Any Witches Here?- Part 19

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Or Wiccans. or Pagans? Or anyone who is interested in a magical path or feels some magical stirrings.
A place for support, learning, swapping ideas and magical inspiration..
This is the 18th thread- anyone looking for a deep dive into juicy magical topics may like to browse previous threads.....
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Part 2
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Part 3
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Part 4
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Part5
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Part 7 //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/3520269-Any-Witches-Here-Part-7?pg=1
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Hugs Violet rest and relax, I'll send you some absent Good Things x

VioletCharlotte I hope you had a restful sleep.
I am sending a dose of self-compassion.
Please don't be hard on yourself.
We are human, life and relationships are complex, and sometimes we get cross and frustrated or angry.
Especially if we feel we are not being heard.
Loving relationships can survive the odd angry moment with no lasting damage.
And if our adult children see us as human, then that is no bad thing.

I am learning to navigate new waters with my adult children all the time.
When our children are younger we shield them from some of our feelings, I know I did- I would put on a happy face, I wanted them to be happy and secure, even if I was worried or feeling anxious, they were too young to take my feelings on board. Money was a struggle when my kids were young and I had many sleepless nights, but I wanted to protect them from all the adult stuff.

As they have matured I have continued to shield them from my anxieties, worries and frustrations, but that dynamic is changing.
They are both emotionally intelligent people, but I have continued with the happy " I'm fine" until very recently.

Through my work in therapy, and discussions with my children I am learning to drop my guard a little, share my feelings more and deepen the now adult relationships I have with them.
It was daunting at first, I didn't want to burden them, I have my own issues of codependency and CPTSD, but when I found the courage to be authentic and truthful lovely things happened.

My honesty allowed them to open up more, talk to me more about their emotions, their feelings too. I am emotionally quite self reliant, but when we started to share more we found such healing in each other.
It was hard to begin with, showing more of my vulnerability, but it has moved our relationships to a new level.

Don't be afraid to talk to your DS about your frustrations and anger VioletCharlotte- you behaved in a very human way, and that's OK.
I hope you have an amazing day.

Thanks for the thought BlankTimes however I have an autoimmune condition and they think it is masking an allergy because anti-histamine will calm a reaction. BUT if i take too much anti-histamine i end up in an allergy cascade response and steroids are needed calm my immune system down. It takes nearly a month to recover from an ingestion exposure because toxins build up in my joints, so i get a real fun secondary response to the follow the immediately not breathing/burns response depending on airborne or contact exposure. It is not fun game i recommend any one playing. However, it makes you a damn good cook because nightshades are literally in sodding everything, and you end up having really good clean food with minimal chemicals/food like substances in them. It is dangerous being able to make doughnuts when ever you want though. Tasty, but dangerous for the waist line

Just a normal day in the kitchen

That sounds really challenging HillsBesideTheSea, I hadn't considered how many plants from the nightshade family are so common. Is this something you have had for a while?

I love your magical kitchen Hedjwitch. I also love your artwork on the wall. I have been looking at similar images recently, they are so lovely.
Is the image printed on metal?

I have an early start this morning, the brakes on my car have been making a juddering noise, so I have to drop off my car at the garage.

So much of adult life is tedious, but necessary! I hope any repair is not too costly.

Have an enchanted day friends,

It was an adult acquired condition, but had it best part of 10 years now. Honestly once you have mentally adapted to the fact you can't ever eat out (lost count of how many places have said they simply can't safely cater due to cross contamination) and that you literally have to check every thing no matter how many times you have bought it; it isn't too bad. But it is one of the reasons why I love messing about in the kitchen. Although not being able to leave the country for a holiday is a little frustrating and something I am still trying to figure out if can be work around.
Currently trying to figure out if it is worth playing the gingsen game. Asian gingsen = not nightshade, Indian gingsen (also known as ashwagandha) = is nightshade. As both could be labelled as gingsen it could be a bit of a gamble as to which one is being referred to.

Hedjwitch that looks like a good kitchen day.

The picture on the wall is metal,yes. Trying to make bathbombs but just havent got the texture right.

