It is quite tough sometimes to ^not^ have religious or spiritual belief

[newlifenewname]

I follow no religion and believe in nothing beyond that which can be scientifically proven, as a rule.

I'm coming to terms with the death of someone very close - someone I'd desperately like to talk to again.

There are things I want them to know and believe and I find myself talking aloud to them but this lacks any comforting effect because I cannot convince myself they might be able to hear me.

I don't want to have religion to prop me up but I can see why one might turn to it.

The simple facts of death are very hard to face without the veneer of hope.

Well we agree again on another subject NLNN!

I actually am amazed that people find comfort in religion when someone dies-I think I would be the reverse and questioning why,why why.

I lost my Mum very suddenly and there was so much I wanted to say and for her to know.

It's 2yrs now and I did go through a phase fo going to mediums but surprise,surprise,nothing happened to make me feel any better.

About 14mts after her death,the cloud lifted a littel and I read book by Mia Dolan (will try to check which one) and it really did change my perspective.

I lent it to another friend who had a similar situation and she found it a help too.

If I can dig it out (if friend doesn't still have it) I will post it to you.

Hiya Whoosh!

I'd really appreciate that, thank you.

I had the idea of a medium pop into my head for a split second too but I realised as you did that that isn't going to be the way to go for me.

I sort of wish it was but I know it isn't and I'll probably just feel even more helpless and at a loss.

And, sorry to hear that you lost your mum. Mum is a very tough one to have to say goodbye to I'm sure. I feel for you.