Ramadan next week

[bigmamama]

Hey .. just wondered if there was any Muslim mums with young children, that are dreading fasting with the lockdown and the kids and husbands being home 24/7 ?
It will be my first Ramadan as a reverted Muslim and I have a 3yo ( soon to be 4) an 8mth old and a husband at home.
I'm dreading it as my husband will be like a bear with a sore head and I'm assuming this will be made worse been stuck at home with me and the kids not being able to go out to work to keep occupied, I'm dreading the long days for myself as I'm up at 6 am with the baby and I'm often up once or twice during the night to feed the baby and I go to bed around about 9pm each night anyway.
Anyone else in the same boat at all?

We usually cool activities and day outs a lot during ramadan, and husband often takes last 2 weeks off. I would suggest he leaves the coffee a few days before so he can at least take paracetamol for his headache. Also try change ur family timings, either keep baby up late so u dont wake up so early or schedule nap time in the afternoon.
Usually my husband would rest in the early afternoon and i rest in the last 1-2 hours before iftar. Prepare some activities for the 4 year old, some garden games,and inshaAllah it will go well

Yeah we don't normally do much anyway during Ramadan even though itl be ds birthday, but even no school and no work for my husband is filling me with dread having to be home pretty much housebound is giving me anxiety. Baby is pretty much in a good routine so I don't want to disrupt that and my dh usually works right up until Eid as he feels it occupies him and makes him feel better. I'm sure he'll sleep in later in the mornings when he can but i myself and dreading the very long days with no food and drink with 2 young kids.

If you are breastfeeding you don't need to fast if you feel you can't, and can make up for it at a later date or feed one person for each day you have missed.
It is hard with little ones and even more so now we're all cooped up 24/7
Do what you feel is right for you and your family x salaam

I'm no longer breast feeding but I do get up about 1.30 am to feed him a bottle and he gets up for the day at 6. My 3 yo suffers with night terrors so he's up usually about 2/3 times a night also and usually settles with one of us in his bed. Just worried this is going to make everything so much harder

Ramadan Mubarak

It’s going to be very trying this year. DH n DS usually eat every night in mosque so won’t be able to do that which is even more cooking for me.
I find the worse thing is DH denying he is grumpy when he totally is. Let’s hope weather isn’t too hot like a couple of years ago.

Have you fasted before? U say its ur first ramadan. Often fasting sounds harder then it is .

I haven't fasted for a full 30 days no. But I'm dreading it more so with no school no routine and lockdown

I remember the ramadhan the year I had dd3 she was a month old and dd1/dd2 were 8yrs and 5 yrs and it was during the August holidays

It was hard as I was exclusively bf too but Allah gave me the strength to fast the whole month and complete my prayers too. Try and find some time in the day to yourself to rest and don’t feel obliged to cook fantastic meals everyday. Your health and well being are more important. Keep your faith in Allah He will help you through

If your OH is not working he can take care of some of the night feedings and wakenings? So that will ease your burden surely?

@speakout I wish... he's said I can have a nap in the afternoon! He's planning on sleeping until 9/10 am the baby has been getting up at 5.30 for the day this week too.

he's said I can have a nap in the afternoon

Seriously? Why won't he share the night time parenting?

I wouldn't put up with that OP.

I don't have the energy to argue. I got up at 3.30 to eat Back to bed at 4 and then lo got up for the day at 5.30
I'm so tired and hungry !!

bigmamama

Why put up with this?

Just wondering what the phrase 'reverted Muslim' means, does it mean you are a convert?
I hope you have a good Ramadan, I admire your perseverance, because I would t last five minutes.

Toddlerteaplease,
Islam believes that we are all born in a state of purity (unlike Christianity which believes we are born with original sin) and belong to Allah. Therefore converts are said to “revert” back to Allah as it was their original state rather than “convert” and change to Islam. It’s ok to use either term but revert is more welcoming and inclusive which can help some people when they take the step of converting.

Ah, thanks for explaining that. It's puzzled me for a while.