell the idea to DP, and one source says it's bad luck to marry on May 1st whilst I always thought it was the day for doing it! Backed up by this and this.

Anyone know whether it's bad luck? Or not worth worrying about? Would work out quite nicely for us as May 2nd next year (a year and a day later) is a Saturday so always a good day for a party.

bump!

That sounds like a wonderful idea to me- many years ago I had two weddings too, the religious pagan one on May 1st and the legal dutiful one on 9th Oct. Not only do you get to be the bride twice for the same man, but you can also celebrate your fecundity on May 1st in the best possible way, by it being your wedding night. How fabulous!
for my pagan ceremony we decided that to stick to the old idea that it was a renewable contract between us for a year and a day. It was so personal and intimate even though we were both naked in the open air!
Congratulations on deciding to take the plunge with mariage. Hope your bride days go as you want, with minimal family interference.

Cheers chuggabopps! I'm not sure if DP'll go for it, or if we can organise it in time (lot of faffing giving notice of marriage and all that malarkey isn't it!) but I like the idea of it.

I dunno why I feel the need to do it, its not a wedlock thing as we already have a son and it doesn't bother us in the slightest that we weren't married at the time. Just want to do it this time.

Congratulations, as I presume you're married now! Fancy telling us all about it?

Just to say (for anyone else reading this thread who's interested) that in some traditions weddings aren't normally performed on Beltane, as it's seen as a time reserved solely to celebrate the sacred wedding of God and Goddess - this is probably the source of the 'bad luck' thing you heard.

However, as with most Pagan practices opinions on this vary wildly, so if it seemed right for you then I hope you had the most beautiful day you could imagine. :-) I've never performed a wedding on Beltane, but I live in the UK and perhaps the tradition where you live differs from our practices here.

Best wishes for continued love, health and happiness.