Hello, I'm not a witch, so feel like a bit of a fraud being here. But I find myself drawn more and more to ritual to improve aspects of my life.

There are a couple of people who have hurt me, who are living rent free in my head. So today I wrote their names on some paper and burned it, while imagining that I have a force field that protects me from them.

I have felt very much calmer since then (having earlier got myself quite het up).

I just wanted to share this. Thanks for reading.

BerfyTigot Hello, I'm not a witch either but like popping in here from time to time. Good to hear you are feeling calmer now.

I too was burning some paper earlier but for confidential purposes where shredding won't quite do. I was at the end of the garden where it is peaceful so sat on an old tree stump and had few moments with the fire. They are literally so elemental.

Then came indoors to empty the washing machine. Ho hum...

Love your name Berfy!

BerfyTigot a warm welcome. There are many non witches on this thread, so make yourself at home.
I am glad to hear your banishing spell brought you calm.

I have been watching the news coverage about the impending eruption in Iceland.
I feel for those affected, many will be losing their homes and businesses. And the future is uncertain too, some geologists are predicting this may the start of increased volcanic activity.

A huge reminder of the power of nature.
I climbed an active volcano some years ago in a remote part of the world (not sure I would be so foolhardy these days), but it was an amazing experience to peer into the crater, watching yellow sulphur spew out onto hot rocks, noxious gases swirling.

It is understandable how myths and legends were born from the power of the volcano.
I prefer to watch from a distance.

Just started reading this. Enjoying it very much so far

@Hedjwitch thank you😁

@speakout @BerthaFlapjack
Thank you for the welcome. I have been drawn to witchcraft for a while, but this is the first time I have actively attempted a spell/ritual.

@speakout I like your idea about there being magic all around us in our lives. That really resonates with me.

I have been walking in local woods, and recently found what could be an altar - it had a small collection of berries, rosehips, leaves and seeds, in a large piece of bark.

I feel compelled to go back tomorrow and offer something of my own there. But I don't want to offend whoever has created it. What do you all think?

I have been reading The Witches Guide to Ritual: Spells, Incantations and Inspired Ideas. I'm really enjoying it.

Have also enjoyed reading these threads - plenty to keep me going for a good few weeks!!

Thanks @Hedjwitch, I'm going to request that from the library.

That looks an interesting book Hedjwitch, I haven't seen it before, thanks for posting.

BerfyTigot I see things like that in my local woods too. Hard to tell if it is some magical work, or the collections of a child. When I was young that is the kind of thing I would do.
Trust your judgment, notice your feelings, does it feel ok to add to the arrangement?
I often leave magical offerings in the wood, to matron trees, a wolf guardian, souls long passed, and would be happy for someone to add to my contributions but I can't speak for everyone.
Listen to your instinct- you already know the answer.

I bought myself a couple of new Tarot decks this week- The Witches Tarot by Ellen Duggan and The Wild Wood Tarot by Mark Ryan.
I haven't used either yet, I may get some time this weekend for a tea and Tarot time.

I would love to know if any of you have a favourite Tarot or Oracle deck? I know a few of us have the Everday Witch Tarot by Deorah Blake and love it. I am also using the Goddess Dream Oracle quite a it at the moment too.
There are so many decks available now- it is hard to choose.

That book looks really interesting Hedjwitch I need something new and witchy to read so might see if I can get a copy.

It looks like today is going to be wet and windy - a good day for being indoors with a book, tea and tarot. I've not bought any new tarot decks for a long time Speakout but I've seen the Goddess Oracle deck, they're beautiful cards and a deck I think I could work with as the images resonate with me. If you'd like to pull a card for me, I would be really grateful 🙏

I have a therapy appointment today. I've selected a therapist trained in Gestalt (mainly due to how positive you speak about this type of therapy Speakout). I've seen various therapists over the years to try and help me deal with issues from the past, but they always seem to resurface, no matter how much I think I've healed 🤷‍♀️ I'm looking forward to the session, but also feeling somewhat anxious about the emotions that may come up.

