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Not sure about the actual church part

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Puppy78 · 29/12/2019 21:43

Over the past year I've become a Christian and have been going to church about 3 months. I enjoy reading the Bible and listening to Christian podcasts but I get very little from the actual church part. I really like the people on the church but I don't get very much from the hymns and don't take communion and find that aspect a but awkward. Should I keep going, and wait until it clicks? Or can I get just as much from Christianity without church?

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PresidentBartlett · 29/12/2019 21:58

What type of church are you going to? Maybe a different denomination would suite you better. Church should help you grow in your faith not leave you feeling like this.

BackforGood · 29/12/2019 22:23

I would try a few different Churches, as they can all be so different.

That said, if you have found a community of people you like, and enjoy spending time with, then that, in itself can be as good a reason as any to go to a Church Smile

ZenNudist · 30/12/2019 10:35

Need more info. What type of church are you going to. Why not work up to taking communion

If you dont enjoy hymn could you go to mass where no singing? I love the hymns as they take me back to childhood. And I like to sing in praise of God. But not all masses have singing. Most Catholic short services I go to on Saturday or Sunday evening are hymn free. Also all of our in the week masses have no hymns and are very short.

You have to enjoy church. So you will want to go. Maybe shop around? Talking to the priest would help if you find a nice one.

It is good to make time for God every week and go somewhere to show devotion. It fits in with the commandment to observe the sabbath.

Puppy78 · 30/12/2019 11:21

I'm going to a Church of England church - the one closest to our home. I would say the service is mostly hymns and communion. I don't take communion as I was never confirmed or christened.

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isittheholidaysyet · 30/12/2019 11:40

Churches are very different and even different services at the same church can be very different.
So do 'shop' around for a while.
It is really important to find a church as the church is the body of Christ. Christians are Christ's body. You cannot be a Christian on your own.
A church should also support you in developing your spiritual life, learning about your faith and living it out.
As you grow in your faith, your understanding may change, and you may find that this church isn't right for you any more. That often happens.

If you are into bible and talks at the moment, then maybe an independent evangelical church or a baptist church might be helpful. (Though they will probably have a strong community element and will talk to you - not everyone likes that of course)

I'm Catholic, our services are very formal, with lots of scripture, but the 'sermon' will not be long or complicated. Communion, (the actual, literal, body blood soul and divinity of Christ) is a big focus. We see our worship as something we do for God.
So although my easiest prayer method is using praise and worship music, I'm happy with chant and hymns and speaking when I go to Mass, because Mass isn't for me. It's for God.

The church of England varies greatly between those that are almost like the independent evangelical or Pentecostal churches and the Roman Catholics, so you need to treat each CofE church as an individual church, when visiting.

Italiangreyhound · 31/12/2019 02:37

@Puppy78 personally I think church is important and it's good to find one you like.

As you have become a Christian" you could explore baptism and confirmation. Then you could take communion in am Anglican church.

If the hymns are a bit old fashioned you could shop around for a church with a worship band.

You are likely to find a more charismatic church will have livelier worship. Any churches running Alpha courses may be more charismatic.

The thing I have found helpful (personally) is to be part of a church mid week group. These are usually small, 8-14 people, often called home group or house group, often meeting in a person's own home rather than a church, and often on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday night.

Good luck. Flowers

alexdgr8 · 31/12/2019 02:47

you would need to follow a course of instruction to prepare for baptism and confirmation, which are sometimes carried out at the same service for adults, often at Easter.
have a word with one of the leaders at your church.
perhaps you don't like the style of hymns, or there are services without hymns, usually earlier, 8am, but then there is less fellowship too.
speak to people at your church for their suggestions as to how it could become more meaningful for you.

Peakypolly · 31/12/2019 03:02

I am a member of a House Group that meets for two hours one day a week. We are a mix of SAHP, part-time workers and retirees. I gain much more from this than attending a Church Service (and I believe Jesus said that wherever people gather in worship is fine, no particular building necessary- or words to that effect?). My C of E Church has 4 or 5 of these groups that meet at different times and we have Methodist, Baptist and Catholic members. I would ask if your Church,or any in your vicinity, have a group that would fit in with your week.

Booberella9 · 31/12/2019 03:44

You can be baptised as an adult. Do you feel comfortable with the church you're going to? Have a chat with the leader(s) about doing it.

I go to a non denominational church which regularly baptises adults, it doesn't do confirmation and there are no pre requisites for taking communion on the odd occasion it's done. C of E isn't the only creed on those things.

Italiangreyhound · 31/12/2019 03:46

Yes, you can be baptised by sprinkling or by immersion.

NannyR · 31/12/2019 09:53

I agree with the suggestion of finding a house group - I have been a member of a small group (five women) that meet every week, we have tea and cake, a bit of a natter, study the bible and pray together. I go to church every week but being part of this group has been where I have grown the most as a Christian.
A long time ago I used to be of the mindset that I could be a Christian without being part of a church, that praying and reading my bible alone was enough, however I've realised that being part of a fellowship and community of Christians is so important to me, not only for what I can get from other people, but for the support and fellowship I can offer other people (if that makes sense!), it's a two way thing.

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