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Can't shake off the guilt for leaving

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Helen812 · 06/08/2021 22:32

Hi, just looking for some encouragement/kind words.
I have moved out of the family home and into my own place. This is the first weekend in it and I am feeling all sorts of things. Whilst I am loving my own space, I am feeling strange, sad that it has come to this, guilty for taking my 6 year old son out of his home and guilty for leaving my ex partner.
Night times are the hardest, as I think of my ex partner sitting in his house completely alone and probably drinking (he has alcohol dependency)
I initiated the break up as I have been unhappy for a long time about loads of things so it wasn't a quick decision.
My ex is not a bad person, works hard and wasn't abusive but just had so many issues and I basically just fell out of love with him.
I don't want to be with him anymore but I just can't get rid of this guilt at what I have done to my son and ex. I know deep down this was the right thing to do for me as we were basically just living like housemates who constantly bickered.
Has anyone been through this? Does the guilt go away?

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Kite22 · 06/08/2021 23:58

I think it is very normal.
It is normal to "grieve" for the relationship, and for what you imagined your life would be like.
Even when you are 100% sure it is the 'right' decision, it doesn't mean there isn't some sadness at that loss.
As with grief, you will go through a series of emotions.

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