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Suicide and the afterlife

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Lewys156 · 09/07/2022 01:47

As someone who has felt suicidal a lot over the last few years and also lost friends to suicide, I'm wondering if anyone could offer any comforting words regarding what happens to the soul in the afterlife after committing suicide? I know no one can know definitively but any experiences etc. would be much welcomed. Thanks

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ClumpingBambooIsALie · 09/07/2022 01:51

If you want to keep existing, please stay alive — don't take a wild gamble on there being some kind of afterlife. Find a way to make this life bearable because we don't have any evidence that you get another go.

If I'd thought I'd still exist in some way afterwards, though, I would've never tried to kill myself.

Plinkplonk1234 · 09/07/2022 02:01

My cousin died tragically when he was young and I was very sad after the funeral sat thinking about him and wondering where he actually was in the afterlife. I had this amazing feeling of something passing through me like breeze and was left with a feeling of joy and the thoughts that life is all a big drama like a play not to be taken seriously. I felt he was near and was sending me a message not to worry about him at all that he was very happy. It gave me great comfort at the time and still does.

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2022 02:06

I'm worried that comforting words will give you comfort to end your own life.

What I can tell you is that you are important here and now, that there is only one of you, completely unique, and that you only get one life. But your friends aren't in pain now because any god that made them suffer isn't a good god.

Od130990 · 09/07/2022 02:15

@Lewys156 this is what I want to know.
The only thing stopping me at this very moment is leaving my 3 children because I know absolutely no one could ever love them the way I do.

However I'm done with this shitshow,
There's zero joy in life anymore. I can't function or bear the suffering a second longer; I want it to end so badly but I'm not brave enough to put a stop to it.

Kharybdis · 09/07/2022 02:18

It is late, so I guess you are thinking deeply about these things. I’ve lost one friend to suicide and I had no idea he was in such pain. His action I think may have stopped me from going the same way when I saw how it affected his friends and family. There were people at his funeral that hadn’t seen him for years, but still loved him and were deeply affected by his death. I think that’s true of absolutely everyone: a person may not know how important they are to people they haven’t seen in ages. You just don’t know what you may do today that may mean something good and happy to someone you may never see again. A smile, or a kind word, to a stranger may mean so much and you may never know. For what it’s worth, my own belief is that there is an afterlife, but this world is full of wonder and joy and it is too beautiful to leave before your time. But you have to look for the wonder and beauty and joy and you will find it. I am a stranger on the internet, staying up too late after a long day (and drinking too much wine) but I am thinking of you and wishing you all the very best.

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Lewys156 · 09/07/2022 14:05

Thank you everyone for your understanding messages and support, it means so very much 😊

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Loobyloo68 · 09/07/2022 14:12

My nephew died at 50 through drink induced illness, he knew he was dying and asked for friends to go and see him . He said to me that he never realised he had so many friends. Dont throw your life away

WildFlowerBees · 09/07/2022 14:19

Personally I think to commit to and then take your own life takes courage, the pain must be so deep that to leave this world feels more comforting than staying. However as someone who like lots of people have lost a loved one this way I would like to say that, you matter, you really do and although you may feel the world and those in it would be better without you, it won't and they won't. There will be unanswered questions and a deep longing that the person no longer with them had spoken to them had given them the option of being a support.

If being in this world is no longer and option for anyone, I wish them peace and I believe that is achieved once we are no longer here.

ElvisWife · 09/07/2022 14:23

I lost my son to suicide, if there is an afterlife and I hope there is, then I hope he's happy and at peace.

The way I see it is that my son was
very ill, mentally and his illness was just as real as someone who has cancer or any other illness.

I honestly believe that he didn't want to to die, he wanted his pain to end, just like someone who has an illness and chooses to go to a clinic.

I dont see why his soul would be any different from anyone else, he wasn't a bad person, just extremely troubled and ill.

Op...if you feel suicidal please seek help, it's a long road, not treated seriously enough but help is there.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and the devastation left behind, well I can't even begin to describe it.

I honestly hope you can get the help you need, and I wish you all the best for the future because you DO have a future ❤

TheVolturi · 09/07/2022 14:24

I have a close friend who has suicidal intentions. She does not want there to be anything afterwards because she can't stand any of it. However I do believe that if you are suicidal you are unwell and if you ended your life because of illness then you would not be judged by whichever God you worship.
Do talk to someone in real life op. Flowers

SquirrelSoShiny · 09/07/2022 14:26

If you ever need someone to talk to call Samaritans 116 123

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PipMumsnet · 09/07/2022 15:11

Hello OP,
We see that you are getting some really great support from other Mumsnetters on this thread. We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources.
You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.
We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.
Best wishes,
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wellhelloitsme · 09/07/2022 15:18

ElvisWife · 09/07/2022 14:23

I lost my son to suicide, if there is an afterlife and I hope there is, then I hope he's happy and at peace.

The way I see it is that my son was
very ill, mentally and his illness was just as real as someone who has cancer or any other illness.

I honestly believe that he didn't want to to die, he wanted his pain to end, just like someone who has an illness and chooses to go to a clinic.

I dont see why his soul would be any different from anyone else, he wasn't a bad person, just extremely troubled and ill.

Op...if you feel suicidal please seek help, it's a long road, not treated seriously enough but help is there.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and the devastation left behind, well I can't even begin to describe it.

I honestly hope you can get the help you need, and I wish you all the best for the future because you DO have a future ❤

I'm so sorry about your lovely son. You write so beautifully and what you say makes perfect sense Flowers

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Lewys156 · 09/07/2022 16:12

ElvisWife · 09/07/2022 14:23

I lost my son to suicide, if there is an afterlife and I hope there is, then I hope he's happy and at peace.

The way I see it is that my son was
very ill, mentally and his illness was just as real as someone who has cancer or any other illness.

I honestly believe that he didn't want to to die, he wanted his pain to end, just like someone who has an illness and chooses to go to a clinic.

I dont see why his soul would be any different from anyone else, he wasn't a bad person, just extremely troubled and ill.

Op...if you feel suicidal please seek help, it's a long road, not treated seriously enough but help is there.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and the devastation left behind, well I can't even begin to describe it.

I honestly hope you can get the help you need, and I wish you all the best for the future because you DO have a future ❤

A beautiful message, I am so sorry for the loss of your son and you are completely correct in everything you say. My thoughts are with you and thank you for your kind words 💓

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