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New Christian - seeking advice on delicate matter

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isitmee · 03/03/2019 15:09

I have recently became a Christian and it's been the most life changing beautiful thing I have ever experienced. I am seeking guidance daily through prayer, reading the word and attending the church on Sunday.

Something has caught me off guard and I am praying a lot about it and finding passages in the bible which are helping me but I cannot shift this.

This past week I felt a heart string get tugged by a male within the church. It wasn't a physical attraction, more an accumulation of lots of lovely characteristics I noticed then some brief conversation. But it got me. I see lots of good talent and godly people in the church. I've had many conversations with people of the opposite sex and felt absolutely fine. This one person I feel different. I feel something in my heart. I have prayed a lot, a lot! But I keep getting what's almost fantasies in my mind, not sexual just conversations and they keep coming. I keep praying to keep myself in the present day, be content with the situation I am in etc and believe and trust gods will for me completely. But then it comes again. I've literally just spent an hour with my bible getting grounded again. Put the bible away and out comes another fantasy in my head of him feeling the same way as me.

What is going on? How do I stop this? And for the record I have absolutely no idea whether this person is even remotely interested in me.

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isitmee · 03/03/2019 15:10

I should add, I don't want to speak to anyone in the church about this as it's a bit embarrassing. I've been there a month and seem to have fallen for someone. I wasn't even looking! And I don't know what they would think of me or wether it would be kept confidential. I assume it probably would as they ar good people but still, it's a bit delicate.

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Confusedbeetle · 03/03/2019 15:16

Well, you just have a good old fashioned crush. Not sure God will help you here. If you have a friendship with this person you will eventually find out if they reciprocate or not. Or if they are free or not. Crushes like this do tend to run out of steam so dont do anything rash. No harm in friendship though. Don't tell anyone it won't help and could cause the person embarrassment which would drive them away. Relax and be friends

isitmee · 03/03/2019 15:22

I don't want to have a crush, I feel like it's happened against my will. No friendship as yet, really just getting to know everyone. He approached me a couple of times Es last week and we sat and spoke with each other for quite a bit then this week it seems like he's actively tried to avoid me so not so sure if I'll even manage a friendship out of it.

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slippermaiden · 03/03/2019 18:41

Nothing wrong with the feelings you have, just keep attending your church, and reading the Bible. What will be will be x

Passtheknitting · 04/03/2019 19:09

I don't want to have a crush

We cant help how we feel and really whats the harm ? You can choose to do something about it or not but crushes are normal !

Jason118 · 05/03/2019 01:39

Don't align this to your religious beliefs, it's just a human thing, it's just happening in the sphere of religion, your church. It's nowt to do with god Smile

isitmee · 05/03/2019 21:07

Ok thank you. Everything is so new and fresh at the minute, I'm taking everything as a sign from God 🙈 where as it's just one of those normal thins that happens in life, it's how I deal with it that's important right? In this case, absolutely nothing!

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FriarTuck · 06/03/2019 13:28

Maybe God wants you to get to know him better, either for friendship or for more? Or maybe it's just one of those things. Keep it to yourself, enjoy whatever it brings and don't worry.
For what it's worth I'm pretty smitten with someone at my church, only she's straight and happily-married! Doesn't stop me having happy thoughts (safe in the knowledge that nothing would ever come of it). And if God wasn't happy with it he'd not have led me to that church in the first place. It's just a mental source of enjoyment.

Charliebong · 24/03/2019 09:24

Isitme you are not alone in this, I'm in a very similar position...I just act "normally" and enjoy it for what it is...but you never know!

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