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My husband believes Tom Campbell

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quitebotheredbythis · 28/11/2018 19:55

I'm not sure whether this should actually be in Relationships or here... sorry if this is wrong.

There's a man called Tom Campbell who has what he says is a Theory of Everything, which in the words of Wikipedia "claims to unify general relativity, quantum mechanics, and metaphysics along with the origins of consciousness. The work is based on the simulation argument, which posits that reality is both virtual and subjective." He's described as a physicist by fans- he has an undergrad degree in physics, no postgraduate qualifications, no peer reviewed studies. I've read detailed arguments between supporters and people with an actual knowledge of physics and it seems clear his beliefs don't even qualify as a theory. It's pseudoscience at best. (Actually having watched some of the man's videos I think he's quite unwell.)

Dh recently made some really positive life changes, one of which was taking up meditation. It has really helped him. He's been so much calmer and more positive, kinder and more thoughtful. Which was brilliant, until a few weeks ago in googling to learn more about meditation he stumbled across this TOE stuff and has for some reason been sucked in to it.

Meditation is great. I'm aware there are actual theories about a simulated universe. But the stuff he is reading and regurgitating and trying to get me to believe and honestly thinks is doing some sort of magic in his life is just utter bullshit. The forum where most of these people chat is insane. And cult like. And dissent is not welcome.

I have had to tell DH that I do not wish to talk or hear about the man, his ideas, the forum discussions and the effect DH think it is all having on him, ever again. He knows I believe it is rubbish. He still wants to tell me about it. He wants us to buy him the books for Xmas. When he gets started on it he's so smug and condescending and he thinks he is being nice and patient and gently helping me to see the error of my beliefs.... argh!

I am really quite bothered by all this and I am not sure what to do other than refuse to discuss or hear or read about it and hope DH at some point realises it's all tosh. But maybe I should be aggressively challenging it?

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Petalflowers · 28/11/2018 19:58

Can you explain to him how and why youmdon’t believe it?

quitebotheredbythis · 28/11/2018 20:06

Yes, I've started trying a few times and he replies with the sort of things they tell one another on the forum: I don't believe because I don't get it, I don't get it because I haven't read all the books and done all the meditations and lived according to their system for ages and ages. It's one of those situations where any argument you make against the belief, that somehow proves even more that you just don't understand it and you need to act as if you believe it until you do.

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PipGoesPop · 28/11/2018 20:17

Why not just agree to disagree and don't discuss with each other. He thinks he's found the answer to life love and the universe and you think it's utter bollocks. Well there you go, who's to say which one of you is right. The universe might be a simulation, it's a possibility. It might not. It doesn't matter.

I make a point of never discussing politics with certain people because we have such a different way of coming at things that we always think each other is bonkers for not seeing it asit really is. Agree to disagree. Talk about other stuff.

quitebotheredbythis · 28/11/2018 20:31

I've asked to agree that we disagree and never discuss it. He's the one who wants to go on about it!

The universe might be a simulation, it's a possibility. Yeah, as I said, that's true and not the issue. The detail of the beliefs is. I guess I just see this as the start of a very slippery slope.

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coolcrispwinter · 02/12/2018 08:51

Could you just when you speak to him do so as if he is discussing an interesting allegorical fiction which has themes which make you think about life? Like The Handmaid's Tale?

You said the detail of the belief is the problem. What specifically do you dislike the most in the way this detail manifests in his behaviour?

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