Kids got rid of my depression

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I'm a married woman with darling twins.
Throughout my 20s I think I was depressed. Twins woke me up. Don't know if anyone else understands this concept or if anyone else feels like this about their kids?

Anyhow, I now want to explore, I am ready for my career or my life. I felt like I was ticking boxes before. I feel like it's impossible for me to have a life and career now though. Any advice? This was deeper than I expected.

Were you actually clinically depressed or just low and aimless?

Low and aimless

Have you read any books or seen any videos about Dr Shefali Tsabary? She writes about our children coming to us to wake us up. I found her work immensely moving.

Opposite for me. I'm more depressed than ever after having DD (4).

I think it's the lack of freedom, chaos and constantly trying to entertain and clean up after a young child that overwhelms me.

Yes, my children give me purpose. It has had same effect on me.

I was in a rut before. I appreciate my experience isn't a majority view though.

That's really lovely OP! How wonderful and refreshing to hear. I don't feel quite the same but, apart from one very bad night when dc1 was about three weeks old and I was on my own with her (and thinking the classic "what have I done? I've ruined my life") I've always felt my life post children was better than pre-children. Even though pre-children I had more friends, a better social life, a more interesting career, weighed 2 stone less, had tons more money and the time and energy to spend it, more sleep, more freedom yada yada - the very existence of children makes up for a hell of a lot!!

Yes! Completely agree OP. Once DD arrived I felt grounded for the first time since I became an adult. Things made more natural sense to me, there was less overthinking and more direction, more confidence too. It was like a cloud had lifted and with it went my (mild but persistent) depression. I often wondered if it could be at least partly explained by a hormonal imbalance having righted itself?