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[CalvinJohn]

I've not been to church for a while. My normal church would be Baptist but willing to try others.

My issue is I feel judged. I'm 41, not married and with no children. I also cant work just now due to health issues. You can see people sneak away when they hear my answers.

My other problem is I live in Aberdeen so I don't even have Christian friends. Any advice would be great. Thank you.

It's awful to feel judged OP. Sometimes others like to put people in certain boxes. Confuses them if you aren't in one! I don't know your area so not sure what's available. Have you done an online search?

Even if there aren't the larger churches available there might be smaller groups that meet up. Or if you're feeling confident enough, to start your own group where you could meet up to discuss/read out. There's a Christian board on here, they seem supportive.

No one should be judging you OP but unfortunately it does happen, Christian aren't perfect that's for sure (that's why we need Jesus!). Sometimes people might not be judging you but just getting know you by asking questions or trying to make conversation.
Try these people
christianity.org.uk/
they were very helpful for me when I was asking questions. They can help you find a church that might suit.

Have you thought about popping into a Buddhist centre? It might give you some peace and calm.
You will certainly not be judged.

Is there something about Aberdeen I should know? Or are you new to the area so don't know many people generally?

I wonder whether some of the judgement is actually just people running out of things to ask about? People can have a fairly restricted set of conversational openers, and run out after weather, work and family. If you had a couple of things lined up to talk about that may help. Perhaps interesting places nearby, or asking about activities at the church.

I hope you find somewhere you can feel comfortable. If you are able to join any church groups or help with any activities that will make it much easier to make friends.

St. Peter’s Catholic Church in Aberdeen has an Adult Faith Formation group meeting every Monday evening at 7:30pm. This is for people who want to grow in their faith and meet others for friendship and fellowship. You can just go along or call the parish and ask to speak to the organizer to make a connection before you go. Everybody welcome.

Actually I’m not sure if they are meeting in the coming week, please be sure to call the parish and check, you will be very welcome.

Thanks for the advice. Much appreciated.