It's a wild wet and windy day here too VioletCharlotte.

I would love to make an Oracle pick for you today, I am off to Body balance soon, but will have time this afternoon.

I hope your therapy session goes well, and that your therapist is a good fit.
Your anxious feelings are completely understandable, and absolutely a topic to raise.
Therapy needs to be done at a pace and depth that you are comfortable with, and if emotions start to be overwhelming then it should be time to pull back a little. This is your therapy, and you shouldnt be pushed into a place that overwhelms.
During therapy my comfort was paramount, my reactions to emotions very important, and had an ongoing dialogue with my therapist so I could give her permission to push harder or ease up a little. The rate and intensity was in my hands.
As therapy progressed she would often ask if I could sit a bit longer with a painful feeling in order to explore and defuse it. Often I did, sometimes I asked to move on.
She did teach me techniques to use while I was feeling disregulated, which I still use to great effect.

Good luck.

Hi @speakout my favourite deck is the herbcrafters tarot. They altered it to be pages become daughters, knights become warriors, queens become mothers and Kings become healers. Swords is air, wands is fire, cups is water and pentacles is earth.
It feels very natural for me to use and I connected with the deck instantly. It's a botanical journey and makes me look at the natural world in different ways.

@Hedjwitch that book looks fab...going to look for that today!
Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend

@speakout thanks for the advice. On reflection, I think I'll leave my offerings nearby but not on the altar.
I hadn't considered that it might be the work of a child!

@Hedjwitch earlier in the year you mentioned wanting to grow a poison garden. There's an amazing one at Alnwick castle - they don't let the public in alone, but you can have a guided tour. It was really good!!

Wild and wet here today.
Blessings to all.

Good morning sisters, Speakout I love and resonate with Brian Froud's Oracle decks.

Berfy I too would do my own, not piggyback on someone else's you don't know what their intentions were/are

Hedj that's on my wishlist now, many thanks 😊

Violet, I hope all goes well with this course of therapy for you and that you find the release you need.

Today I'm curled up by the fire, with candkes, crystals and books after making sultana buns for breakfast. It's dank and foggy outside, so I'll be here toasty warm well fed and read 📚

BerfyTigot I am glad you found an answer to the offerings- one that is right for you.

Slightlylostalongtheway the Herbcrafter's tarot looks amazing, as does the Froud oracle deck. Why are there so many beautiful decks around- I have enough, but they are all so tempting.

Blanktimes your afternoon sounds blissful, I enjoy these cosy afternoons when outside is cold and dark, candles lift that atmosphere.
I am back from my class, and everyone is either out or asleep, so just enjoying the calm with some cacao and a slice of coconut and cranberry cake.
I have to work now, and look forward to my quiet time later.

Really enjoying the book above. Love the way she writes, have chuckled a bit. Get it on your Christmas list.
Been to yoga,now tucked under my heated throw to write Christmas cards. Beef casserole in slow cooker. All is well

VioletCharlotte I hope your meeting with the therapist went well.

I have pulled a Goddess Oracle card for you- Serenity.
Brigit speaks to you through her swan totem, inviting you to seek balance and calm in your life, and a reminder to take care of your body and mind.
Seek rest and stillness in your day, pause and allow serenity to navigate life's waters.

Speakout, What a lovely card for Violet .

Here's a bit more about Bride, Brigit and several other spellings
https://voicesfromthedawn.com/kildare-round-tower-and-fire-temple/

Hey, hope it’s ok for me to join in with this thread. I’m not a witch but have recently become very drawn to the spiritual world after experiencing a lot of trauma and loss in recent months. It’s something I was always fascinated by as a child and teen but then forgot about. But now, in my 40s, I’m feeling very drawn towards all of that again.

I’m also reading the Alice Tarbuck book right now. She writes beautifully and what she says makes so much sense.

Btw can anyone recommend any Facebook pages or groups please, that aren’t full of people trying to sell stuff? On the ones I’ve joined, every other post seems to be someone promoting a book they’ve written or crafts they’re selling or some paid event they’re hosting.