Help! I have THE worst crush on my priest...

[ThisReallyIsNotOn]

Happily married, believing Catholic here.

Have known this priest for two years. He's around the same age as me, we have the same inappropriate sense of humour, get on very well indeed and are both extremely devout.

I stress he has done absolutely nothing to encourage this, he's behaved without reproach - and, to be fair, apart from my heart beating like a feckless teen when he's around, so have I.

I am totally befuddled by this - I haven't had a crush like this in years, and I'm not enjoying it nearly as much as I might because it's so wildly out of order and unhelpful. I can't even do what I would perhaps do if it was anyone else - go to confession and deal with the guilt!

He's leaving next year, and I am so relieved by that, it's ridiculous. But I am a bundle of conflicting emotions and unbidden naughty thoughts, and totally unable to talk to anyone about it!!!

Heartsease68, that's what makes me not want to pursue it.

Sexnotgender, yes it is a heady combination...I rarely meet guys I like enough to date,...trust me to pick a vicar

In my head, priests are like Action Man (man-shaped but without working appendages! ). I know they aren't really, because they'd explode from not being able to wee, but that's how my mind works. Obviously, they also have painted-on clothes!

charliebong I really really hope you can see more reasons than that for not wanting to pursue it.

I'm not sure what you mean heartsease68?

Are you saying it's an all round bad idea?

Well charliebong something has just occurred to me which would change it of course - are priests allowed to get married in your faith tradition? Otherwise yes I think so because he's chosen his vocation and livelihood and that should be respected.

I took it as he was C of E and the likes, so able to have relations. :-)
Aww gawd have I been advising you to make a move on a Catholic priest

CoE and CoS are allowed to marry.

If I've got the wrong end of the stick then go for it :)

Go to mass in a different parish.

Lol not Catholic nooooooo!!! The very thought! Yes he's c of e, thanks for everyone's time, your thoughts are much appreciated.

Be aware, Charliebong, that if you're finding it difficult to get him on his own, that might be one of the boundaries he's putting up. I should think a single vicar probably gets a lot of female attention. Pray about it, if it's God's plan it will happen. If it's not, I'm sure you don't want the embarrassment.

Pray about it, if it's God's plan it will happen. If it's not, I'm sure you don't want the embarrassment. Pray by all means but not to go for things through fear of embarrassment surely isn't a good idea. Free will and all that. Feel the fear and do it anyway

Regretting things you've not even had a go and tried at least is sad I think.

Yes cheapskatemum these are the exact thoughts I have and I do pray for guidance...thank you.

I think it is a common thing, Priests having people crush on them. Anyone in a position of power has this frequently.

I remember hearing once that to many women of faith there is nothing more attractive than a strong man of God, and I have to agree. The fact that they are not only in a leadership position but are also seemingly unlikely to ever give in to temptation is part of it I think, every woman wants to be treated like a princess and such upright men make the perfect princes.

I'd be very clear on it charlie before you give out any signals in case it makes things awkward, he may have decided on a life of being single. My dad is a vicar and ladies young and old would fall all over him, something about the cassock I guess ....that and the care and support and leadership they show. It's certainly a good way to never run out of cake or whiskey (he likes the odd whiskey and used to get 18+ bottles every Christmas from various parishioners).