AIBU - people having fun on my "birthday" and not inviting me?!

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So AIBU? Lets start a "heated debated"

Everyone I know is invited, invites have my name splashed all over them. Loads of pressies being bought for each other (none for me ). Everyone in the office talking about how they are going to get drunk and live it up ("it's for the kids" is all i hear though i fail to see why kids would want people to stock up on masses of beer/wine/vodka, when they cant have it lol) and now i hear that some invites have gone out and my name isnt even on them !!

What do you think? Should i be upset, or sit at home pleased that well at least people are having a good time, even if some of those that are going dont even know me?

Oh and the best of it is - they haven't even bothered to get my birth date right!! The organisers of the bash have chose a day that they know is the birthday of someone who hates me .

Why do people do this, and then continually moan about having to do it - even when I havent asked them to?

sorry for the long rant

Ah, but Lissie, depends what they're celebrating, surely? I mean, if people want to celebrate my baby sons birthday, it would matter if they decided that the best way to celebrate would be to turn up to the house completely blotto, eat all my food and then leave without even acknowledging any of it, or my baby son...

i think it is an interesting if confusingly worded question

but we are celebrating the life of a man not a child.

I am still confused as to "The organisers of the bash have chose a day that they know is the birthday of someone who hates me"

i think it refers to christmas day being decided as the 25th to incorporate pagan and roman celebrations.

Lissie, I'm hoping my baby son will be a man one day, too, and I still wouldn't want people to celebrate his birth by getting out of their gourds drunk, enjoying my food and sodding off without even acknowledging it.

I'm just saying that the how does matter in these circumstances.

Having said that, if, on the day most people celebrate my son's birthday, there's a number of parties for realistically unrelated reasons, it's none of my business how they choose to party

well no it doesnt. your son and his friends will celebrate by getting drunk when he is grownup. and thats not a bad way to celebrate.

i am not particularly religious but will go to church on christmas day. imho the decline in numbers of people actively worshipping is down to the way that the churches are run. christmas has developed over the years into more than just a celebration of christ's life. it is a celebration of family, love, and joy. what is wrong with that?

and for every 10 people who use it as an excuse to get lashed there are children who re-enact the birth of christ/sing carols and ask their parents about it.

No, I agree with you, Lissie. But it's an interesting discussion, despite the cheesy-chain-letter nature of the original posting.

If my son ever celebrates anything by getting drunk I shall feel a complete bleedin' failure.

Take the hint - they don't really like you which is why they haven't invited you

lol sue, my sons never going out