Gratitude to the universe

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crossroads1 · 15/12/2019 15:35

Hi all, I wanted to share something and gain a different perspective from you all. I have posted before in a diff category about being left for OW last year. Ex was verbally absuive, alcoholic, cheater, manipulative but also depressive and said I was the only good thing in his life. Cut a long story short he is still with OW and it seems they are going happily ever after - if their social media is anything to go by.

I was struggling with my ego being so badly bruised after this happened because I wanted recent for them to crash and burn after what they did to me. However this morning I felt such a wave of gratitude that I am rid of him and that I don't ever have to have those arguments, tears and worrying about what he was up to ever again. I have met someone new who is beautiful both inside and out and I am so grateful to the universe for him cheating on me. If it wasn't for that I would have stayed and probably married him and lived a miserable life.

It still hurts my ego and of course I want karma to get them both back but I am also very happy that he did what he did. I know get to look at my beautiful other halfs face and get to laugh and smile with him. Do you think the universe plays a part in all this? Has anyone bene in my position and felt so SO happy your ex cheated?

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Lifecraft · 15/12/2019 15:53

The universe doesn't know or care about you or me or planet earth or anything on it. It just trundles on, as it did for 8 billion years before this spec of rock we call home existed, and like it will do for trillions of years after the sun has swallowed us up.

As far karma is concerned, if it exists, you need to ask yourself what you did that was so bad, to end up with such a terrible partner for the time you had him.

But don't bother, as karma is made up nonsense.

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crossroads1 · 15/12/2019 16:05

@Lifecraft Wow I thought this was meant to be the philosophical topic area.

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Skyejuly · 16/12/2019 07:59

Yes. Absolutely. It took a long time but my ex cheating turnt out to be my best cross road ever. One that gave me a new chance and also a reflection on my own strength. I very much believe that the universe gives us what we need. I needed that final push to escape.
Of course the universe plays a part. We are all Bourne of the same parts after all.

Skyejuly · 16/12/2019 07:59

Karma is not necessarily our wrong doing but years of generational and ancestral patterns of behaviour that we can shift and change.

DDIJ · 16/12/2019 08:16

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Skyejuly · 16/12/2019 11:20

How long had it been DDIJ. What has happened. How can it get better? Xx

noego · 16/12/2019 12:03

Let go of the ego and the idea of karma and you'll feel more happier.

ZenNudist · 17/12/2019 21:59

The best revenge is living well. If you are happy and dont give a crap about him then you are winning. Get on with your life.

It's too glib to say you should forget about him. Acknowledge that he was part of your life and that part of your life is over and that you are happy and then try and move on. Whilst you are are hoping for "bad karma" for him and her you are still holding onto the past and you were still letting him win.

I am glad that things are working out for you. I hope it's not just because you've got a new man and it really is because you got rid of your evil ex.

playdead · 29/12/2019 14:34

DDIJ you've done absolutely nothing wrong. You don't "deserve" bad things because of something bad that you or your ancestors did. There's no such thing as karma.

Freeing myself from all of that belief stuff was the best thing that ever happened to me. Karma doesn't exist. The universe doesn't give a crap whether us specks of dust live or die. If there was a god why would he/she/it allow babies to be abused. Think about it.

Is there anything that you could do to help with the aftermath you are dealing with DDIJ?

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