If there is such a thing as a genuine clairvoyant, is this something they'd say?

[doglikescheeseontoast]

I can't say I've ever given the subject of clairvoyance much thought, so I've never formed an opinion about its genuineness one way or the other. That's phrased badly but I hope you know what I mean.

Anyway, my wife died several years ago (we're both female). I have no relationship with most of her family due to their refusal to accept our relationship, but there is one member of her family I thought I got on quite well with.

This person contacted me a few days ago to say she's been to see a clairvoyant and my wife 'came through' and spoke to her via the clairvoyant. My wife apparently told her that there are certain things in my house (the one I lived in with my wife until her death) that my wife 'wanted her to have'.

I know this to be untrue because my wife knew for several months that she was dying, and she made a point of going through her stuff and giving people the things she wanted them to have.

I feel really rattled by what the family member has told me and can't decide whether my discomfort is caused by the clairvoyant allegedly saying this, or at the family member for believing it to the extent that she's contacted me to tell me.

I'm not sure what I'm asking really, other than whether this is the usual way for a clairvoyant to work? I suppose if I'd thought about it I'd have thought they talk about vague 'in the future' sort of stuff rather than make statements that can cause disquiet and potentially bad feeling between family members.

no..this just sounds like a family member trying to steal from you..

Outrageous!

1. There’s no such thing as a genuine clairvoyant.
2. This person is very cheekily trying to scam you.

Are the things she wants valuable? If so it's a straight con, if it's just cheap trinkets or keepsakes I don't know.

I'll be specific - the clairvoyant told the family member that there is a jewellery box with some jewellery in it that my wife wanted her to have.

My wife did have a jewellery box, but she gave people the things out of it that she wanted them to have before she died. There is jewellery still in it, but I use that box now and my own stuff is in it too.

@doglikescheeseontoast Look up Derren Brown and how he debunks them totally.
Fraudulent

That sounds as dodgy as hell. I wouldn't pay any attention to it, she's on the make for whatever she can get.

It's utter rubbish and she's trying to pull a fast one to get hold of the jewellery. I'd be sceptical that she even saw a clairvoyant.

What a horrible thing to have presented to you when you are grieving 💐

This is why people get angry with clairvoyants - because it's all rubbish but people get manipulated by it. Tbh having said that, the relative probably went to the clairvoyant and said 'X wanted me to have that jewellery' and would have said the same to you whatever the con artist said.

You don't need to engage with this nonsense. Just tell the relative - by email or in writing might be best - that you are certain that your wife distributed everything in the way she wanted to in the long period when you were facing her death together. I don't think I would add that it is very distressing to be contacted in this way, but you might choose to.

I don’t think there actually was a clairvoyant- my money is on the family member making that up. It’s vastly more likely.

The family member is disgusting. To invoke a supposed conversation in order to steal objects from you is deplorable. Please ignore her.

Clairvoyants are charlatans who can read the reactions of people very skillfully. This family member is trying their luck. Sorry you've had this horrible experience OP. Maybe just respond with, 'thanks for reaching out, it's not possible to make any changes to DW' s wishes now. Take care, goodbye' or such like.

Sounds like a Little Britain sketch.

Sounds like the relative is just trying it on.

" Clairvoyant" and "genuine" not words that should be used together!
the word "Grifter" comes to mind though.

There is no such thing as a clairvoyant. They’re trying to fleece you. Disgraceful behaviour.

I don’t mean to sound flippant when you’re obviously grieving, but I’d be tempted to play them at their own game and pretend to see a psychic and then say “but my wife told me that she never said anything of the sort”.

Sounds like a right load of made-up cobblers to me.

IF your Wife had wanted this person to have the jewellery, she would have given it to them or told you to give it to them.

It sounds like a really underhand way to try and guilt you into giving your Wife's jewellery to this person.

I'd say something like ''If my wife would have wanted you to have had it, she would have given it to you before her passing, or it would be mentioned in her Will.

Don't give it another thought, @doglikescheeseontoast.