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Can anyone help with the wording of a condolence card for a very devout Christian?

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MadeOfAllWork · 15/11/2023 19:59

I have just lost a family member and want to send a condolence card to their family.
She was a very devout Christian and will have died in the certain belief they will have been going to be with her saviour.

Does anyone have some lovely verse that won’t sound odd coming from an atheist.

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TheFlis · 15/11/2023 20:07

I would just keep it vague and say how sorry you are for their loss and it must be a blessing to know they are now at peace (assuming they died following an illness rather than something sudden).

MadeOfAllWork · 15/11/2023 20:16

TheFlis · 15/11/2023 20:07

I would just keep it vague and say how sorry you are for their loss and it must be a blessing to know they are now at peace (assuming they died following an illness rather than something sudden).

A blessing in being at peace is a good one. She had been ill for some time.

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 15/11/2023 20:55

I would just put that I was sorry for their loss and that they were in my thoughts .

I wouldn't word a card any different depending upon someone's faith, or lack of it.

If I knew the person that had passed I would may be put in a little memory of them.

CoconutQueen · 15/11/2023 21:17

I would definitely not put that it may be a blessing that they are at peace; even if they had been ill for some time, to say that it may be a blessing, IN ANY WAY AT ALL may be truly insulting to someone who is utterly devastated......

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 15/11/2023 21:24

I agree with that @CoconutQueen
Never assume to know how somebody else feels .

Treesinmygarden · 15/11/2023 21:25

I wouldn't try to delve into their faith either.

Just send your deepest condolences.

ZenNudist · 15/11/2023 21:27

I would just say something nice about the deceased and put in your happy memories about them.

Saschka · 15/11/2023 21:29

Agree - absolutely no hint of it being all for the best, God having a plan, or it being a blessing in disguise. Nothing used to give me the rage so much as people who were less close than me to the deceased telling me indirectly that it wasn’t all bad that they’d died.

You are sorry for their loss, their partner was such a wonderful [insert appropriate quality here], and you are thinking of them.

usernamealreadytaken · 15/11/2023 21:40

Not sure whether it works, but a Jewish condolence is “may their memory be a blessing” which I always find a beautiful sentiment on someone’s passing.

mumuwarriorisback · 15/11/2023 21:41

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squashi · 15/11/2023 21:47

If you're not religious don't make any reference to religion. Just a heartfelt message of condolence. I'm so sorry to hear of your sad loss / I remember them as.... (if you knew them) / I know how much they meant to you and how much they'll be missed.
If they're a devout Christian, they'll get plenty of religious messages from fellow believers, I imagine.

lap90 · 15/11/2023 22:03

Sorry for your loss. If you're not of faith, just say sorry for your loss and mention they will be in your thoughts. Do not say anything about it being a blessing. Grief is really difficult even for the most devout. She fought the food fight, finished the race and kept the faith.

MadeOfAllWork · 15/11/2023 22:45

Thank you all. I just shared some memories and said she was in my thoughts.

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