Request for prayer

[creambunnie]

Hi everyone

Not sure if I am posting in the right section but I would greatly appreciate prayers for me.... my marriage has been on the rocks for the past 13 years and now has finally sunk....

I have tried and tried over and over and persisted to see if things would get better but finally feel the time has come to call it a day...(after another bad evening which left me very upset)....

Can anyone give me practical guidance as to where I stand or what I should do??? We have a baby under a year old and own our property (well paying mortgage).

Love and thanks
xxx

((((hug))))) do you work??? or do you think you will need to go on benefits??? have you thought about how much he will be eligable for maintenance??? can you afford to stay in the house

I work part-time and pay a childminder for 3 out of 4 days... to be honest don't know how it will work out... just want to live a peaceful happy life.

I really don't want to sell our house - how would I know what amount of maintenance he would need to pay??

Thanks xx

go the the csa website and calculate how much you would get with the figure he earns x

hi creambunnie,
I'll gladly pray for you!((((((((hug)))))))

thank you both - appreciate your help.

Why is life so hard??

Hubby has had depression (severe) and got many issues - also hiding alcohol.... got beautiful baby however... just try to keep justify staying for her sake but now realise I have to be at my best for her sake and know in my heart of hearts nothing will change and its time to call it a day.

Am soooo scared though!!

PRAY for us - thanks xxxx

The bravest thing you've done is look at your baby and know you want the best for her, and that's you, moving away from a painful relationship where everyone is hurting. You are the best role model she'll have. Have faith.

creambunnie - praying for you and your beautiful baby...

May God protect and guide you both and bring you happiness.

thank you so much for your prayers and support. So painful and difficult a time xxx

How are you now creambunnie?

Hi, had bad day at work - just couldnt concentrate on anything and had such a sore head.

DH still here tho bags packed. Can't bear to see him go!!! but there again we aren't living happily. Love him but feel stuck in situ! It aint working together but feel cant live with or without!

I am resolute one minute then terrified to be without him. Guess its head rules heart then heart rules head?!!

This has been the same pattern for 13+ years!!!

Am soooo stuck - what to do, whats best?!!

Any ideas?? xx

anyone been in similar situation? or can advise from experience???? x

Oh creambunnie, so sorry to hear this. Have no experience at all, but can imagine how terrifying it must be. Couldn't not answer and let you know I'm praying for you. Is there any chance of making this a trial? Have you anywhere to go for a week or so, just to ring the changes?
Sorry if this doesn't help at all.
Love and blessings

Will your dh seek counselling with you? Relate are wonderful and will listen. If he has problems with depression and alcohol, then he needs to address these too. From what I know, these problems tend to undermine any relationships unless they are brought out into the open, and addressed.

You have been strong for your daughter, but that strength will also help your dh to confront what is happening in his life too.

I will say a prayer for you.

Praying sweetie. xxxx

Come here and chat to us! xx

Thanks everyone - that is such a comfort - especially that you take the time to pray for our situation.

Woke up this morning and felt as if the whole situation had a "light" on it - could see the weighty issues hanging over us - which are controlling the relationship and killing it - and realising how we need to have control over each one.

Had long talk, neither of us want to split, both love each other but agree that we arent happy - so need to get control of these issues or it will never change.

To be honest I am sceptical but am hanging on in there in the meantime.

I know I am very sensitive and easily hurt but there again I am human and its hard to cope with the depression side on his part.

Will try to find out about RELATE in our area - it seems to be a positive way forward but please continue to pray - I believe it was after your prayers when I woke this morning feeling that I could see the situation more clearly. However, only realise this after reading your replies tonight.

Thanks so very much xxxxxxxx

Relate may well take some time to come through. In the meantime, could you just try and be pleasant to each other? Do something nice together? Go for a walk with the baby?
Continuing to pray for you.

Aw Creambunnie, that is good to read. (Love your name, by the way!) Depression is incredibly hard to live with, I know. (I have suffered from depression in the past, and know how taxing it is for others - though it's hard to see that at the time.) It makes you very self centred and needy, and blurs your perspective on things too, so that you react in ways you in ways you dont expect or understand. But it can be managed, and you can come through the other side. Mixing alcohol with it, as you know, is not a good idea(!) but if your dh is prepared to accept that and understand that to do so is likely to damage your relationship and your family, and if he is prepared to work with you, then you may have found a starting point to moving forward.

So glad that you feel our prayers have helped. It is a wonderful feeling knowing that we've have put our lives in the loving arms of the One who made us and loves us. Praying that you can lean on Him as you move forward. Will keep on praying for you and yours.

Echoing DO's advice. It's easy to get out of the habit of doing nice little things together. (Dunking strawberries in melted chocolate together as pudding is one of my favourite little special treats, and getting out into fresh air for a walk can be healing - and good for depression, too.)

Hugs. God bless.

xxxx