essbee - you could buy some fake flowers and put essential oil on them, then you get the smells but without having to chuck the whole thing away every few days. Will email you about this stuff, but my addled brain keeps getting confused - can I email you on your msn email addy or should I use your other one (which I've totally lost)?
shortcake - spending money isn't the answer to everything, granted, but some things DO help and very little in life comes for free. You may not believe in crystals or anything else people suggest but other people feel differently - crystals have been used for millenia to help in life so they can't be written off as 'not working' - whether their effect is 'real' or psychosomatic is not the point when all you want is to feel better. And also, many people feel tied down to negative energy by furniture and objects - its been well documented in cases of crime victims for a start. If you can feel more positive by just changing your mental attitude then great but some people, me included, find it a huge help to 'do' something too, and IMO that shouldn't be criticized. When I left my ex I took barely anything with me (just necessities) and didn't even want any of 'our' furniture because I felt sick at the sight and no positive thinking could shake that for me - like papillon says it really is different strokes for different folks.